Hey Dan here and in this video we're gonna look
at five reasons that you should lie a lot less
than you currently do and if you're watching this
thinking: Dan, I never lie, I don't need to watch
this video! Well, then you definitely need to watch
this video. Now if you're new here my name is Dan,
this is Dreams Around The World and my mission
here is to help you become the best version of
yourself all while creating the most awesome like
possible for you and those you love. Lying is a
topic that gets me fired up. I can't claim I never lie.
I think we all lie on some levels and if you
really wanna analyze us we all have these deep
internal belief that we think are true but we're
really lying to ourselves but in terms of like
typical day to day stuff I really do my best not
to lie and I think lying is one of the worst
things you can do and it will crush your dreams,
and here are five reasons why that happens. Number
one: Lying takes away the pain and it also takes
away the motivation. I remember back in high
school there was a guy named Pat this guy
Pat like not in an evil way but he would just
lie about everything. Like there would be stories
where he tell us about this girl and how they
hooked up and then the girl be like: Nope, never
gonna happen, did not happen like there was not it
wasn't even exaggerating things, he just make a
couple stories and I can see why for someone
who's a little unstable or doesn't have great
role models this becomes addicting because
there's things that you wanna do like winter
sport Championship or kiss a pretty girl or like,
I don't know, have crazy adventure or trip or
something that when you tell people about you get
admiration and what do people like? Admiration.
Especially if you're a young guy or girl who
doesn't have a lot of attention from your family
and or maybe you're not that popular line as a
way to get that attention because you can tell
people like yeah I went to China and I thought
the samurai invaders and had all these adventures
and then I kissed three cheerleaders and people
when they're young and naive will be like: Wow,
you're so amazing! Now of course what happens
to most of these people eventually they get found
out and they create chaos in their lives, right? So
that's the extreme example of this but this could
have negative effects even in terms of like
softening things. So let's say you're really not
that happy with your life, things aren't going
exactly how you want them to be if you really
always focus on the best and tell people like
exaggerated how good you're doing and then people
admire you bit it takes away that pain like
sometimes it's good to feel bad about yourself
and use that pain as motivation to push forward
and to change. There's a story about
Arnold Schwarzenegger where he would apparently
when he had a belly, he would lift his shirt up
and just walk around his town with his belly out
because it was embarrassing and made them feel
bad and that was his motivation to get rid of his
belly and I think, you know, today we live in
probably the opposite of a society of that where
it's all about feeling good about yourself no
matter what and I'm not gonna get into that
debate here but something to consider is if you
feel really good about something that's actually
not good, you'll lose a lot
motivation to change in that to me is a pretty
dangerous thing to do. The second reason lying can
kill your dreams is it can create some serious
problems I started watching the show on Netflix
it's the reboot of Lost in Space. I was craving
some kind of scifi show I just got a four k TV, I
couldn't keep watching it I got there like four
episodes all the characters lie to each other
like the entire show would be solved if people
just talk more and had proper communication
within the family but like they are lying to each
other and it just created all these kind of
problems and I think this can happen in
a lot of areas of life, right, if you have a
problem if you're struggling with something and
you just tell people about it often that can help
lead to a solution I'm gonna talk about that in
another context later on in the video but if
you're a line of people and they're lying to you
because usually liars attract buyers then you're
all like the reality you're dealing with isn't
the reality and it's only natural you're gonna
create more and more problems more and more drama
in your life is going to get worse and worse. The
third reason
lying kills your dreams is you miss out on a lot
of opportunities you know if you're interacting
with someone who's a problem solver than you
telling them the truth gives them an opportunity
to help you as well this has come up a few times
with me recently and it's led to me actually
thinking about making this video is when someone
contact me about coming to one of my events are
working with me as a coach and sometimes when the
price comes up or the details of a program come
up that don't quite
The person I noticed that they'll either
disappear or they will kind of come up with what
is kind of transparently a lie about it and what
I found with a smaller group of people who are
really direct with me they'll say: Hey I really
wanna work with you but I can't do that or this
doesn't work or could we do it this way 90
percent of the time I find a solution for them
and those people watching know that is when
someone just honest with me like here's my
situation, here's what I want can we make anything
work I've got a problem solver mindset so I work
with them and I'll try to find a solution and a
lot people or this way I found it in my own life
as well as if you just be straight up with people
like here's a situation can you help me
opportunities will come up, right, you'll have
other people collaborating with you to find a
solution. If you lie or at least don't bring up
the truth you'll never have that opportunity for
other people to work with you. The fourth reason
that lying can kill your dreams is that people know.
Listen, you might be smart but people are smarter
than you I've noticed as I've got older because I
reflect back on my two year old self when I would
miss a deadline with my work or do something and
I come up with some excuse and I'd lie to people
about it same thing happened in school right
student light of their teachers uh you know the
dog ate my homework. Do you think the teacher
who's twice your age and has worked with hundreds
if not thousands of students can't tell you're lying?
They are smarter than you and it's kind of
interesting to me because now I'm 34 I'm not
exactly extremely old but I interacted with a lot
of people and I'll get emails from young people
and sometimes I can't really see through their
lives and it reminds me of something I might have
done when I was younger and it blows my mind
because I think back and when I send emails like
that was sort of a white lie or full light of
someone about why I was late or why didn't get
back to their email that I would assume they
bought it I would be like: Yeah I'm so smart I bet
that work and it's like no it doesn't work and
the truth is most people pay attention to that
stuff people the kind of people that you want to
spend time with the kind of people you want in
your life they will notice when you're lying and
they may not tell you hey you're lying to me they
may not even cut you out of
their lives but you have been put in one category
and I will tell you this for me I have distinct
categories and I'm pretty strict on this if
someone I know is a liar and really any capacity
they remind me of that guy Pat who I did not like
and they are put over in this category and maybe
I'll keep interacting with them but I'm never
gonna do business with them I'm never gonna
become a close friend I never even got to reveal
a lot of parts of myself to them because they've
made themselves known as a liar and the thing is
is you might have a lot of people in your life
right now who are liars as well so it feels
really normal
but the people you probably want to be spending
more time with the people who are really trying
to develop a great life or have a great life and
have a high standard for who would be friends
with those people also probably really look down
on just honesty and lines so something to
consider is if you use a lot of dishonesty in
your life you're probably filtering out people
from relationships that might be really powerful
people to have in your life. And the fifth reason
that lying can kill your dream is you miss out on
a really powerful tool when your word comes to mean
something both to yourself and to other people
when you say something and you know like yeah I
said that I will do it when other people say hey
if he said it it's true his word means something
it is awesome because number one for your own
kind of discipline it becomes easier and easier
because you do the things you say you kinda build
that habit, but number two with other people if
people around you know that you're someone of
your word if you say you'll be somewhere you'll
be there if you say you'll do something, you'll do
it when you're that kind of person, life gets easier
people respect you more your relationships work
better, it's easier. If you're a business owner it's
easier to get investors or get clients or get
people who will believe in you and support your
business it is an awesome tool to have. Basically,
your word means something and if you're someone
who lies you don't have that and you miss out on
the awesome opportunity. Along the same lines
things become just easier when you tell the truth
like in terms of your own energy level along that
same line of thinking I have personally found
that the more honest I am,
the more I allow other people to also open up and
be honest and the easier it is to build real
relationships with people. So I hope you found
this video helpful, something to at least think
about and consider, you know,, your words. Your words
have a lot of power and I just wanted you to
think about the choices you make when you are
communicating with people and some of the
consequences they can have. So my question for you
in the comments is: When do you consider it okay
to lie and why? And if you're new here I would
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