Hi everyone.
Welcome back to Lavendaire.
Today I want to share advice
that I would give to my younger self.
And I'm super excited because today's video is actually
an epic collab with a bunch of badass women.
It all started out as an idea
between Erin Henry and myself, and we just thought, "How cool would it be
if we just invited all the female creators we know to do this video as well so that,
together, we can reflect on our growth and share our insights for you guys.
I'm so excited to announce that we have Erin Henry, MuchelleB, Sarah Nourse,
Lynette Cenée, Rachelleea, Sugar Mamma, Naturally Thrifty Mom,
and Frankie Garza on this collab.
Isn't that amazing?
Seriously, I look up to
every one of those women.
Everyone's so unique and different but just badass in their own way.
So make sure you check out everyone's video.
We have a playlist in the upper-right corner
and everyone's video links will be down below as well.
So make sure you stop by,
give everyone some love, tell them I sent you.
Alright, onto the video!
Dear Aileen at 17,
You’ve made it to Senior Year of high school.
I know, I know:
It’s been a tough year for you.
You’ve been pushed so hard in academics
and the IB program that you’ve lost motivation to wake up in the mornings.
You dread waking up.
Your body is so tired that even when you want to go to school,
you physically can’t get up for it.
So you get into trouble.
A lot of trouble AND embarrassment,
because you’ll show up during 3rd or 4th period so often that the authorities threaten
to put you in home school and your classmates have a running joke
of where you might be when you’re not in class.
All you’re trying to do
is NOT fail Spanish so you can FINALLY graduate.
Well, here’s my advice for you:
Number 1: Don’t be so hard on yourself.
I know you feel like a failure
because you’re trying to live up to such high standards.
You want to be the perfect student,
you want to be successful, but this year has come crumbling down on you.
It’s okay.
Be as kind and gentle with yourself as possible.
Be proud of how far you’ve come
and grateful for all the good things you have in your life.
Focus on the good instead of the bad.
Number 2: You don’t have to fit into the system.
Carve your own path and hold on
to your big dreams.
There are more paths to success than you realize at the moment.
You might not understand your path right now, but in a few years everything will make
so much more sense.
Steve Jobs said, “You can't connect the dots looking forward.
You can only connect them looking backwards.
So you have to trust
that the dots will somehow connect in the future.”
Number 3: Get to know yourself.
Embrace and appreciate who you are.
Explore what you’re interested in, figure out what you like or don’t like,
and learn your strengths and weaknesses.
Getting to know yourself
will help build self confidence and self love.
Self love is something you’re not aware of yet,
but when you finally do discover it, it will change your life.
Number 4: Stand up for yourself.
Be more open and honest in communicating what you feel
and what you want.
No one is going to understand you if you just keep quiet to yourself.
Number 5: Don’t be so shy or scared to try the things that you’re interested in, like
dancing,
singing, or acting.
Just go for it.
You have nothing to lose and everything to gain by trying.
Number 6: Trust your intuition instead of asking everyone around you
about what they think.
I know you like to blame your indecisiveness on being a Libra,
but you have more in you than you think you do.
So learn to trust yourself.
Number 7: If you want to make a friend, be a friend.
Don’t just sit around
awkwardly waiting for someone to come talk to you.
Make the effort
to reach out to someone first.
Life is just better with good company.
Lastly, three words: It.
Gets.
Better.
Trust me.
Just be patient, keep doing your best,
and know that your best days have yet to come.
Sending you lots of love, Aileen from the future
Alright, I hope you liked the video.
Make sure you check out everyone else's video up here
and also down below.
And now I'd love to invite you to do this tag as well.
Let me know in the comments: What advice would you give to your younger self?
Or better yet: Make a video of your own and then tweet me that video link
so that I can add your video to this playlist as well.
I'd love to have an epic playlist
of everyone's video.
How amazing would that be?
Alright, love you guys so much.
Thanks for watching.
Have a beautiful day.
And I'll see you next time.
Bye!