Translator: Amanda Chu Reviewer: Peter van de Ven
Hi.
I hope you all had a bullet coffee, or bulletproof coffee,
to keep you going through the last of the day.
Um, okay.
So imagine the scene:
You've had a really hard day at work;
you have got to get something for dinner on the way home;
you pop into one of those mini supermarkets
that are on every single corner;
you think, "I'll get some of that fresh pasta and sauce";
you go in, get your shopping;
by the time you leave, you've spent fifteen quid.
You're not quite sure how you've done it, and it's really annoying.
If you've ever done that, you're not alone.
That was me.
I wasn't in loads of debt, apart from my mortgage.
I wasn't racking up purchases on credit cards.
I'm not a spendaholic.
But my money was frittering out of my account,
and I had nothing to show for it,
so I decided to do something about it.
I decided to stop spending for a year.
But back up a little bit.
Because it wasn't just supermarket trips and Tesco's that made me stop spending,
it was kind of a general discontentment
with where my money was going and my role as a consumer.
And it was kick-started when me and my husband bought a house,
and it needed quite a lot of work doing to it.
And we decided to put all our stuff in one of those really expensive storage units.
And we were living out of those little plastic drawers you get from B&Q
or something like that.
And we had a few clothes, our pots and pans, and our bikes.
And we're all right, you know, we're fine.
We're living an okay life, a bit dusty in the house.
And now and again, we'd have to go back to the storage unit
There was a lot of stuff in that storage unit.
Admittedly, most of it was mine.
And it was rammed.
I wouldn't even be able to tell you what was in the back of it.
Until one day, I went there, and I saw a box, big box, about this big,
and on the side of it, in my own handwriting,
it said, "NOT NEEDED" in capital letters.
(Laughter)
It struck me!
Then why the bloody hell did I have it?
I didn't even know what was in the box, and I still don't know now.
It's long gone.
And I went home, and I googled a really quite embarrassing phrase, actually.
I googled "get rid of stuff"
because I needed to be told how to put things in a bin
or at least maybe be given permission to do that.
And as Herb mentioned, all these sites came up, the minimalist,
all these sites came up,
these people saying,
"I got rid of all my stuff, and it was amazing, and I feel great,
and I'm so unburdened."
I thought, "Yea, this is what I want.
I don't want the big storage unit for the stuff.
I want to live a life that these people are talking about."
So my husband was totally on board,
probably because most of that crap was mine anyway.
We started getting rid of our stuff;
we were selling it, we donated it, we gave stuff to friends and family.
And we got rid of about 80% of our possessions,
and it was brilliant.
And it was through these minimalist websites
that I found out about "Buy Nothing Day."
Now "Buy Nothing Day" falls on Black Friday,
which for some reason
we have imported from the US even though we don't have Thanksgiving.
And instead of going out and squabbling with your neighbors
for cut-price tellies in the supermarket or the shopping center,
you buy nothing.
You spend time with your kids, you read a book, you go for a walk;
whatever it is, it doesn't cost you any money.
I thought, "What a brilliant idea! I bet I could do it for a year."
And so I did.
The idea of a no-spend year -
By giving up spending,
it would force me to live a different life,
and it'd address two concerns I was having.
The first one was that I wasn't making the most of my money -
the embarrassing bit being that, by trade, I'm a financial journalist,
and I've spent 10 years telling everyone what to do with their money,
and I wasn't actually taking any responsibility for my own.
The second thing was my role as a consumer.
I was really sick of that being my only purpose,
that I would go to work for eight hours
to earn money to buy things that I was told would make me happy.
But we're all told, "Buy this. This is what you need in your life."
That then didn't make me happy,
so I'd go back to work for another eight hours
to earn more money to buy different things that I was then told would make me happy.
Then I was spending money
to repair and insure and replace those things that weren't making me happy.
So my no-spend year started on Black Friday, 2015,
and there are some rules.
So I had to pay for the things I had to pay for.
I had to pay my mortgage and my water rates, my council tax.
I also paid my broadband and my mobile because I'm freelance,
or else I wouldn't be able to work
and it really would've been a no-spend year.
And I also kept paying things like charitable contributions.
And I had a very small food budget, or grocery budget,
so it's three meals a day,
plus very basic toiletries and basic cleaning products
for house, clothes, washing powder, things like that.
And it would be an extreme way to find out what I could do without
but also what I really needed to live a happy life.
And it was hard going.
You know, there's no better way of putting it,
mostly because I didn't give myself any transport budget,
so I cycled everywhere for a year and spent a lot of time looking like ...
that.
(Laughter)
Yeah, a lot of time looking like that.
But I found -
Over those 12 months, it was a real life, you know,
and I learned a lot in being extremely frugal,
and I still had a life.
That's the amazing part.
I found so many new ways to have fun and to socialize
and to still be the person I was before.
I mean, I live in London,
and there is an amazing amount of free things to do on my doorstep:
galleries, exhibitions, concerts, museums.
I was just too lazy to take advantage of them before.
I was defaulting to going to the pub after work,
to going out for dinner because it's easy.
