didn't pan is anybody's favorite couple that came together in the office but in
this video we're gonna be talking about the time and Jim Halpert and Pam Beesly weren't really
good people and see if there's anything that we can learn from that
this is Chris from the rewired saw where we talked about the problem but focus on
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confession so I never got into the office I watched an episode here and
there but I knew like the way I am I have to binge watch the whole thing
so anyways last night my beautiful girlfriend Chris and I we binge watch
season one so in this video we're gonna be talking about Jim and Pam in season 1
and we're gonna talk about all the bad things and see what all of us can learn
about relationships but first let's do a little recap of how their relationships
started out in season 1 so the series starts out by showing the playful
flirting between Jim and Pam making the viewer think oh I hope they get together
it's not long after that when we find out that Pam is actually engaged to some
d-bag named Roy from the warehouse throughout the entire season we see Jim
clearly having a thing for Pam because he's in love with her but again she is
with Roy one day when Jim is flirting with Pam Roy walks in and he is ticked
off but it's cool because Jim backs down and he says they were playing a prank on
Dwight which Dwight denies to cover up the downsizing alliance that he has with
Jim then comes the company basketball game where the sales team plays against
the warehouse and things get a little physical between Jim and Roy while Jim
is trying to impress pan with his sweet basketball skills in the season finale
though Jim and Warren are pretty cool but each other eating lunch together
with Pam when Roy starts telling Jim to hook up with the new gal katie who's
selling purses and how he would hook up with her if he was single and Pam gets
upset that Roy guy sure is a jerk and after seeing all this well I cook up
well Jim and Pam should get together it's only the right thing to do but we
need to calm down and talk about what's really
here all right so we need to talk about this just with relationships as a whole
I've been in bad relationships you've probably been in bad relationships all
of us have been in bad relationships and during that time the more we start to
dislike the person that we're with the more feelings can grow with another
person sometimes they might even seem a little bit more attractive just because
we are not happy in the relationship that we're in so we need to take a look
at this because while you're still with somebody it is not okay
to be flirting with somebody else there are many people many many people who
consider emotionally cheating worse than physically cheating with another person
and that is what Jim and Pam are doing this entire time now don't get me wrong
that guy Roy is a jerk and Pam should not be with that guy Roy but while she
is with him it is not okay to be flirting with Jim but at the same time
Jim pursuing that and continuing to flirt with Pam throughout this entire
relationship that is not okay either especially when this dude got caught by
Roy flirting with Pam and Roy was clearly upset about it so what ends up
happening I'm only into the first episode of season two but that's when a
little kiss goes down but anyways we need to talk about this as a situation
what is the correct thing to do so let's break it down for Jim as well as Pam
because if you're the person in the relationship like if you are seeking
something from somebody else you need to break it off like you simply need to
break it off like one of the one of the lives of the taller selves is then it's
okay to be doing this because we're not happy and this person is a jerk or they
did this or they did that like the best thing to do the right thing to do is to
just break it off and say yo I'm not happy now I know what some of you are
thinking Pam's been with this guy for years they're engaged it's not that easy
I know I am not denying that in any way shape or form it is hard it is difficult
especially if you're living with the person but it is the right thing to do
to have that conversation so either a work on it go get yourself some couples
counseling or something like that or be you
break it off before you start pursuing anything else because then how are you
any better than the jerk that you're with right now in Jim's case when seeing
the pan is with this jerk Roy like it would be best for Jim to have a
one-on-one conversation with Pam said doing this little you know flirty
back-and-forth in the office a and say yo girl I got feelings for you yet
though you're with this guy Roy I don't think he's that good for you what are we
gonna do about this right and that never takes place they just continue doing
this and one of them or even Roy or both of them are gonna get hurt the other
thing to take into consideration there is a scene in which Pam says that Jim is
like a brother to her and let me tell you men and women out there do not be
someone's purely emotional boyfriend or girlfriend this happens a lot like when
you hear about the friendzone that is not fair to you it is not fair to you
for somebody to be in a relationship who you you know are attracted to they're in
a relationship with somebody who is not giving them the emotional needs that
they have so then they are using you for their emotional needs but they're like
oh you're like my sister or oh you're like my brother that is not okay that is
not fair for you and god only knows how long you'll be stuck in that situation
so if this is something going on in your life if you're in a bad relationship
either a try to work on it try to fix it or be leave that person and if you're
the other person from the outside and you think this person's attracted to you
you need to sit down and have an adult conversation about this thing before
pursuing anything and potentially being a homewrecker you know what I mean so
let me know if you've had any experience with this if this is something that
you've dealt with in the past have you been the person who has been emotionally
cheated on or have you emotionally cheated in the past like how did that
work out for you right anyways let's have a conversation about that below
like I said I will be doing a bunch of movies TV shows classic shows I have two
videos coming out really soon that I'm really excited for to talk about some
other subjects but like I mentioned by announcement video like I was raised
by TV and I think you know one of the things is like when when we look at
these relationships and and how they kind of blossom in these shows and
especially if we're learning from these shows and thinking that this is what a
relationship should look like or what we should do like it's no wonder why some
of us only know how to be in relationships that way when we turn into
adults you know what I mean because a lot of us mimic behaviors that we learn
as a child anyways more movies more TV shows coming
up if you have any recommendations for chosen you want me to dive into or any
relationships or topics regarding mental health let me know down in the comments
below all right anyways that's all I got for
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