the new video Tanacon the good the bad the ugly is a first video that Tana
mongeau has made since the whole Tana con debacle and it is a textbook example
about how you do not apologize what is up everybody this is Chris from the
rewired soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and
yeah that's right tenant just made her first video since the whole Tanacon
thing here's the thing I've talked about this in other videos about why I cover
YouTube drama it's because these are teachable moments these are ways that we
can sit back and reflect and not just watch passively but learn from this and
Tana mongeau she did not like so many youtubers do this and I hope some people
learn from this but here's the reason why I want you the viewers the audience
to learn how to apologize correctly because here's the thing that you have
to understand about how Tana screwed up with her apology she is still gonna have
diehard loyal followers okay she has over three
million subscribers she could do no wrong in their eyes you are different
you are not a huge gigantic youtuber you don't have a huge following
so if you're apologizing like this you are going to have a lot of relationship
issues not just with husband/wife boyfriend/girlfriend but with your
parents with your friends with your siblings with your coworkers because a
lot of people just don't know how to apologize okay so I'm gonna save you a
lot of time I will link to tannaz video down below but this thing is over an
hour long and let me tell you there's there's nothing new in it there's
absolutely nothing new in it there's there's a little bit there's like maybe
not much but pretty much she didn't cover anything that wasn't already said
by other people who actually attended or it wasn't covered in the Shane Dawson
documentary so it blows my mind that this thing was over an hour long
somebody I follow is a guy named Peter Monn if you don't know who he is he's at
YouTube drama channel he's also in recovery too
he made a video yesterday after Tina announced that she was you know
releasing this video and he basically made some predictions and he said this
video only needs to be two minutes long I mean it needs to be one to two minutes
long I absolutely agree blows my mind it doesn't need to be so here's the primary
reason why Tana's apology is just awful and so many people do it we see
Tana doing it we see Logan Paul doing it we see so many people doing it after
they screw up which is not taking 100% responsibility okay but they deceive you
with this kind of double-talk thing right where they say everything's my
fault at the end of the day it's my fault everything's my fault but okay a
good rule for apologizing a good rule of thumb to use is how would you receive it
if somebody came at you in the same way how would you receive it so like
something for all the addicts alcoholics out there and recovery something that I
learned see I used to think that my addiction was a curse but it's actually
a blessing because without having been an addict and alcoholic who then got
sober and clean I would have never learned so many things to improve my
life and one of them for those of you who are familiar is the ninth step in
12-step programs and basically the ninth step is making a mint and the wall of
that is whenever you make an amends whenever you apologize it is 1,000%
about you it is not about the other person there's not about these people
it's not about oh my parents mistreated me when I was a kid so I developed into
a scummy human being it's none of that stuff it's you it's that's it that's it
cut and dry in the story this is what I did wrong here's how I was wrong I was
being selfish I was being self-centered I was driven by ego I am sorry that I
hurt you and then you say this what can I do to make this better is there
anything I could do to make this better that's it
that is it cut and dry but if you manage to stomach the hour long of tana's video
an hour long like the good part is the good part is she she acknowledges all
the ways that she screwed up okay she says this was on me I did this out of
spite I'm glad that she like I will say this
I'm glad she spent a few minutes really saying that the fact that she did this
out of spite and revenge all these other things was like oh cool kudos see you
Tana but the thing is she just put it like she couldn't just keep the focus on
her and he saw throughout the Shane Dawson documentary - she kept pointing
the finger at Michael and she kept bringing up all this other stuff and she
kept you know even on Twitter and stuff like that she was saying these very like
vague things about oh there's a lot of dark stuff that you don't know and I
heard things and I heard this and people told me not to work with it like cut it
out cut it out if you want to clear up your name if you want to make it amends
for what you did leave it everybody else out of it okay because if you get down
to the nitty gritty if you go back to the first part of this whole thing the
very beginning it was you it was you that was it had you not been fueled by
this rage and been driven by emotions you would have not done these things in
the first place like you can't get mad a lion for biting
your face off when you jump in the lion's den okay you should have never
jumped in the lion's den in the first place you say oh my bad I shouldn't have
jumped in the Lions there so they have talked about in other videos pretty old
videos I'll try to link them up in the info card if I can find them is
understanding internal locus of control okay people who have an internal locus
control it is scientifically proven that they have less depression less anxiety
and there are a hell of a lot happier and here's why because they believe that
they're in 1,000 bucks and control of all of their circumstances everything is
their fault that is the way I live today and my life is in control I don't become
a victim anymore you know what I mean but also when I make amends to people I
say it's me I don't say hey I'm sorry I screwed up but here's what they did
right like I said if any of you watched the the Logan poll interview with Casey
nice that he did a lot of the same thing right he says oh this is because I got
caught up like the YouTube thing and the atmosphere and like cut it out just cut
it out okay like because this goes into the second and final part of this video
that I'm trying to teach all of you about okay you're
actions speak louder than words okay your actions will always speak louder
than words and here's the problem here's the problem Tannen hasn't done anything
Tina hasn't done anything okay wait when you are like okay I'll put it this way
how many times have you apologized to people like think about your mom dad and
people close to you how many times have you said sorry how many times have you
said sorry and then just did it again like here's the thing like when Logan
Paul first you know did the whole suicide forest thing you know and all
that like hey you know let's chill out let's see what he does over time it's
been some time and his actions haven't spoken louder than its words right like
nobody can forgive you or trust you immediately you have to prove yourself
so when it comes to Tanner like her apologies mean jack squat cuz she hasn't
done anything like its to me to me personally like when you say oh I'm
gonna do this so we're gonna make it right and we're gonna do all this like
all they did was refund people's 65 bucks right and there's still a bunch of
unanswered questions but I'm really gonna try to stay out of that kind of
drama of the situation but what I'm saying is it's like tennis taking them
last month off she said she hasn't been on social media even though she has been
right like she should be just going around Los Angeles or wherever she lives
meeting people that's what she should have done for the last month but she
hasn't she hasn't she she puts on this this after this show you know I'm
figuring out ways every single day every single day my my whole day has been
consumed about trying to figure out how to make it up to people really really
okay your words mean jack squat all right and this is for all of you out
there like I said at the beginning of this video
tannaz gonna have at home loyal following no matter what happens like
she could not do anything for anybody okay aside from those refunds she'll
still have a die-hard loyal following okay but when it comes to you your
actions speak louder than words we call this kind of like a living a man so for
me I don't pick up drugs and alcohol anymore
I don't watch he did steal from people anymore I don't manipulate people
anymore okay I try to improve myself on a daily basis I showed up I show up to
work I show up for my girlfriend I show for my son I show up for my family
these are my actions speaking louder than words and over the course of
people like tang he really is sorry because he has changed too he has who he
is as a person because he's done the actions alright so anyways like I said
this videos for all of you there's no way Tanner's ever gonna see this video
so I just want to teach all of you like there's a right and a wrong way for
apologizing alright don't do it the wrong way when you apologize when you
make amends it's all about you and nobody else
alright but anyways I would love to know your thoughts leave them down in the
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apologize correctly and I'll see you next time