Hi, I'm Manjit Kaur Ruprai and I'm a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Therapist. Today I am going to
talk about how narcissists punish their victims. If you have ever been in a relationship with a
narcissist, you will likely have fallen victim to the numerous punishment tactics they use to
control and manipulate. These relationships can be any. A narcissist is going to punish
you in some way. Anytime a narcissist sees you as a threat to themselves, you are likely to become a
target to their punishment. Narcissists have an unstable sense of self which means they easily
fall victim to their own insecurities. They are deeply miserable and project this inner misery
onto their victims. As a way to fuel their ego and need for excessive attention and admiration
they punish their victims through control and manipulation. A narcissist will use many forms
of punishment and will use them as needed. A narcissist will use gaslighting. This is a
form of psychological manipulation in which the victim is made to doubt the truth. Gaslighting
starts where your abuser will call you crazy and insane. They will do or say something and then
will deny they said or did that. As a result, you begin to question your reality you begin
to believe what your abuser is telling you. This form of manipulation can be so subtle and covert
that it is not obvious that manipulation is occurring. When the victim question things,
a narcissist will quickly call you crazy. When a narcissist cannot get their way, they use silent
treatment. This is when the abuser refuses to communicate with you. You are ignored and made
to feel you do not exist. Although some people find the silent treatment peaceful it can be
just as painful as arguing. You are literally made to feel like you do not exist, and many find this
unbearable. I know I struggled with it because I constantly questioned what I had done wrong.
When a narcissist is dissatisfied with you, they show a surge of anger. When a narcissist goes
into a fit of rage for no apparent reason or for something you allegedly did to hurt them you will
know. It is going to confuse you because you will question what you did. Whether you did something
or not, it does not matter. They are really angry with themselves, so they take this rage
out on anyone that crosses their path. You could even be asking a general question or going about
your business and this could be just the trigger that they need. It sounds insane, but this is how
narcissists are. They say the most foulest and hurtful things and there is no stopping them.
A narcissist will project whatever they are onto you. They will turn the focus from themselves and
shift it on you. They will accuse you of the things they are likely doing. This could be
cheating, accusing you of something, projecting blame onto you or just their inner misery. It
does not matter. Blame shifting. A narcissist will blame shift it all on you. They cannot take blame
because this means they are at fault and this causes a blow to their ego. The blame shifting
is another way in which narcissists can protect their unstable sense of self. if you are going
through this please consider this relationship. Don't allow the narcissist to make you feel even
more crazy. Ongoing abuse like this leads to many health problems, depression, anxiety and not being
able to move on in life. And it can also lead to Chronic health problems. If you would like to know
more about what I do visit my website. The details are below. You might also want to get a copy of
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