so Jaclyn Hill is back after the whole lipstick fiasco and her disappearing and
this is such a momentous occasion that we're back to the old set up baby
what is up everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the
problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel what I try to
do is take different topics going on in the YouTube community try to see what
lessons we can pull from them to improve our own mental and emotional well-being
so if you're into that stuff makes you subscribe and ring that notification
bell and yes Before we jump into Jacqueline Hill's return real quick
announcement go and check out my website www.TheRewiredSoul.com and all my god like
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you do a $5 donation or more when the audio book comes out in the next week or
so you'll get a free copy of that but anyways that book I analyzed canceled
culture on YouTube I share some of my own experience and I talk about other
situations in YouTube and that's why I'm excited to talk about this topic with
Jaclyn hill like oh I'm gonna get some flack for it you might cancel me for it
but her video I give it an 8 or 9 out of 10 so yeah if you're not caught up to
date on what lipstick launch which I doubt that you're not caught up to date
if you're watching this video go check out the videos from spill she did a that
one two or three parts either way go check that out they're long videos but
it will give you all of the details on it alright but anyways I think the last
time I made a video about Jaclyn hill she took a break from social media she
was working on her mental health and now she's back so there's a few clips that I
pull but listen very carefully watch this whole video like my videos are for
you the viewer like I was watching this I was like you go girl like there's so
much that all of us can learn from it everybody I mean it's it's just such an
outpour of love and I am so thankful for you guys you have no idea into all the
influencers I know that when things get rough influencers don't want to jump
out there and be um be the person to stand up for somebody else because it's
scary and you don't want to get involved you know it's like you're like oh gosh
like they're going through how like I don't want to burn with them you know so
it's like you kind of like step to the side like oh it's kind of like watch it
happen and I completely get that first clip right there this is something that
I talk about in my book when you are being cancelled when the hate mob is
coming after you a lot of your influencer friends will just scatter
alright and like I dedicated a few chapters to discussing some of my
relationships so I can definitely empathize with what Jacqueline Hill is
dealing with maybe you've dealt with this in your own life if a rumor or
something or maybe you just screwed up and people distance themselves from ya
but anyway it's like Jacqueline Hill said like one of the things that I'm
truly grateful for was there were people who could not support me publicly
because the hate mob would go after them but they were supporting me behind the
scenes I have some people who still talk to me like everyday you know and they
see the improvements and the changes that I'm doing and they're just there
give me some motivation and some inspiration anyways if you want to learn
more about that look at the book it's free I'm just terrified of seeming like
a victim I'm terrified of saying the wrong things of people just you know
picking this video apart because I know it's what's gonna happen and I know that
it comes with the territory of course I get all of that but I'm just still
really I'm just really scared I really I must be honest with you guys
it's hard for me to say that because I'm sorry guys I know that I'm not like
supposed to cry and I'm gonna try my best to edit any like tears out of
course because that's not the message that I want to get across so that clip
right there is very interesting to me it's really interesting because like
throughout the video she has to talk she has to tell you all the things that
she's not going to do and this is how cancel culture works like listen Jaclyn
hill massively screwed up I have massively screwed up anybody out
there who has had that hate mob attack them has massively screwed up but but
like when we make these and when any youtuber makes a comeback
video or video like it gets picked apart like it is insane and it lacks so much
empathy to not understand that even though Jacqueline Hill screwed up like
she's a human being who has emotions and the fact that you have to like edit out
like you're crying and things like that in fear that someone's gonna make a
video saying that you're just trying to manipulate your audience
it's absolutely mind-blowing right like something I talked about in my last
video is like like until you go through this you're never going to fully
understand like I've been through it I don't fully understand like my screw-up
was not as big as Jacqueline he'll screw up you know what I mean like she has the
right to feel crappy about this and I it just sucks because I don't think
youtubers should have to come on camera and explain all the things that they're
not gonna do just out of fear that people are gonna dissect it and make
videos about it like be a human have emotions but anyways I do think
Jacqueline Hill you know she did great with this one like when she made her
