Do you want to know how to be calmer in a
high-stress job? Maybe so that you can
perform at a higher level and be happier
doing it? Or maybe just to get less
stress in your life? Well look if you
said yes to that then keep watching
because in this video I'm going to share
some easily actionable secrets of
professional calm. And by the end of this
video you'll have practices I know you
can do to be calm and confident in a
high-stress job. And hang around to the
very end because I also want to show you
how to get access to a download which
will show you how you can master stress
and become peacefully grounded as a
professional person. Now my name's Steve
and I coach professional people just
like you to combine personal brilliance
with unshakable emotional wellness, so
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Now everything I show in this video
comes from years of study and work that
I did with my coaches and work that I've
done with my coaching clients; and I've
seen succeed time and time again. So
let's go! Now my first tip is to
recognize when stressful or anxious
feelings or reactivated feelings are
coming up, and to stop and pause! Stopping
and pausing is a little bit like taking
a pan of boiling water off the heat. Now
of course it's not going to go cold
instantly, but it will certainly boil
less vigorously. It will certainly calm
down and that's what happens here.
It will allow those feelings to
dissipate slightly, not fully, but at
least enough that you can reclaim some
headspace, some vital headspace that you
can make a new decision about what
you want to do and how you want to be.
Yes it's simple, but we need simple! We
don't want complex in a situation like
this.
Everybody I know who is good at
staying calm in stressful situations has
their own particular pressure release
valve: the thing that they do to stop and
pause. Sometimes it's counting to 10 in
their head. Sometimes it's doing some
deep breathing. Sometimes is to get up
and move around. The only thing is it
needs to be brief! Don't turn this into
spending an hour on Facebook! Now tip
two is to get out of your head and
into the body. Mental stress happens
when we're up in our head. When we're
thinking really hard about things and
running our mental simulator really hard
about something; and a great remedy to
that can be to get out of the head and
into the body. Now that can be achieved
by something like going for a run or
taking a shower, something that has a
strong kinesthetic and repetitive
element to it, that allows you to get out
of your head, but sometimes we can't
always do that! Certainly we're not
really likely to be able to do that in
an office situation! However there are
also hypnotic ways that we can get out
of our head and into our body, and one of
those is to put your attention on the
center of your body. I know this is
slightly off camera but you know
the center of your body is, right? Put
your attention on the center of the body
and experience everything that's
happening from there. So whatever
people are saying is getting processed there.
Everything that's happening is
being experienced there, rather than up
here. It's an interesting experience and
hold that. For many people that's
enough but to add to this what I also
want you to do is imagine that a
relaxing color starts spreading out from
that center spot so it moves out to fill
the body and into the arms and down to
the fingertips and into the legs and
down the toes and ultimately up to the
top of the head as well, so your body is
being filled from the center with a
relaxing color. It's a fascinating
hypnotic experiment and I really urge
you to play with this. By the way how
have you learned to stay calm in
stressful situations? Tell me! If you're
happy to do so please leave a comment.
I'll read all your comments and I'll
reply to as many as I can! Now tip number
three is to be compassionate with
yourself, because stressful feelings will
subside if we stop wrestling with the
thoughts that create them. The thing is
though that we DO wrestle with the
thoughts that create them! And one of the
main ways that we wrestle with them is
that as well as having the stressful
thought we then compound that stressful
thought with thoughts like: I shouldn't
have had that stressful thought!! Show
yourself complete and unconditional
compassion because that is a great
dissipator all by itself. Refuse to
punish yourself for having the stressful
thought! Refuse to wrestle with the
stressful thought! Be okay,
completely okay with the fact that you
had the stressful thought and be
completely ok with the idea of letting
that thought go. That way stressful
thoughts will come and will just go,
because we're not grabbing on to them to
wrestle with them. And tip number four is
to put it into context,
not just any context, but in the
context of bigger things in life, and
longer time frames. You see one of the
reasons that we get stressed is that we
get caught up in short periods of time.
When we're preparing for an exam the
only period of time we focus on is
between now and the exam, or between now
and the
deadline if it's a deadline that we're
facing. But how will you feel about this
in a month's time? How will you feel
about this in a year's time? Two years
time? Five years time? Ten years time?
Twenty years time? How will you feel
about this when you're actually on your
deathbed? When we expand our
timeframes out like that, it puts
these things into context. Yes they're
important! This is not about treating
them as if they're not important. This is
not about trivializing them. This is not
about not doing it like it matters! But when
we expand the time frame that we're
contextualizing this thing in we realize
sometimes it's not as big or as
catastrophic a deal as we thought it was,
and that can be a great dissipater too.
Now tip number five is to breathe and
meditate. If you want to learn how to
be more resilient professionally and
stay calm under pressure in
confrontational meetings for example,
then I strongly recommend that you do
regular work with breathing and
meditation. It doesn't have to be overly
formalized or stylized. Simple breath
work for example will suffice,
spending time consciously breathing in
slowly and deeply holding it and
consciously breathing out. And similarly
with meditation, doesn't have to be
overly stylized or formalized. I used to
do this on the train commuting to London.
London trains are not quiet environments!
They're bustling environments but even
so I was able to close my eyes
consciously breathe and create stillness
and silence in my own particular space
where I could be a neutral observer of
my own thoughts and actually experience
some quiet time. Now if you'd like to
explore how we can create
transformational results together in
your life I would certainly love to hear
from you.
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