You may not bite someone, but you can hiss and, show a kind of a wall
around you, “I will not tolerate this, I cannot tolerate this.” You may not
respond with or react with anger, but you can pretend to be angry.
Why do people get angry?
First reason is when someone either justifiably or not so justifiably, blames
an individual, and you can't handle it.
First thing is to have a dialogue with the person who makes you
angry, have a heart-to-heart talk and see how we can stop this.
The second thing is if you are about to get angry with someone,
it is always good to take a pause.
Reflect on it that ‘instead of getting angry now I will get angry tomorrow’,
and you will buy time and during those few hours, you might realise why the
other person was getting angry, and perhaps you might not even get angry.
You might even feel regret that “Why I was supposed to, or “Why I was intending
to get angry and to teach that person a lesson?” So, the right reasons will
come up – why you should not be angry.
And justifiably or not, sometimes other persons are creating situations
where you become helpless; and you are forced to get in such a situation and
express your mind in a very unkind way.
I think, at that time, if I were you, I would just pretend.
Life of pretension is very good.
We have all these actors, actresses and one question they ask me, “How
should we act in such a way that it is most impressive?” I said, “Make
it as realistic as possible.” If you have to cry, be realistic about the
whole thing; if have you to get angry, be realistic about the whole thing.
But when it comes to real life, make it a drama.
Make drama a real-life, but real life, make it as a drama”.
As Babuji says, “Pretend – pretend that you are angry.” You may not bite someone,
but you can hiss and, show a kind of a wall around you, “I will not tolerate
this, I cannot tolerate this.” You may not respond with or react with anger.
But you can pretend to be angry without allowing that anger to touch your heart.
Because anger is such a thing that not only you cast an anger spell
on others and hurt others, but as a result, you also get affected.
Your heart becomes very toxic at that time; and at that time the
heart releases certain hormones which increases your blood pressure,
heart starts beating very fast, and the whole system becomes stressed.
So, we should pretend that we are angry, but without really getting angry.
Meditation is the key where we learn so many things: good, bad,
and how to create drama also.
Meditation teaches us all these things – not only the divine aspect but also
the worldly aspect of our existence.
That is why Lord Krishna in Gita talks so boldly and so highly about
yoga: “Yogah Karmasu Kaushalam.” Everything becomes kaushalam – perfect.
Even when we watch some movies where there are murder scenes, and the
cases are going on in the court and they make the decision whether it was
premeditated murder or accidental murder.
Premeditated means something which was thought about so well, so well
planned, contemplated from all angles.
So, meditation is one way of looking at things from all angles and that is the
only thing that will give us answers.
To every problem – not just anger – to every problem, you will be able to
study that problem, from all angles.
Whether a solution emerges from it or not, it is a different thing.
But having studied that, you will be able to know whether
there is a solution to it or not.
And what can be the solution, that will be the next step.
So all these things unfold as we tackled each problem.