I just got off the phone with one of my coaching clients who I do weekly calls with.
And he told me a story and I'm going to tell you that story right now. And then I want to tell
you another story that reminds me of that one. And this is all going to be teaching you on this video
what women really want and why they want it and in this specific case. Here's the story.
My client was at the gym and he was working out and he said that there was this girl there that
seemed interested in him. And I said well, how did you know? He said I was at the gym
and she kept waving at me. And I kind of waved back. But then she waved at me again
and then I waved back. And I said okay, well sounds good. You waved back. Did
you go over and talk to her? And he said no I didn't. At this point, I'm thinking oh,
maybe this girl wasn't cute. He wasn't attracted to her. I said well, what's the deal? Was she not
cute? Why didn't you go talk to her? He goes she's probably one of the five hottest girls
that I see in the gym all the time. I said dude, why didn't you go over and talk to her? This is a
clear obvious signal that she wants to talk to you. She's waving at you. That doesn't happen
very often. And he said I just didn't want to seem obvious and basic. And I said okay, I think
I understand what you're saying. You're saying that you didn't want to go over and talk to her
because every other guy hits on her and then you'd be just another guy? And he said yes,
exactly. I said well listen, that was the worst thing you could have done because she
wanted to talk to you obviously. She was showing signs of interest and then you blew it. Now you're
in this situation where you have nothing. Even though you thought in your head this weird idea
that this was basic or just overall not a normal move to do or guys are doing it all the time.
You missed out on your chance and now you'll never be able to talk to her. This reminds me
of something that I did very similar to him when I was in college. I remember it
very clearly. It was something just like that and it was because I was nervous and
I was scared to talk to girls. But I made this excuse in my head. I remember
I was in college and I was in a fraternity. And when you're in a fraternity girls are coming
over all the time. I was I think a junior in college and all these girls were coming over
and I was in that mindset. I was like okay, every guy's talking to her, every guy's trying to hit
on her or all the other girls. I'm going to be the guy who plays it cool. What I'm going to do is I'm
not going to give them attention and I'm going to be in the other room or just be in the same room
with them but not talk to them and then they'll notice me because I'm not like every other guy.
But of course, I was lying to myself. I was just nervous to talk to them. And obviously this ended
up with the result of what, nothing. You don't talk to the girls, nothing happens. My point
here with both of these stories is that I didn't go over there, my client didn't go over there,
and nothing happens. What girls want you to do is not ignore them. They want you to go
over and talk to them. And the reason why a lot of girls won't initiate conversation is because
it's a very masculine thing to do. No woman wants to feel masculine just like a guy like you doesn't
want to feel feminine. It's not comfortable. We like being in our masculine, we like being in that
in that powerful, masculine position. When you're in a situation where there's a guy and a girl,
the girl is gonna want the guy to come over and talk to her so she can be in that feminine,
receptive position. She wants you to go over and talk, she wants you to go over to her and talk to
her, she wants you to initiate the conversation. This my friend is called dominance which I've
talked about. It's a big piece of my TED formula which is in my Hooked program. And it's one thing
that I don't think guys really fully understand which is why I'm doing a video on it here.
Women want to feel like they are being approached. A lot of guys mix this up and they think that
girls think oh they're the hot shit and they just want to be the ones who are pampered and talked to
and guys feel like girls are putting themselves on this pedestal. And yes, some women are and
they feel like they deserve that. But mostly the reason is because women want to be approached so
they can feel that femininity. For you as a guy, I want you to feel what it's like to be in that
masculine feeling. I want you to feel that and I want you to be going over and talking to women
and not playing it cool. Forget the idea of playing it cool. That's never going to help
you. It's going to get you nowhere. You're never going to be able to get a girl on a date or get a
girl to sleep with you or get a girlfriend if you don't initiate conversation with a lot of women. A
lot of women. It's gonna be a numbers game for two reasons. One, most women might not like you off
the bat. And most women, you might not like off the bat. There's all these determining factors,
you don't know if it's gonna be a match or not. Some women might like not like you, some women you
might not like. You have to have a lot of volume and this is inevitably a numbers game because
you've got to create the circumstance in which you can be your most attractive self.
And then find a woman who likes you and one that you are filtering for that you are interested in.
And it all takes being the initiator. I want you to be the one who is always making the move
or else you'll get squat. I said this to my client. And by the way, if you're interested in
coaching as well, I'll put a link down below where you can apply and we can do coaching together. I
said this to him today. I said what's worse, going over to a girl and getting rejected or going home
and going ah shit, I totally should have done that and now I completely regret it. This really
triggered some good stuff in his head. He was like whoa, you're right. I don't like this feeling.
I don't like the feeling of regret. I don't like telling you that I wasn't able to go over there. I
hate that. And yeah, I would rather get rejected. It would be so much better if I approached her or
10 other women that day and they were not interested, or maybe I wasn't interested,
instead of going home and going nope, I didn't give it a shot. I remember when I was first
learning this stuff and I was going out and doing a lot of approaches and talking to women,
I'd get rejected all the time. I don't think I ever got a rejection that was so
bad. And trust me, I got some bad ones although people would think that. But it was never so bad
where I regretted doing it. I don't think I've ever regretted doing an approach. I've only
regretted not taken taking action. Inaction was the thing that I regretted every single time. I
even felt good. Like it felt good to pump me up to even go over and speak to a girl, because I
had really bad approach anxiety, even if it didn't work out. And that's what I want to get through
this camera into your brain and I want you to be the one who is also thinking on that level. No
more regret, be the initiator, practice dominance so you can make more things happen. If this is
helping and you need more help you can apply for coaching with me. There's a link down below. Leave
a comment down below and let me know that you are initiating approaches this week and you are
talking to women and you're getting that volume up. I want to hear from you. Write a comment down
below. Let me know. I'll be in the comments as well. And I'll see you on the next video.