What's up, ladies?
Welcome to another episode of Galtelligence.
As usual, I'm here today with Beardy and Larry to help you with your dating woes.
Ever wondered whether or not the guy you like likes you back?
Stuck plucking petals off of flowers playing "he loves me, he loves me not?"
For today's episode, we're breaking down all the signs he wants you to talk to him
so you can save yourself from all the mind-reading and petal plucking.
We made a similar version of this over at MantelligenceDating,
so we thought we'd make one for the gals too.
We're also teaching you how to approach men
and how not to approach a man at the end of this video because, believe me,
there's a bad way to do it.
Let's get right to it.
1.
He Keeps You in Close Proximity A guy who likes you will naturally gravitate
towards you and will try to close the gap between you
as often as they can.
If you don't know what that looks like, here are some for-instances:
You may notice that a guy at work always sits next to you during meetings.
Perhaps, you're at a party, and in the midst of a crowded
room, this guy chooses to squeeze in where you're at to be close to you.
A guy subtly trying to get into your personal space
is one of the many signs he wants you to talk to him.
Maybe he's shy, or perhaps he's still testing the waters.
Who knows.
If anything, a man making an effort to be close to you
as often as he can is a symbolic sign of him being on the same "team" as you.
That's according to body language expert and author of
"Success Signals: A Guide to Reading Body Language," Patti Wood.
Another sign a guy likes you and wants you to talk to him
is if he tries to lean towards you when making small talk
or is always trying to break the barrier between you two- be it physical or intangible.
This may look like a guy losing his pen and then mysteriously finding it on your desk
or a guy trying to get on your friends' good side so they can subconsciously
put in a good word for him.
According to clinical psychologist Carla Marie Manly,
"leaning-in" is a non-verbal sign of attraction and is a man's way of saying,
"I enjoy you.
I want to be close to you."
Now that's low-key.
Don't know how to talk to guys?
Check out this video where we shared some of the best small talk
starters out there.
4.
He Tries to Get Your Attention Online Speaking of removing barriers, one of the
sneaky ways a guy tells you he likes you and one of the revealing signs he wants you
to talk to him is if he tries to get your attention online.
In the world of social media and online messaging, a girl looking for love needs to keep an eye
out for a man's effort in cyberspace.
He leaves a heart emoji in all of your photos, slides you a dm, comments in all of your posts,
shares posts that he knows resonates with you, heck,
he'll even go as far as going through your old posts
and liking them just to let you know he's around.
If you're both on the same page, take that as a green light to start a conversation
with him.
Don't know how to approach a man online?
Here are some tips: One, if you're feeling gutsy, cut to the chase
and ask him out already.
You already know he likes you, so you might as well take the flirting offline.
The next time he likes a post or a photo of you, send him this message verbatim:
"So, where should we get that drink?"
Spunky, right?
Guys love that.
Second,
go through his profile and find something you can talk about or make fun of.
Did he really need to wear a cheesy slogan shirt at that block party?
Can he really cook, or is he just using it to attract women?
Using humor in a light-hearted way is the perfect icebreaker,
not to mention the perfect way to create instant intimacy.
You can also ask him a random question, use a cheesy pick-up line,
or ask him a 'Would You Rather" question.
Don't know how to pick up men or how to approach a guy?
This video where we teach you how to start a conversation with a guy will
help you get started.
3.
He Tries to Catch Your Gaze Ever wondered when to approach a guy you like?
Watch out for mutual eye contact.
People look at people they like and avoid looking at people they don't like.
A guy glancing at you, again and again, is one of the obvious signs he likes you.
According to clinical psychologist Dr. Suzana Flores, "when someone is in love with you,
they will stare at your eyes more directly and for a longer period of time.
The next time you're at a bar or any social setting, take a look around
because men who are attracted to you will most probably try to catch your gaze.
Okay.
So you like him, and he likes you.
What now?
You can't keep staring at each other the whole time.
Someone's got to make a move.
Don't know what to do when a guy looks at you?
Here's how to approach a man who's obviously captivated by you.
If you're interested and you want to meet him,
look back, hold his gaze for four seconds, and smile.
At this point, you better have your flirty questions ready
because he'll be coming your way anytime soon.
Or, if you're feeling like a queen, go ahead and make the first move.
Confidence is always sexy.
Don't know how to break the ice?
Here are 15 flirty questions to ask a guy you like.
Watch the video here.
Are you seeing any signs a guy wants you to approach him?
Stay tuned because we have two more items in this list of signs he wants you to talk
to him.
Before we continue, I just want to remind you that at the end
of this video, we're also teaching you how to approach men and how to get a guy the
right way because there's always a bad way to do it.
Curious?
Keep watching.
2.
He'll Preen Himself Almost as hard as finding out how to get a
boyfriend and how to approach men is figuring out whether or not you should
talk to a guy.
I mean, you don't want to get ahead of yourself when you're not really sure
if he's interested, right?
If you're looking for a green light, watch out for preening gestures.
According to body language expert Steph Holloway, preening gestures are common signs a guy wants
you to talk to him.
According to her, both men and women tend to preen when they're
attracted to someone to show they're available and interested.
So when a man always fixes his hair, straightens his tie, parts his lips, or glances
at the mirror every time you're around, it's a good sign that he wants you to talk
to him.
Do you want to know how to talk to your crush without being awkward?
Pay him a compliment.
The next time you notice him adjusting his tie,
tell him how nice it is.
If you catch him glancing at the mirror, say, "Trust me.
You already look good."
1.
He Blushes Around You Just in case you can't take a hint, a guy
turning red every time he's around you means he's into you.
Every time you get a hit of adrenaline or see someone attractive,
blood rushes to your face, causing your cheeks to get red.
Blushing is also an evolutionary way the body attracts the opposite sex.
In fact, according to clinical psychologist Mary Lamia,
blushing is an honest response to seeing someone attractive and a very obvious
sign he wants you.
If you still don't know how to flirt with a guy, relationship expert Lauren Berman advises
using your body language to let him know you're interested.
So the next time you talk to a guy you like, make sure you don't cross your arms,
turn your torso towards him, and keep his gaze at all times.
Now that you know how to approach a man, when to approach a guy,
and all the signs he wants you to talk to him, it's time we teach you
how NOT to approach a guy because some girls just don't know how to talk to men.
First of all, in this situation, the guy's doing all the waiting, which means you get
to choose whether or not to talk to him.
This also means that you don't have to act desperate around
him.
Ladies, you don't have to make up a crazy backstory
or a cirque du soleil scenario just to impress the guy you like.
If you're wondering how to approach a man the right way, the best
way to do it is to dazzle him with a good conversation
but instead of doing all the explaining, get to asking and ask him a lot of why questions.
He's likely to reveal more about himself if you follow up with a why question.
Ask him who he's with, why he loves the place, or why he loves doing what he does.
And remember, you're trying to draw him in, so be genuinely interesting.
The trick is to think of something about you that will catch his attention- a cool hobby,
an acquired taste that you like, a weird or an amazing life experience.
In his book "The Art of Seduction," " Robert Green said,
"a bright surface may have a decorative charm, but what draws your eye into a painting is
a depth of field, an inexpressible ambiguity, a surreal complexity."
Get it?
Substance over form.
Got any tips about how to approach men?
How about sharing some signs a guy wants you to talk to him?
Go ahead and share your thoughts in the comments section below.
Don't miss out on a potentially great love story by missing
the signs he wants you to talk to him.
To hekp you break the ice, check out this video