Allah SWT said:"We have certainly created man into hardship"
When he earns his living...
When he is struggling against difficulties with patience.
We are always one case or the other..
The first one is that he has a long life, and suffers the pain of losing his loved ones
Or, he has a short life, which a pity he has himself!
He suffers the sorrow of losing others or losing himself.
Life teaches us that..
It is the reality...a certainty..
As Allah SWT said:
"We have certainly created man into hardship"
For us to be able to stand the sufferings...
we need to acquire some traits..
First, is to know for sure that there is no actual relief or ease unless you meet Allah.
The believer is only at comfort when he is at the presence of Allah.
We will never find rest till we have the path over Hell behind us..
And till we have put our feet on Jannah..
And meet our Lord, SWT
So, asking for everlasting comfortable life, is impossible to have..
and will never happen!
The second thing to help us is..
to know that whatever is happening to us is meant to happen, and it would never has missed us
And whatever missed us is not meant to happen to us.
And as the prophet SAW said, this is final..our destiny
believe, but don't depend.
The point is not to feel sorry for what has happened.
Because, arguing about what happened will not change the fact that it has happened.
We must leave it behind and move forwards..
besides, it is not an act of logic or wisdom to expect and anticipate catastrophes.
Because awaiting disasters, is a suffering of death before it happens
This is a message that we get from the verse..
"We have certainly created man into hardship"
Here I am trying to explain how to stand this kind of hardships..
To stand the hardship...sit back..
Be patient and slow down..
All these things would make you more capable of handling hardships..
The prophet SAW said to the bravest man of Bani Al-Qays:
' You have two traits Allah loves...
tolerance and patience..'
Allah SWT complemented His beloved Ibrahim saying:
"Indeed was Abraham compassionate and patient."
The more tolerant you are..
The more you are capable to stand agony
We have in the Arabic history, the story of Ma'an Bin Zaidah, he is as an example of tolerance
He is from Sheban tribe...He is known for his leadership and generosity!
He lived at the time of Bani Omyah and Bani Al-Abass.
the story is about a common man...
who came to him in disguise, to test the capacity of his tolerance..
So, he came to Ma'an, he was sitting on the chair of leadership, his throne!
He said:' do you recall when your cover was the leather of a sheep?
and your footwear was from the leather of camel?'
Ma'an calmly said:'I remember and I never forget'.
He said: 'Glory to the one Who gave you a throne and taught you how to sit on a soft bed.'
Ma'an said:' Glory to Him, whatever the situation is.'
He said:' I will never ever, even if I lived for a century..
greet Ma'an as a prince!'
He meant that he would not say: ' Peace be upon you, Prince'
but he would say:'Peace be upon you, Ma'an'
' I will never greet Ma'an as a prince!, even if I lived for a century'
He said:'O, brother from Arabs, Salam is from Sunnah,
but you can say it however you wish.'
Then the man said:' grant me something, Bin Naqisah, [less]..
because I am going to go'
He knows that his name is Ma'an Bin Zaidah, [extra]
But, he said Bin Naqisah, [less]
to irritate him..
But Ma'an knows that Allah privileged him to rule people..
So, he doesn't need to argue with this common man, who is just passing by..
He said to the servant: give this man one thousand dinars
The man said: what you are giving me is much less than what I was expecting to have from you!
He said: give him a second one thousand.
The man was happy...then he said:
By Allah, I only came to test the degree of your patience! because people are saying you are extremely tolerant!
Now I know that you have forbearance and patience, enough to be distributed among all people
Then Ma'an ordered to be given, for his nice talk, same amount of money he has given for his poetry
The point here is that, forbearance is helpful to face the hardships of life.
Another helpful factor is to have prudent and rational people around you
People who are both wise and caring..
We also need to have someone to talk to..
A kind person who would sympathize with you...tray to make you forget...or feels for your pain.
Although, the logic always advices the man not tell his secrets... not to every one..
People are usually discrete!
The men die hiding their illness even from people visiting them at their bed.
But people can talk about most of the sufferings..
and no harm to ask for an advice..
or to talk about it with his loved ones..
Even if the person he is talking to is not able to make any change..
But this would help to pass the hard time..
Allah, Almighty said:"We have certainly created man into hardship"
The fifth helping factor is,
to make a lot of Doa'a [pray to Allah]...
And to keep saying, "Sufficient for us is Allah , and [He is] the best Disposer of affairs."
And, "There is no deity except You; exalted are You. Indeed, I have been of the wrongdoers."
And say; O, Allah, After your perfect arrangement of issues, I don't need to sought for solutions.
And similar Doa'a, that we can find in the Sunnah.
That would help us to face the hardships..
This is what we can reflect upon the verse...
"We have certainly created man into hardship"