Okay, so what makes a woman want to date a man?
What's the most important factor?
Recently, a study was conducted at UC Davis University of California.
Davis to answer this question
and what they found actually might surprise you.
They analyze 6,600 speed dates that they set up
and discovered that a feeling of connection
was the number one factor which determined
if a woman wanted to go on a real date with a man
after the experiment.
It wasn't attraction or perceived popularity
or status or anything of that sort.
It was the feeling of connection
which you can also call chemistry or compatibility
that made the biggest difference.
Now, as a woman,
that doesn't really surprise me very much.
I understand the value of a strong emotional connection
and how much we women rely on it
when choosing someone to date.
However, most guys have no idea
how to create a solid connection with a woman.
Especially in a short span of time.
So I thought that in today's video,
I would show you four simple moves
to create the sense of connection or chemistry
that will allow you to land more dates
with women of your choice.
So if you apply these four moves in your first interaction with a woman
or even on a first date,
she's definitely going to want to see you again.
And with that said, let's dive into the video.
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So here are the four connection building moves
that you should use.
#1) Set a Playful Tone to Start
Okay, this is easy.
Playfulness and humor bond people faster than anything else.
But most guys don't take advantage of this.
They treat a conversation as an exchange of a logical information.
I call this exchanging data points.
So where are you from? I'm from Wisconsin.
What do you do for a living?
I'm a sales manager or I'm an accountant.
What do you do like?
It's boring, it's data points.
It's robotic, it goes on and on.
This is again... boring stuff.
No woman who has a conversation like this
with a guy will think:
Oh my God, I hope I see him again. He's so dreamy.
So instead of focusing on a mere exchange of information,
you gotta start focusing on having fun and being playful.
Especially during the early parts of the interaction
and there are two easy ways to do this.
So you first answer the basic small talk questions
you get at the start of the conversation
in a silly or absurd manner.
So she says:
So what do you do?
So instead of answering logically which is "I do this",
You can say:
Well, I just quit my day job to be a full-time male stripper.
I think it's going to work out quite well.
Or she asks:
Where are you from?
You reply:
Well, my mommy tell me that I'm a gift from God so Heaven.
I guess so.
This is not overly witty expert comedian type humor.
It's just being silly with her.
It's something for her to remember afterwards.
Nothing not taking anything too seriously.
Not only will it make the woman laugh
which is a great thing
but it will immediately set you apart from guys
who keep giving boring answers to these basic questions.
So after cracking the joke,
you can go ahead and give a serious reply.
But adding humor early in the conversation
will always serve you well and plant the seeds of connection
because it gets people to drop barriers.
You can also give silly sarcastic or observe replies to her answers.
So let's say she tells you she's a lawyer,
you can say:
Oh, a lawyer, I guess I gotta be careful of what I say around you.
Don't let me drink tonight.
Or she tells you that she's from Tennessee,
you can say:
Oh, so you're a musician, huh?
Can you write me a nice little love song?
Again, like these aren't good,
but just do something that is not the norm.
It's all about letting loose and saying silly things.
And trust me,
it will make an amazing impression on the woman
and she will start to feel that chemistry with you
because she's dropping that guard and making her like
just be different with you and having a connection.
A practical exercise you can do to start building this habit is this.
So start answering the first question you get
in an interaction in a playful manner
just like with everybody.
Or you have a playful reply to her answer.
Either of those work
but get in the habit of adding humor to a conversation early on.
So if you want more joke types and proven humor tactics to copy,
watch my video about
the five jokes that kill with the ladies in any situation.
So it'll give you five easy jokes anybody can crack
to make a woman laugh
even if you're not quick on your feet.
So I'm going to leave the link in the description box below
so you can watch it after you watch this video.
So moving on.
#2) Open and Expand
While playfulness and humor
is always appreciated in a conversation
and can like open up a woman to more connection,
it doesn't always mean you have to be fun and funny.
You can be serious too.
Especially if that's who you are.
In fact, you have to be at some point.
However, guys make a big mistake in this department as well.
Like I mentioned before,
most guys treat a conversation as an information exchange
and with that comes the awful habit
of answering questions in extremely short logical manner.
So what do you do for fun?
Well, not much, I go bowling at times.
What about you?
Exchange of information.
That's a typical example
of how guys talk when meeting a woman.
So question, short service level answer
followed by a question for her.
This doesn't create any chemistry or connection.
If you do this,
you'll very soon find yourself asking her question
and she will feel like she's being interrogated
Which is not good and that's not good for you either
because it's boring for you.
So if you want conversations to flow more naturally
and create a connection,
the best thing you can do is practice.
Giving more expansive answers and replies
usually injecting emotion into them.
So what do you do for fun?
Well, I like to go bowling with my friends on the weekend.
It's a great way to make sure we hang out at least once a month.
Plus I'm a really competitive guy
so it's a lot of fun for me to play against my friends.
