- If you're a true Younger fan, you know what time it is.
I'm Taylor Strecker, and I'm here to take you
way behind the scenes of each week's episode.
This is your Getting Younger after show.
Tonight, Josh officially became a baby daddy,
so we've assembled our Younger mom panel
to help us process how it all went down.
Welcome, Sutton, Hillary, Debi, and Miriam.
Hi, guys. - Hi.
- Hi mamas, I should say.
And since Getting Younger exists
entirely for you Younger fans,
we want everybody watching along
to join the conversation in the comments
and tell us about your thoughts about tonight's episode.
Okay, ladies, let's get into it.
Let's start at the end, because it was kind of a big deal.
Claire has Josh's baby, and Diana gave us all the feels.
Take a look.
- Dreams we have as a child,
dreams we pack
- [Diana] in a box for college.
Dreams you unpack when you move into your first apartment.
Who you'll meet, where you'll work,
who you'll fall in love with.
Think you have it all figured out?
Life has better ideas, a bigger imagination,
takes bigger chances than someone like me a year ago,
moving through her 40s in a cloud of old ideas.
Life gives you more than you thought.
But maybe not in the package you expected.
- [Maggie] Liza.
- [Diana] It's deeper than that.
It's what you need underneath the want.
(knocking on door)
It gives you what you can't breathe without.
- Do you mean this?
- Yes.
- Even this part?
Where you say you're not looking for the man of your dreams?
That what you care about now is the man at night,
sleeping next to you, dreaming?
- Yes.
I mean it.
Every word.
- Get over here.
- You get over here.
(laughs)
- Cutie.
- I love you guys together.
- I know, it's so good. - Aw.
- I get emotional.
- Am I heartless, that I'm like aw, I love that
dressing gown?
(laughing)
- Oh my God, the robe?
- It's really good. - I love it too.
- I get good robes too, yeah.
- Where is it?
I don't know.
I can't find it anymore.
- So as we saw, Diana has this realization
that life doesn't always go as planned, and that's okay.
So what has motherhood taught you all
about that life lesson?
- It's gone exactly as it planned.
I planned everything.
It's exactly the way that I planned it.
- It's all the way we imagined too.
- Yeah, no, it's like tell God your plans, make him laugh.
That's what it's been for me.
You just can't plan it.
- And you're right, you think it's going to be one way,
and then it completely surprises you, and then you realize,
oh, it was always supposed to be that way.
And so it's, you have to let go.
- Let go.
- Yeah, you have to let go.
- It's a complete loss of control
in the way of like, you're like,
well, I keep you safe, I take care of you forever now,
but you have to totally let go
and not have control over the situation.
They teach you. - And that's hard.
- They're the ones that are in the hot seat,
and you're like okay. - It's true.
Yeah.
I mean, I'll be here to just, like, you know,
but you have to do it all,
and that's the hard part. - And they get to be them.
And they have to be them, which is so exciting to watch.
- I just feel like you can birth them, and you raise them,
and then at a certain point, they're like bye.
And they become their own people.
- No. - No, no, no, no.
No, no, no.
- And you're just like, wow, oh my God,
they're taking flight and it's so hard to let go.
- We have kids at, like, every phase.
So it's like baby, and then toddler, and then little kids
and then slightly tweens, and then teens,
and then just adults, almost.
- It's crazy. - Yeah.
- We've got it all covered.
- You've got it all covered.
So I heard a rumor that your kids
pop by set every now and then.
- Yes. - Yeah.
- Who has the bubbas on the most?
- I have a lot of bubbas.
- Yeah.
- The babies are coming, and little Emily.
- Emily comes to visit, my daughter comes to visit,
almost every day.
- My girls came when I was directing.
I really wanted to have them see that.
- They actually acted out the scene.
- I had them act out the scene.
- They did, and they acted out--
- She showed us how,
and the position. - And then we did.
- Okay, now you get up and talk to...
Okay, I'm gonna do that.
That was how I blocked the scenes.
- Oh my gosh. - It was perfect.
- Hey, they're there, you gotta use 'em.
- My kids could care less, though.
- Her daughter came to--
- She didn't even sit in the table read.
- She was like bye, I'm gonna take selfies
with the window skyline in the background.
- I was like who's that gorgeous woman with Deb?
For a second I thought it was her daughter,
but it's not, 'cause that's like a woman.
