Is Love Marriage Allowed in Islam?
Love marriage in Islam…
I would say that it is, in fact, the advice of Prophet Mohammad that you should marry the one you love.
Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) said, ‘A man must marry a woman who loves him’.
So love marriage was advised in the Prophetic Tradition.
Now, what is the proper method of a love marriage?
That’s what we need to know.
If the religious scholars and Muslims of the Islamic world adopted this Prophetic Tradition
and told their children that love marriage is allowed, it would bring about a lot of positive changes in the society.
Concurrently, this is considered a taboo subject in the Islamic world,
therefore, the outcome of this is that girls and boys hide their love affairs and secretly get married in the courts, they elope.
However, in the light of this Prophetic Traditions, if the religious scholars and Muslims of the world made love marriage common
and the parents accepted what the Messenger of God has said
and their children were aware that love marriage is allowed,
none of their daughters would have secret love affairs or elope.
Now, this is written in the Prophetic Tradition
so it is up to you whether you want to listen to what the clerics say or what the Messenger of God has declared.
Prophet Mohammad loved his wife.
There must have been a reason that Prophet Mohammad married Khadeja tul Kubra.
Prophet Mohammad was 25 at the time and Khadeja tul Kubra was 40 years old despite that he married her.
This is before the announcement of Prophethood was made.
How many years prior?
15 years.
When Khadeja tul Kubra passed away, Prophet Mohammad declared it the Year of Sorrow.
This shows his love for her for he named it the Year of Sorrow.
Therefore, in light of this Prophetic Tradition, all the Muslim men should know and understand that they should marry the woman who loves them.
You should marry the one you love and who loves you.
This advice is not coming from me.
This is coming from the Tradition of the Prophet of Islam.
There is something else written in that Prophetic Tradition which I do not wish to speak upon.
I believe the clerics made their own addition.
If you read the following sentence in this Prophetic Tradition
because Muslims do not care about what is written, they just read it and move on, they never pay attention to it.
However, if you pay attention to it
In the name of the Prophet and God, I ask you to pay attention to what is written in the following sentence.
It says, ‘Marry the one who can bear more children’.
Now you tell me how will you know just by looking at a woman’s face whether or not she can bear more children
How will you know?
If we believe the second part of this Prophetic Tradition to be truthful then what will we do?
We will ask the doctors to check the woman we want to marry, we will take her to gynaecologists
and get her fertility system checked out and if her ovaries are healthy and find out how many children she can bear.
We would go and get a medical report for it.
How does that sound to you?
It sounds ridiculous, doesn’t it?
Unless you think you can determine how many children a woman can have by looking at her face.
We’re not talking about cows or goats.
We are talking about a human being.
Therefore, the second part of this Prophetic Tradition is not a statement of Prophet Mohammad.
It is an addition by the clerics.