It gets really competitive at times. Let me go crazy.
See how different that is from the previous example.
It's giving more of you.
This gives so much more insight into your personality
which is crucial for bonding.
You reveal that you're competitive.
You reveal you have friends.
You're giving her a lot more.
Even if I personally don't like bowling,
I can relate to the fun of doing something with my friends,
being competitive and so on.
So connection.
So not only do you show your personality,
when you give expansive answers,
you also become relatable to people
regardless of their personal experiences or preferences.
You start to connect with your values and emotions.
And that's the real basis of a solid connection.
It's the sub level.
So I'm going to give you another example.
So say you guys are talking about movies.
And she says her favorite movie is the Shawshank Redemption
which is one of my favorites.
Instead of just saying: Well, my favorite one is so and so,
He could say: Oh, I like that one.
Responding to her:
My favorite movie of all time has to be
Christopher Nolan's Dark Knight.
Hands down, I was a comic book nerd growing up
and to see what Nolan did with Batman was just spectacular.
I've watched it like a hundred times and I could watch it again any day.
See how much personality this answer shows.
Plus you also related to her.
So this makes connecting so much easier.
Moreover, if the girl has seen the movie,
she's going to be able to relate and build on that rapport.
But even if the girl hasn't watched it,
she might relate to the idea of geeking out over something
or being a nerd growing up.
It's a win-win.
You give her more, she gives back more.
Plus if she hasn't seen it, you might even turn it
into a Netflix and chill-type date later on.
See how many advantages there are to this.
So learn to give expansive answers
and you don't have to go on a super long monologue
like I'm giving to you
but just push yourself to open up more
and give more than that one sentence.
So try to talk at least 10 to 15 seconds longer
than you normally would to give her more.
So this is going to make the conversations flow easily
and spark a real connection.
Let's go on to
#3) Use Warm Platonic Touches
This is literally the easiest way to build trust and connection.
But again, most guys don't take advantage of it
like 99% of guys don't take advantage of it.
If you've just met a girl
and you want to add some warm platonic touches
into the early interaction,
you can do a handshake.
You can do a high five,
resting your hand on her shoulder to get her attention.
There are so many ways to do this.
In fact, I have made multiple videos on this topic
and if you're worried about coming off as creepy or inappropriate
when touching a woman,
then just watch my video
on how to touch a woman to turn her on
because it's going to show you all that you need to know
about where to touch, how to touch,
how to escalate and so on.
So I'll leave that link in the description below
so you can watch it after this video.
I highly recommend you check it out
because touch is so important.
It's one of the best ways to connect with anybody
but specifically a woman,
you need to use this tool to your advantage
and you need to start early with your touches.
The longer you delay, the more awkward
it's going to feel for her and for you.
So I would say touch her at least once within
the first 10 to 15 seconds of conversation
and this could be a simple handshake.
But just do it, do something.
Get in the habit of initiating touch early on.
It's going to help you more than you can imagine.
Last one for today which is...
#4) Be an Exceptional Listener
So once you get the conversation going
and you see that she's opening up to you,
it's extremely important to be an amazing listener.
Women absolutely love the feeling of being fully heard and understood.
Plus you want to get her talking.
So like this is great
and being a great listener will make her feel that way
and there are two easy steps to be a fantastic listener.
First, when you're talking to her,
give her your full attention.
Nothing feels more annoying or insulting
than someone looking around and visibly not paying attention
when you're talking.
So face her, look at her, and give her your full attention.
Second thing you can do is this.
Encourage her to elaborate
or expand on what she's talking about.
Let's say she says
she switched schools a lot when she was growing up,
you can encourage her to expand by saying:
Oh, you know, tell me more about that.
What was that like?
That like encourages her.
If she's telling you
about a great vacation she took recently to,
I don't know like Barcelona, you can say:
Wow, that sounds nice, tell me more about that.
Trust me, she will absolutely love this and love you for this.
Everybody loves this.
This phrase tell me more is literally a cheat code
if you use it when a woman
has already started opening up to you.
This will speed up and strengthen the connection like crazy
and she will be eager to spend more time with you
because she'll feel more connected to you.
She's being heard.
And that said,
we have reached the end of our list of connection building moves.
However, there's one last point that I want to make.
And so while these moves are incredibly effective
and will make women want to spend more time with you,
there's one more thing you need
if you want to take things to the next level with her.
Whether it's a date or just attraction sexually
and that's flirting.
Flirting is the one move that not only builds connection
because it's playful and fun
but it also creates sexual tension which you need in every interaction
which makes it easy for you
to go from a hello to a date to the bedroom.
Because the urge to release all the sexual attention
is what leads to physical intimacy.
Which means if you don't know how to flirt properly like most guys,
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Thank you for watching this video till the very end.
Connection is something I love talking about.
I really hope you found it useful.
And as always, I'll see you again next week.