And it was your little one!
- Yeah, she's taller than me.
- Oh my God.
- But they've been around on sets as young kids,
and they only would come to sets
where they wanted something for them.
So I did Jonas Brothers, and they came to that set,
because they were crazy about them then.
They wanted to meet the cast. - They're users.
They're users and abusers.
(laughing)
- They wanted to meet the cast, and they met you all once.
Done.
Because it's like dark rooms,
cords. - You've gotta be quiet.
- And I can't focus. - Boring.
- I don't want my kids around.
As babies, I was like get them away, go home.
I don't want them around me.
- No, I want your babies around, because I wanna squish 'em.
- Our hours are so long.
We're often there for 15 hours, and so we get this,
if she doesn't come visit, I won't get to see her.
They'll come for, like, an hour.
- And we get rejuvenated.
- We both go ah!
We get this little burst of adrenaline.
- We all do.
- It's so great.
- We get to be aunties.
- And Emily loves Banks,
and she's always looking for her,
so she'll run down, we're at opposite ends of the hallway,
and she'll be like hel-ray!
And she's looking for Banks.
- What does she say?
- Hel-ray! - Hel-ray!
(laughing)
- That's so sweet.
- It's really nice.
They bring in energy.
- Dogs come visit.
- Everyone has their babies.
Some babies are dogs.
And that's good too.
- It's a family set, family friendly.
- It is.
- When she brings Mabel, because my dogs are all in L.A.,
Banks will sit there and Mabel will lick her face,
and Banks is like,
trying to let her get it in the mouth,
and I'm like, second kid, you know?
- Whatever.
- First kid you're like no!
Then you're like meh.
- I did ask my kids what they liked best about set,
and the youngest one said the fruit snacks.
And I was like, you're gonna be an actor.
(laughing)
- We do always have fruit snacks.
- Also in this episode,
Maggie gets the honor of riding to the hospital with Claire
in an Uber
and witnessing the beautiful miracle that is childbirth.
Debi, tell us about shooting that scene.
- Well, we were actually in the back of a very
tight, tight, small SUV,
and all of a sudden she starts screaming,
and she literally threw her legs, nearly took my teeth out,
pushed her legs onto my shoulders
and her groin into my face, and I'm imagining,
and I used my mother's home birth when I was 12,
to imagine what it looked like,
which was I couldn't unsee that.
- Well, 'cause, actually, yeah--
- I didn't ever want to have kids after that.
I did, but it was really traumatic,
and I pretended like I was looking into my mother's vagina,
which was really weird.
- That's so weird, because that's what I pretended
when I had that really emotional scene with you.
- Oh.
Okay.
- The actress did everything, and she's English,
and she used her Irish accent, perfection.
Every take screaming like a MF the whole time.
It was really impressive.
Screaming, sweating, in her Irish brogue,
and never missed a beat on lifting her leg
and going whomp and not kicking me in the face.
(laughing)
- If someone delivered in an Uber,
do you think you could help them?
- Totally. - You do?
- Oh yeah. - Would you be
grossed out now? - No, not at all.
- [Hillary] You're like, I got this.
- I had kids after I saw that,
but I would hope that I didn't get into that situation.
I think there's a reason.
Hospitals are a great place to be or home
doing your thing. - A clean environment.
- Clean.
But I could totally help.
I can cut the umbilical cord,
tell the girl how to get through it.
Oh, and then Nico, Nico's in the back,
screaming as if someone's having their head cut off.
- Yeah, he's so dramatic. - I'm like, you're watching
your child being born.
Calm down and take in the magic.
It was funny, 'cause--
- I could imagine Nico like huh, huh!
Like that high-pitched thing that he does.
- He's going whoa!
And I'm going like oh my God, oh my God.
Maybe he would react like that, I don't know.
- I feel like that's how my mother reacted
the first time I gave birth.
I was like mom, I'm not National Geographic.
Please, please.
- But you're her daughter, so she's, yeah.
That's so sweet.
- I made everybody stand back here.
- Smart.
- I was like no, you're not gonna be down there.
Like, no.
- Did everybody follow suit?
The same, or no?
Did you want an audience?
- I was--
- Sometimes you just don't care.
- I wasn't really concerned
with what anybody else was doing.
I was giving birth.
So I was like whatever, I got this.
I was very into the idea that I was doing it.
