Hey guys, welcome back to Operation Self Reset.
I am Jacob Nawrocki, and today we're talking about setting goals.
That is right.
As you know, goals are very important when it comes to your life.
It doesn't matter if you're in school, if you have a job, whatever it may be—goals
are super important.
But did you know that there're four reasons why people don't set goals?
The reasons are: number one, fear.
Number two, they have a poor self image.
They don't feel like they're worthy of goals.
Third, they feel like they don't need them, and the fourth one—which is as important
as probably all of them, actually—is that they don't know how to set goals.
And that's too bad because we all know why we need goals, right?
So let's dive into, first of all, why people don't feel like they need goals, and the first
reason is because of fear.
So there are three reasons why people are afraid of goals.
Number one, fear of failure.
That's a huge one.
Everybody, it doesn't matter who you are, what you've done, what you accomplished, what
you did not accomplish—fear of failure is a big deal.
It affects everybody.
Failing at something is embarrassing.
It's kind of like a stab to our soul, our personalities, the things that really make
us who we are.
If we fail at something, we feel like we let down other people even though those people
don't really care.
The second one is judgment.
We have fear of people judging us if we do set these goals, if we do succeed in them.
Judging other people is easy to do when it's that person, but we feel the pressure when
people are judging us.
Nobody wants to be different; nobody wants to be that oddball.
And the last one of fear is success.
And it sounds weird because when you think you reach success you would be okay.
You would be fine like, "I reached success.
I hit my pinnacle."
But in actuality, when you reach that success and you reach that goal, people are going
to be mad at you.
People aren't going to like you.
People are going to be wondering, "How did you do it?
Did you cheat?
Did you steal?
Did you know somebody?", what have you.
There're so many things when it comes to success even though personally when you reach it you're
like, "Yeah!"
But everybody else around is going to be like, "What?
What's up with you?
What did you do?"
So those are the three reasons why people don't reach goals when it comes to failure.
So let's go into the second one: poor self image.
Now that's an interesting one because when you think of it—poor self image—a lot
of times people always act like they're somebody.
People always act like they're doing well in some subject, doing well in life, doing
well in their career, but in actuality they're really not because we all have that internal
self doubt.
That self doubt is something that causes so many of us to get off track, to follow a path,
and then we get knocked off to the side of the road, and chances are we're not gonna
rebound from that.
So when it comes to our self image, we don't feel like we're worthy to have these goals.
We don't feel like we should really set these goals because chances are we're gonna get
knocked off path.
But why not go ahead and try to reach them?
So that's the second reason why people don't set goals.
The third reason is a lot of people don't feel like they need them.
Why should I set a goal?
I have a career, I have a family, I pay my bills, I go on vacation, and then we enjoy
the weekends.
Why should I set goals?
A lot of people don't feel like goals are really going to help enhance their career,
enhance their family life, enhance their enjoyment of life.
So that's the third reason.
Now let's dive into the fourth reason: people don't know how to set goals.
And that's kind of a big deal.
A lot of people actually don't know how to set goals.
It's like if I asked you a complicated math problem.
Now, if it was 3 x 3, you could tell me that answer right away, but if it was 472,782,000,000
dollars ÷ 17, you would have to write it down and calculate it out.
The same applies to your goals.
If it's a goal today or your goal right now is to go take a shower, you can do that in
a snap of a finger.
Okay, that's your goal.
Go jump in and take a shower.
But if it was a big, complex goal, you would have to sit down and break it down into corresponding
steps.
It's like doing that division problem, but when it comes to setting these goals we really
don't think of it like that.
We just think of a big goal, and, okay, I want to get that goal.
Well, we really don't talk about how do we get that goal?
So in the following series of this, in goal setting series, we're going to be talking
about how to set the goals the right way, how to get over these fears within our lives,
how to build that self image, and how to understand we do need goals in our lives.
So this is part one of a four-part series, and I thank you for watching and I hope to
inspire you to set goals to get the most out of life.
This life is short, might as well enjoy it.
We'll catch you in the next video.