What I want to talk to you about on today's video is this idea of building
tension. Building tension. If you want to turn a woman on to an insane degree, it's going to be
about building tension. There is a big difference between the way men get turned on and the way
women get turned on, Obviously the first thing is that a man is attracted to a woman and a woman is
attracted to a man. Beyond that, there's something deeper here in terms of how attraction and tension
really work, especially when we're talking about the sexual realm. For a man, as you know,
he's ready to go (snap) like that. A man can be turned on and he can be ready to have sex
and just be ready to jump into it. Now a woman can be like that too. She can definitely be turned
on and within a matter of seconds and be ready to go. It's very rare that she is first of all. And
she's not gonna be as turned on in that moment as she has the potential to be if there is tension
built. I'll say it this way, it starts with the kiss. A woman first needs to be
attracted to you. And I don't mean necessarily physically attracted, although she will be. But
attracted to you in the sense where she's attracted to your behaviors. It's this combination
of your behaviors and your looks that makes her attracted. And so once this is happening,
once this has occurred and you guys break the physical barrier and you go for the kiss,
this is when things can take off. This is when you can really understand how to build that tension.
It starts with the kiss. First of all, when I say build tension, what I'm saying is you're building
up all this energy that's making her excited and turned on and one way to do it is to go very slow.
Okay, very slow. I'm talking like insanely slow that it would almost seem ridiculous.
That slow. And I promise you, me saying that to you is still probably not gonna be slow enough.
What I'm saying is, you don't want to be kissing her really fast and getting really into it.
You want to go slow with the way you're kissing her in terms of the way your tongue is moving,
the way your lips are moving. The way that you're holding her. You're not gonna be grabbing her so
hard. There's time and a place for that but it all starts with that kiss. If you are going slow with
that initial touch barrier break, this kiss, she's going to want more. And she's going to want more
as this whole, escalation so to speak, continues. Let's say you guys are hanging out at your place
and she's on the couch, you're on the couch and you guys start kissing, like I said you're going
slow, you're building up that tension. And you want to move it to the point where eventually
you guys are having sex. Well you're not going to just start ripping off your clothes and going for
it. Again, maybe there's a time and a place for that. And maybe there's a time in place for that
if you've been in a relationship or dating someone for a while. But especially in the very beginning
it's not gonna necessarily happen that fast anyways. Good. I know that sounds crazy,
like Tripp I don't want to wait, I want to do it. No! Good, build that tension because it's
going to make her want you even more and she's going to think that you're an amazing lover
and she's going to want to come back for more. And it's going to build the tension for you too
and make it just as exciting. Again, what we're talking about here is going slow,
going slow with the kiss, going slow with the way that you're touching her. Everything's very slow.
Then it can move to kissing her neck and maybe clothes start to come off. You're still going
to go very slow. You're going to pay attention to the details of her body where you're going
from her neck all the way down to her toes and everything in between. You're not going to go
right for foreplay right away. Even though you might think oh, isn't foreplay going slow? Like
we're not having sex yet? I'm turning her on. Yes, and we'll get there but there's this pre-foreplay
and technically it's all foreplay. But it's just foreplay without even having to touch each other
in the genital region. Kissing her in all these different areas, slowly taking off your clothes
and then getting to the point where you guys are actually having foreplay. Oral sex,
whatever, touching her down there. Everything is going to be so slow, so sensual. That's a good
word to use here, sensual. Although I know that's not very specific. Basically what it means is,
you're focusing, you're paying attention, you're in the moment, you're present, and you're going
at a good pace. If you continue to go through this entire pace, from the moment you kiss her,
all the way to the moment you guys are having sex, boom, tension is built. And here's the thing too.
You might not even end up having sex right away. What I mean is maybe you're on a first,
second date, maybe even a third date. Wherever you are in the dating process and you guys have
maybe only kissed and you've done a things but you haven't really gone all the way to sex yet.
The good news is that's building the tension. If she continues to want to see you that means that
she's still interested. She just needs to wait a little bit because not every woman is gonna want
to have sex with you right away. And of course, I should say you gotta get consent. Make sure once
you get to the point of sex, you are asking for consent. Before we even get to the consent part,
you're going slow and you're building that tension through all these kind of micro escalations,
like when you guys are together. But even in the big picture of things is, maybe on the second or
third date, you guys have only kissed but now tension, more sexual tension is built up. It's
going to make that first time even that much more exciting for the both of you. Even more so for
her because she gets turned on by that tension. Women need to feel comfortable, they need to feel
seduced in order to feel really aroused. It's different for them. There's a mechanism
that is going on in their brain that says, I gotta be safe. I got to be safe physically,
I got to be safe emotionally, meaning she's not feeling judged by you. This safety
makes her feel more attracted. I know again, it's not the same thing for a guy so I'm asking you to
hop into the brain of a woman. She needs to feel safety, she needs to feel comfortable with you.
And in order to do that you need to go slow and build this tension. It's kind of like twofold.
She needs that to feel safe and what that does is actually makes her feel more aroused and builds it
up huge. Builds it up huge where she's gonna want to jump your bones and beg you to get physical.
That's the whole point here. I actually have a demonstration that I do. And you can see it
if you just click on the link below. It's called "Tripp's Tension Technique" where I show you how
to build tension right before the kiss and I have a demonstration that I'm doing with another female
so you can see how to build tension before the first kiss. It's amazing. It works. Guys have sent
in the comments when they've gotten it's powerful and that it works. And by the way, it's completely
free. All you got to do is put your email in. You'll see a link down below. Get "Tripp's
Tension Technique" so you can learn how to build that tension right from the get go. All right,
hope that helps. You know the deal. Sensual, slow, and focused. Talk to you on the next video.