I don't know, does that make sense?
- Totally. - I was like,
oh, I'm doing this.
I think we have a weird story that we tell women
that someone else gives birth to your child.
No, they don't.
I mean, if there's a problem, it's great, they're there,
but they don't do anything, you do it.
You're the one who does it.
So I was like oh, excuse me, I'm doing this.
- I wanted it to be so natural about it.
I brought candles and music and food,
and then the hospital was like you can't have candles.
I'm like, we can't?
(laughing)
Oh.
And then I never dilated, and I had to have a C section
'cause the cord went around her throat.
It was nothing of what I planned.
- Yeah. - Right.
- I just wanted her out.
I was so done. - That's your first step
of letting go as a parent.
- Yeah, exactly.
- You don't get to decide how it goes.
This is how I'd like it to go, but...
And I was always like if the baby wants it a different way,
then the baby can have it a different way.
- Are we supposed to talk about our show?
- Oh yes, actually.
In the show, Kelsey's struggling to feel confident
in her new role at work,
so it's this idea of imposter syndrome,
but I'm gonna bring it back to being a parent.
So I'm sure in parenting you feel
like you have imposter syndrome, right?
So can you share examples of what that feels like?
- Fake it till you make it.
- [Taylor] Every second.
- Every second.
When Emily started speaking and calling me mommy,
I'm like,
who's she talking about? - Who's she talking to?
Or even when she was born and I'd have her in the stroller,
I was like someone's gonna think I stole a baby
or that this is, no one's gonna,
how do I convince people that I'm her mother
and that this is real?
'Cause it's so new!
- Yes.
- It was the craziest feeling.
I mean, now I feel better, but the first year, really,
there was a lot of that.
For me.
- I do look at them and think oh, I'm their mom.
They're gonna think I know stuff.
I'd better act like I do.
Luckily I'm an actor so I can act like it.
- You can act like you know what you're doing.
- I don't, though.
- But it's also refreshing to realize
that our parents didn't know what they were doing either.
- Oh yeah.
And we were terrified of them.
We thought they knew everything.
- Exactly.
- That's why we're crushing it right now.
(laughing)
Seriously.
Luke is terrified of me.
And I have never raised my voice at all.
- How did you command that authority?
- I think it's just you being the parent.
And he must think I'm so old.
When I thought about my parents,
I thought about I'm gonna be old like that one day,
and then I'll have my kids.
But it's just not the case. - I know.
Isn't that funny?
- Now we're at that age where we have the kids,
and we're still ourselves.
- I'm like twice as old as my parents were when they had me.
- Me too. - I'm an old mom.
- Me too.
- I did all the clubbing, and then I had the kids.
- So in that clip also we see Josh
with the baby against his chest.
- That baby is so cute.
- So that's the other thing is it's also so natural.
- [Taylor] I know!
- What you do just comes naturally.
- It does.
- You think you're like am I doing this right?
But yes you are.
It's just in you to--
- You promise? - Yes.
- 'Cause I'm not a mom yet.
- I swear. - You swear?
It just clicks in?
- Yes, you're like you're mine,
and I know what to do. - And you have the village.
You know, you ask your friends.
- There are certain things that if you,
I remember people being like when your baby cries,
you'll know their cry versus another child's cry.
No, they fuckin' won't.
(laughing)
I'd be at the drugstore, hear a baby cry,
and be like, is that my baby?
No, that's not my baby.
My baby's not even here.
Okay, I know.
So then I'd be like well, sometimes I just don't know,
and that's okay too.
- But if you don't know, you call somebody.
That's what you do.
- You have friends.
I couldn't do it without my friends.
Parenting without all my support friends.
- It really does take a village.
Especially if you're a working mom, which we all are,
you have to come to terms that you need help.
And then you hope that you find the people--
- And that asking for help is--
- [Miriam] Yes, okay.
- It actually makes you a better mom.
- Well, I will definitely need a village.
I'll be calling all of you.
(laughing)
- Don't call me.
- Don't call me either, I'm done.
- I'm done, I'm sick of it all.
- Teenage daughters.
The mother of teenage daughters.
- The mother of teenage daughters.
- Yeah, whoo.
- So you all either sing professionally
or are musically inclined.
Were there any favorite lullabies
that you sang or sing to your little ones?
- Oh gosh.
- Yeah.
