Would you say that women have the power now in the dating market? Because of the options?
That's a random question. No, that's a great question. It's not that they have the power.
But we'll just say it's, well, it's easier for them to get the guy initially. I think
the late Kevin Samuels said this, that women are the gatekeepers of sex and men
are the gatekeepers of marriage. Oh wow. So it depends where you are in the dating game. If
you're in the very beginning, women have, it's a lot easier for women. If you're a guy that,
we'll say, if you're a woman who is looking for a relationship, which every woman is,
it's harder for them to get into the relationship. And nowadays, we don't
have to go on a rant on this, or we can if we want to, but it's even harder for women. And because
they're so selective and so entitled, that they made it harder on themselves. There you go.
Does that answer your question? It does. And that's a whole other thing we'll talk about at
another time. But that was a great answer. The reason why I asked that question is because
as a man in my business, in the media world, I work with a lot of women. And a lot of those
women are single, but they have a lot of dates. And I tell them like I feel like
I have the power in the dating world. But the negative for them is they have to dig through
all the bullshit of men that they don't want. So do men. My favorite thing to hear a woman say
is, I want a guy to chase you. And I'm friends with these women. Let me see your phone. Let's
go through your DMs. Guys are chasing you. It's just not specifically the guy that you have drawn
up in your mind that you deserve and that you want in your life. And they also subconsciously want to
be chasing men. Absolutely. They don't say that. But that's what they want. We all like to chase,
it's just what we tell ourselves that we don't like because it's like, oh my God, I can't believe
she did this. I can't believe he did that. But that's part of the entertainment of dating. And we
like that. That's the reason why you see a girl or even a guy go with that toxic person. It's like,
well I know I don't need that. I know, it's complicated. It's like, but you still go for the
same thing. Because believe it or not, it's fun. We like it's a little action, it adds a little
spice to everything in your life. That's tension. But what I love, and we'll pivot quickly is that
we all have this depiction of this person that we want and this perfect being that will be good for
us. But we never think about well for that type of person would we be good for them? Like it's
never... dating has become has always been but is even more selfish of a what can I get out of what
can I give in that relationship? Totally. You need to be thinking about both for sure. If you want
to be successful. You need to be thinking about what's good for you. And also what's going to be
attractive to the other person. Absolutely. And then beyond that into the relationship,
same ideas the balance of making the relationship work. Dude, I have stories. I've encountered some
girls and it's just like you should you should want me, like you should be attracted to me. I'm
like, yeah, you're attractive. No, like, that's it. That's all it needs to be. Or don't you find
me attractive? Other guys find me attractive. It's other guys that are in my DMs are trying to talk
to me trying to approach me and I'm like, well go talk to them. You're good. You're being chased
the same way you want. So their list is too long, bro. Their list is too long. They're not gonna...
they're having a hard time finding a guy because their list is 30 things long and
it's not a prioritized list either. It's just a list of things that sound good on paper. There
is prioritized. They're all priorities, all 30 things. But they can't be, it's not realistic.
That's the point. What am I saying? Oh, I should have known. I ran right into that. So they
complain about men like we're the problem. And men have not changed. We haven't changed. That's
the thing about and I say this again dude. I have so many platonic girlfriends and I say we are the
simplest creatures on the planet. All we need is is good sex, a sandwich, and decent company.
Dudes are, we're great. Guys are good. They're, a majority of guys are good guys. How do I know?
Because you've met too many of them. I talk to more of these guys than anyone ever will. None
of these women, because they're not giving any guys a chance. And they struggle because
it's these are genuinely good guys and it's like they say they want a good guy, they say they want
a good guy then they don't want me, like why? And it's confusing because now it doesn't make
sense. It is confusing so we'll clear it up. The reason why you're a good guy who's got a good job,
who... I don't know, goes to church, has a great relationship with his family, has friends, has
interesting hobbies. The reason why that, well, there's a few reasons why they're not getting
the woman. One, it's a harder dating market, women are pickier than ever and more entitled.
So it's just a harder dating landscape. But let's only focus on the things that we can control. The
other thing is that you might not be exhibiting the attractive traits that women are attracted
to. The masculine traits, like I've said before tension, entertainment dominance, my TED formula,
the basics of what are the mating strategies for women and men. And so men are, who are
doing all the good things in their life to make them a high value guy, but aren't getting women
aren't doing that. So they're probably acting like nice guy. They're probably talking to women and
being simpy and beta and kind of letting them lead and take over. And they're not able to produce
a spike of emotion inside of a woman that says, I want to sleep with this guy.
And so they're gonna sleep with Chad. Because he's doing that. And so you can be a person to
do that. That's what we teach in the coaching program. And we're able to get people to that
point. But that's why when people say nah none of that matters. It's looks, it's money, it's status.
I'll show you 1000s of men who have looks money and status and they're not getting any girls.
So what's the problem? The bottom line is like, I preach, everything matters. You want to do it all.
You want to be exhibiting attractive masculine Chad like behaviors that build tension with a
woman. You also want to have a great job that's producing a good salary. You want to have an
interesting life. You want to do it all. And if you do it all, what happens? It's easier.
It's easier to get women for sure. Exactly. And you have more opportunities with more women.