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- During the day.
Like if we don't see each other for like a day or two,
it's so nice to like, you know, it's just like, Hey,
like here's a little boob pic.
Like here's a little sext to like, keep you going.
- Do you enjoy sexting?
- Yes.
- It's like a favorite hobby of mine.
- Most of the time, yes.
- No!
Like,
I mean,
you kind of say
little things here and there, but I'm like,
by the time I got with my partner, it was no point
like girl just come over.
- Look up some words...
- Okay.
- In your texts,
tell me what the text
is that comes up.
- Oh my God.
- So the first word lets just do sex, S-E-X.
- Well, if precautions are made,
there are no reasons for not having sex.
- And those stockings are so f****** sexy.
- Just do the eggplant emoji.
- There's no way that people use that.
(laughter)
Oh my god.
- Do you use it?
- Yeah. With my boyfriend. And I not only,
did I use the eggplant emoji.
But I used the, the water splash after it.
(laughter)
- Its just send eggplant.
(laughter)
- How do you feel about dick pics?
- I see a lot of dick pic slander.
- I don't think they're as fun as guys think they are.
- It's always a mystery. Whenever I look at a guy I'm like,
can I get a dick pic from you? Just to see?
- The lighting has to be good.
Your room has to be clean.
Your face should not be in it.
It can't be like in your hand.
- You know, when I get it, I'm not like, woo.
- My opinion on dick pics is,
if you want to send me one,
then I'm going to send you my Venmo and then you have to pay
me to see it. And then I'll reply.
But you gotta pay me to see it.
- Where's the weirdest place you've ever sexted?
- I think I've done it on hikes a few times.
I'm just going in the forums, like, oh,
- Probably like a therapist office,
but trauma doesn't make you horny.
- Okay, this is going to sound so bad.
But straight up, I did it just for the story.
The Vatican in Italy.
When you're in the Vatican, like what else, do I look like
I'm like gonna pray?
No, I'm going to send a text.
I'm going to send a sext.
- Do you ever lie when you are sexting?
Doesn't everybody.
- As much, as far as I'm concerned, sexting is just lying.
- Nobody's completely honest.
If you're completely honest, it's boring.
- Everyone's greedy. You know, you sext to get something.
The thing that I want, isn't nudes.
It's just, you know, affection.
- What's the worst sext you've ever gotten?
- Probably that it wasn't the person who said it was.
- One time he sent his dick in a strawberry shortcake.
- Asking if they could like, do like weird stuff.
Like with toes, like asking if they could suck my toes.
And I was like, that's not my thing.
- How do you make the first move
and know its the right time?
I definitely have to get comfortable
with the person first.
- You just kind of have to go for it.
See if there's pushback,
if not, then you just kind of keep seeing where it goes.
- After like a month or so, or maybe two,
depending on how we feel.
And if we haven't seen each other in a while,
then I'll probably like maybe ask or we'll collaborate on
and see, like, if it's a good idea or not.
- Would you consider sexting a form of cheating?
I would.
I definitely would.
Even though it may just be like a fantasy
in your head and all that.
You're still thinking a lot about it.
- You're like in a relationship with someone
and you are like talking about sex with someone else.
I think that even though you're not actually doing it,
I think just talking about it with someone else
is definitely a form of cheating.
- Perhaps if it's like transactional
or if it's a job then no, because that's work.
But if it's for like your own personal gain,
I think it speaks to something that like, yeah,
maybe you're not getting in your relationship.
- Do you delete nudes from people you are no longer talking
to? Or do you keep them?
Unless I'm like in a committed relationship?
I don't really keep them to begin with
because it's usually like over Snapchat.
- I delete them.
I feel like that's just an invasion of privacy.
- I feel like when you're with someone,
obviously like the consent is there to have the nude,
but once like the situation has been evacuated,
if you're holding onto those nudes,
I feel like that's like kind of like
non-consensual in a way.
- Yeah I've had people who've kept them
and sent them and to other people.
And so I definitely don't want that to happen.
Like any other person, because I know how crappy that feels.
- Have you ever sexted with a stranger
or someone you only knew online?
- Yeah, I did it with a stranger
and I definitely learned my lesson from that
was not a good experience.
Yeah. It's very dangerous to do that.
- So the experience I had was that this older,
like person was posing on this app to be like kind of young.
It's like an app for like minors, you know,
it's like make friends and stuff.
And so then I was like messaging them and saying like,
there's no way, you're 16.
They're like, okay.
18. I'm like, no, you don't like 18.
Like please get off this app.
And yet, and it ended up and they're like,
okay, then you texted me.
Like you have to like something about me. And I was like,
I know like they were, yeah, they were pretty weird.
So.
- Like three, four years ago
I get like someone added me on Snapchat.
I didn't know who it was.
And then I added them back. Cause I was like, oh,
why not just a new friend or whatnot.
And then they sent me videos of them,
very explicit videos.
And they're like, if want more,
send me your like stuff of you.
And I was a sophomore in high school at the time.
I was like, oh yeah, sure.
Okay. Easy.
And then after that endeavor,
they removed me from Snapchat or whatnot.
I didn't think too much of it.
Cause I didn't really know them.
And then about five months later,
I find out that a kid in my grade it was,
he played, like he cat fished me.
And as, as, as this woman
and he kept my photos and videos and sent them
to people in my high school.
- What is something that you want people to
kind of learn or take way from
this experience that you had?
- Yeah, so I think sexting is a great way
to be close to a partner.
I just think that the internet is definitely,
there, there's some good and bad things to it.
And like even regard like disregarding like sexting
and just with everything
and just really that,
that's just the biggest thing.
Like with me and relationships,
it's just all about trust and honesty.
- What's just like something
you wish you had learned sooner?
- That communication is key and that's for anything,
anything in your life, whether it's sex or like,
what do you want to eat? You know?
- I always want, I always like
read like cosmopolitan magazine magazines,
on like Snapchat.
And they would always just talk about like female pleasure
and what female, like what women think are like hot, sexy,
like what do they enjoy?
And so that really made me like come more comfortable with
all that stuff.
- It's such a natural thing that happens.
And like it's okay.
And like every single person in this world does it and
pregnancy and STDs, all those things.
It should just totally be de-stigmatized.
Everyone should talk about it.
I had all these images projected onto me of like, okay,
if this happens, you're bad.
If this happens, you're bad.
And I wish I could just like tell my young self that like
chill out. Even if those things happened to you,
you're going to be fine.
- You're going to say weird shit for the first like,
a hundred times.
And yeah, maybe it's just,
we're all so nervous to be like vulnerable and sexual.
And we shouldn't be.
- God, this is embarrassing.
I know nothing.
- I have no idea how we would use some of these things.
Let's talk about that.
- What is this?
It's a shoe.
- This is a high heel.
- I do. I do like this.
Oh my God.
- Oh, I think this one has a sucker too.
- This one is cool because there's like a little,
a little part for the, you know, for the,
I'm assuming for the *bleep*, okay.
- And also it looks so,
cute.
- It's very small, very exciting.
- It feels like a phone case
Like it'll keep things safe.
It's not going to break.
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