I mean, yeah.
- You Are My Sunshine, Twinkle Twinkle Little Star,
all the classics.
- I sing a song my mom used to sing to me.
Now I sing it to them.
- What is it?
♪ Ruby skeenie, Iris skeenie ♪
♪ You're just like a fat zucchini ♪
♪ You're so good and nice to know ♪
♪ And you grow and grow and grow and grow and grow ♪
- That's nice.
- And then they're like, name everyone in the family!
I'm like Uncle Frankie Skeenie, aunt--
- Oh my God, the distant cousins?
- The whole fuckin' family.
They're just delaying bedtime
at that point.
But, you know, my husband will bring the guitar in sometimes
and we'll sing whatever songs we feel like singing.
It's so nice.
- I like storytelling
as opposed to that.
'Cause I will just put the boombox at the time
with cassettes and I would play Cuban lullabies.
And I would leave the room.
But we like storytelling.
The most embarrassing, horrible stories,
and she would just love it.
Tell me again!
Tell me the story again!
That was fun.
And now it's ma, get outta my room.
- [All] Aw!
- I know.
- The future.
It's time to play a game.
So it's Never Have I Ever, mom edition.
You know how we play this game?
Oh shit, Hillary goes--
- I'm ready.
- So we all know mom life comes with some meaty challenges,
and every mama is doing just the best that she can,
and we're gonna have a little fun
with a little round of Never Have I Ever.
So basically I'll read you
a less-than-ideal parenting scenario--
- I've done them all.
- Yes, and if it's something you've actually done,
you raise your hand, okay?
So here we go.
Never have I ever taken the batteries
out of a toy that made annoying sounds
and told my kid that it just stopped working.
- Hell yeah. - You have to.
- No, you have to. - Trash.
- You have to!
- You have to, to survive.
- Yes. - Yeah.
- Hidden the good snacks
so I don't have to share them with my kids.
- I do that with my husband. - A hundred percent.
Did you say you do that with your husband?
(laughs)
- I don't do that.
- Me neither.
- I don't do it with Emily, but I do it with Ted.
- That's great. - It's terrible.
- I do it with my kids.
They don't care.
You get the bad popcorn, I want the good popcorn.
They don't care.
- Very simple one, but bribed my child.
- Oh please, yes.
- Right?
- I haven't gotten there yet.
- Not yet?
- Not yet.
Although I know it's soon.
- You call it bribing, I call it parenting.
(laughing)
- Yeah, I haven't done that yet.
- Let my child eat dessert for breakfast.
- I just did it three days ago,
because it was her birthday.
- I'm still early, I'm early for all these.
- Skipped the pages
in order to speed up the bedtime routine.
- They won't let me.
- [Hillary] Yeah, me neither.
- I'm still in the phase where I can do that.
Or I can go-- - I get so sick of this story
with Madeline, I'm like skip, page 20--
(laughing)
- They won't let me.
My kids are like, you skipped the word the.
- I know. - What?
How do you know?
They hear it once and they're memorized, so.
- Last is told my kid the ice cream truck
only plays music when it's sold out.
- Oh. - That's good.
- No, but that's a great one.
- Genius, right?
- [Sutton And Miriam] That's a really good one.
- That's a mommy hack right there.
- Not for New Yorkers.
They're not buyin' that.
- No.
- New York kids are smart.
- They would just be like, bullshit.
- My daughter has her own money.
So she goes into her piggy bank
and goes to get the ice cream.
- I'm always just like that's not the one.
We want to go to the good gelato place.
If we're gonna get ice cream, let's get...
I mean, I'm with you, I want ice cream.
Let's get the good stuff.
- You guys, we are out of time.
- [All] No!
- But before I let you go,
I just need a one-word teaser for next week's episode.
One word, uno.
- Want to start with me?
- Yeah.
- Vagina.
- Afterbirth.
- [Taylor] Ooh!
- Murder.
- [Taylor] Ooh?
- Museum.
(all laughing)
- Well, well, well.
- If that doesn't make you wanna watch the episode.
(laughing)
- What? - Covered all topics.
- Murder at the museum?
The vagina afterbirth?
What?
- You guys, thank you so much for hanging out with me.
Our mamas.
Thank you.
And thank you to all of our viewers
for watching and commenting.
I'm Taylor Strecker.
This is Getting Younger.
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