last video when it came back like I think when I talked about like she came
off like kind of abrasive and I'm like dang girl why you yelling at me you know
what I mean and this video I feel she did much better but the reason I had to
get away from social media and just fully delete it is because at that point
I had refunded everybody there every single penny they had spent I was
humiliated I was embarrassed and it was time for me to start picking things up
and putting the pieces back together and rebuilding you know as a CEO as a boss
as an owner of a brand you don't get to just sit back and be that way like you
have to start rebuilding right yes yes yes so if you're a loyal subscriber
who's been following the channel for more than like I don't know five minutes
you know that we start off every video with we talk about the problem but we
focus on the solution and that's what Jaclyn hill is talking about like this
is the mindset that I had to get in and I hope to god that you get in it too
like I had to get into this mindset when I got clean and sober seven years ago
like I would just mope around I'll just sit in self-pity right and that's what
Jaclyn Hills about she was just sitting in self-pity
like oh my god I'm a failure everybody hates me and that is not like you can
only do that for so long right like how long are you going to do that for like
if you want to take what I call the pity party method like what I personally do I
give myself a certain amount of time alright typically maximum it's like 3
hours 3 hours to just feel sorry for myself what was me everybody hates me
and everybody's terrible oh my god right after 3 hours is up of me just wallowing
in my own pity then it's time to get into the solution and that is one of the
reasons why I was so excited to make this video because Jacqueline Hill she's
like you know what I got to do something I got to move forward and do this and if
you guys don't take anything from her video except for this listen to me very
carefully the fact that she's talking about how she is not going to give up on
her dream like oh oh my god I can't tell you like when I was going through this
like the amount of people like delete your channel
I still get people telling me to delete my channel right and like all I can
think is like when I look at people leaving those comments I'm like I feel
bad for you like I feel bad if you feel like when you screw up you should just
give up you know what I mean like that's not what we should do so I'm
super patty jack and he'll like to learn and hopefully grow from this and that's
what this next clip is about it's a lot it's aggressive and I definitely was not
prepared and I definitely was very ignorant in this entire process of
thinking what it would actually be and for that I am grateful I'm it sounds so
weird but I'm grateful for the fact that this happened because I immediately got
to learn such incredible lessons on being a boss all running a company on
how to talk to people I'll hire how to do all of this and I'm so grateful for
that in this process so I'm sitting over my words I'm just my mind is all over
the place yes yes yes that right there like the gratitude okay like you guys
like this is something that I try to teach people all the time it's something
that I had to learn as well be happy and grateful for your failures okay like
there is no such thing losses there are only learning
experiences so what Jacqueline Hills talking about is like she had this
catastrophe happen on her first like solo brand launch right but she learned
about so many things that can go wrong like she learned about it like yes it
definitely sucks that so many people were affected by this and she's trying
to make it better but she gave out refunds and all that other stuff right
but she learned so much like she learned so much about the importance of quality
control rights talking about how she fired a bunch of people brought in the
new team so many different things so I want you to think about that with your
own life too like you guys like when I come here and talk to you guys and try
to give you suggestions that might hopefully improve your mental and
emotional well-being I'm not coming from this place of all high-and-mighty like
I'm this perfect human being like listen to me just mean you real quick
I have literally made every single mistake that you can imagine alright but
I try to learn from them and I'm still gonna make mistakes you see what I mean
like you guys check it out when you screw up like the only way to go is up
like that was the beautiful thing about being a hopeless drug addict my life
could not have gotten any worse no matter what it just went up from there
you know that's how it's been for the last 7 years so remember that like no
matter what you've been through in your life my suggestion is to try to look at
these things and see how it's made you stronger how it's made you better like a
great example is relationships like so many people when you get out of a
relationship with somebody so many of us are like oh my god I wasted so much time
I wasted so much time no you didn't waste time you learned stuff my
beautiful girlfriend Tristan like even though she got the chance to deal with
my pain in the butt right like I've learned so much from screwing up other
relationships that she's getting the best version of me baby
she's smiling you can't see what she's smiling right now at the end of the day
I have to rise up it doesn't matter how much I don't want to film this it
doesn't matter how anxious or depressed or whatever I'm feeling it doesn't
matter I signed up for this gig I failed the first time I'm gonna keep going
I have got back to YouTube I love it so much
YouTube is one of the things that you yanked me out of my depression you know
the most depressed I've ever been in my entire life is shortly before I started
YouTube yeah yeah right there which talks about she just got a rise up and
do this in like earlier in the video she talked about how this comes with the
territory like holy crap like like I get some flak sometimes and I get it because
sometimes I get passionate like I am in this video it's not all scripted like my
last few videos a bit but anyway it's like what she's saying right there is
just what I wish every youtuber on the platform understood or or learn
eventually and hopefully you don't got to go through the Jacqueline Hill
situation to figure this out like this is what we signed up for like when we
put ourselves out there in public like we can't expect to just get all of the
good and none of the bad like and it sounds like she's become more aware of
that like listen like if I screw up people are gay same thing it's people
gonna make videos people freaking biochemists are making videos about
Jaclyn hill right but she's finally becoming aware enough and losing that
entitlement they say oh my god nobody should make videos about me like it's
what happens alright like we have to understand the more we want to achieve
in life the more stresses come they're not they're not terrible as they might
have been before but they're new right like when you make a bunch of money you
got a bunch of new taxes you gotta pay and things like that like when you go to
college you have college problems to set a high school problems right no matter
what we do there's going to be new things that come along with it and she's
like now I just gotta get up and go do this thing and one of the reasons I
wanted to talk about this right here is because you could tell she's giving
herself tough love I give tough love we even got some merch in the store that
says tough love but anyway it's like when I say it to you I can come off kind
of like a dick alright like what I love about Jaclyn and this is just something
I have to do too and I hope that you do too like you have to just at a certain
point you gotta say alright it's time to get up and go to work time to get up and
go into the solution because we get all touchy and my sensitive when other
people say it to us but we have to train ourselves to get up and go into that
solution you know what I mean I try to be polite and try to be nice but still
sometimes I'm just like not the way I should be and I'm out of line I was out
of line I reached out to her directly and
apologized to her and she was very sweet for accepting my apology but still just
publicly I want to say that that wasn't cool for me to not sit back wait see if
anything else happened do investigation I should have deemed her privately and
had a conversation I should not have done that and so for that I am very
sorry and will definitely be more mindful of that in the future the last
thing I want to talk about is that clip right there because this is just
something really fascinating about capsule culture
alright so Jaclyn hill had she didn't have to but she chose to she realized
that she was in the wrong and apologize to that young woman privately in DMS
right she apologized privately in DMS there
okay now but because of canceled culture Jacqueline Hill had to talk about it in
this video you want to know why because unless the hate mob knows you did that
thing then did it really happen you see what I mean like isn't that kind of
interesting about cancel culture because then you're kind of in this lose-lose
situation because it can be really easy for for people from the hey mob say Oh
Jacqueline why'd you have to toast you message your family if you mentioned her
privately why didn't you just you know leave a private right but if she didn't
tell you people would continue making videos because it's brought up in almost
every video about Jaclyn hill now has she sassed that young woman you know
what I mean so she didn't tell you that she would have been screwed either way
so much with canceled culture is lose-lose right but I also like how
Jaclyn hill discussed this because this is something that I had to learn and I'm
still learning right like for me I'm just me
I'm just Chris the guy in my little apartment making videos but I have an
influence now I have a following I have to be more careful with how I respond to
things and if I'm being honest with you that's why I block so many people
because I cannot respond in a comp you know what I mean so anyways it's great
that Jaclyn hill was self aware of that fact and she's trying to learn and grow
from this experience all right but anyways let me know your thoughts on
this like if you still want to cancel Jaclyn hill my channel is the wrong
channel for you like here at the rewired soul we are against canceled culture
alright so make sure you go to my website the rewired soul comm get your
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his butt off on that audiobook all right anyways that's all I got for this video
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