And it takes a bit of time to, you know, find free events.
But I always had lots of nights in as well.
Let's see if this would work.
This is me and my friend Kat,
who's going to kill me for putting this in.
This is us mucking around with free beauty products.
We basically raided my cupboards
to see if we could find free sort of face packs and things.
It's of oats and water, surprisingly a good exfoliator.
And, you know, I didn't actually think of myself as that vain a person
before I did the challenge,
but, yeah, I am.
Especially because I ended up
sort of having what resembles, I suppose, like a lizard skin
because I was so wind whipped because I'd spent so much time doing this.
This was taken in Southwold, where I managed to have a free holiday.
Me and my extremely understanding husband
strapped a tent and our sleeping bags and some food to our bikes,
and we just left London, and we cycled towards the coast.
And we just spent a week camping on the beach,
washing in - well, washing - being in the sea
(Laughter)
and sitting out under the stars.
And actually, that week was the best week that I had in the entire challenge.
And funny enough -
something Dan said earlier this morning in his talk about technology -
I didn't have my phone because I didn't have anywhere to charge it.
And it was living in the world, and it was just the best experience,
so good that I was actually going to do it again this year, when I don't have to.
And it was that good that I didn't actually mind when this happened.
Two days in, lost my shoe somewhere in Great Yarmouth, mmm.
(Laughter)
And that wasn't the only casualty of the year.
This is my jeans by the end - saddle marks you can see there.
And I was a mess,
but I was a really content and happy mess.
Although this was a good feeling,
this is the first thing I bought.
(Laughter)
It was a massive round of drinks for my friends and family,
and say "Thank you" for supporting me.
It was a good feeling.
And it was a massive celebration that night, you know - I'd done it.
People said, "Ah sh-t, gosh, you can't do that!"
I'd done it, and I'd saved loads of money.
I'd saved just over 22,000 pounds.
It's a huge sum.
And I didn't go on a mad spending spree, like everyone thought I would do.
I did something really sensible,
and lots of people said, "Uh, so boring. Can't believe you did this."
I overpaid my mortgage,
(Laughter)
finally listening to my own advice - I overpaid my mortgage,
which means that I'll pay my mortgage for fewer years,
but it also means that I pay less interest to the bank, which makes me happy,
because who likes banks. (Laughter)
But it wasn't rocket science, you know.
I spent less, so I saved more.
Of course that would happen and I would save loads.
Because I embarked on a ridiculously frugal thing to do.
But what I wasn't expecting
was the impact it would have on my life and my attitude and my outlook.
And over that year, I really pushed myself:
I did things I wouldn't have done, I saw things I wouldn't have seen,
and I met people that I wouldn't have met
and who have become really, really good friends.
And I've changed:
I'm more outgoing; I'm more adventurous;
I say yes more;
and I know what's important to me,
and I can tell you, categorically, that it's not things.
I mean I used to shop probably for the same reasons you do -
because I was bored, because I was happy,
because I was sad, because I was treating myself,
because the thing that I was buying
I thought would make me better looking or more interesting or cooler
or just better somehow -
that we could somehow buy a better life.
And I think that that lie is really pervasive
in our sort of quick-fix culture
where we're told by advertisers all the time,
"Buy this. This will make you happy."
And it will for a little bit of time
until your mood changes because you're having another bad day
or because the thing that is the thing to buy has changed -
the new thing has come along.
And if you don't have the money for those quick fixes, like I didn't,
you'd start thinking more long-term,
you'd start thinking, Actually what is important to me?
And that's what I'd like you all to think about:
If you have disposable income -
and we have to acknowledge
there're people in this country budgeting right down to the last 50 P,
who do not have that income -
but if you do, I think you've got a real responsibility to use it wisely.
Now I'm not saying you should all do what I do and stop spending straightaway
and cycle everywhere and walk around with holes in the arse of your jeans.
But just think about your money.
In this country, we hate talking about money,
for whatever reason.
It's our British sensibilities; we do not like talking about money.
And I think that gives it a lot of control.
I bet people in this room
would rather talk to me about their sex life than their bank balance.
But what I'd like you to do is just start thinking
about the areas where you waste money
or where you don't really need to spend money.
There's probably something in your head already.
I'm not going to make everyone stand up for some weird sort of confession
and admit what they spend money on.
I just want you to think about it
and then maybe go home and have a look at your bank statements.
Simple thing, two or three months' worth, just to find out where your money's going.
I looked at a year's worth of bank statements,
which is horrifying.
I basically spent 400 quid on coffee in a year,
and I don't really like coffee that much, not that bothered by it. (Laughter)
But the thing is if you don't know where your money's going,
you can't stop it going to those places.
And you need to ask yourself -
once you've found out where that money's going -
ask yourself, Is it making me happy?
But the difficult bit, I think, is really the next part,
which is asking yourself, What will make me happy?
What would you all love to do?
Maybe it's take the kids on an amazing safari holiday
or take a year out to write a book
or retrain for a new job,
which, according to Volcker, we're all going to have to do anyway.
Or maybe you just want to put a couple of grand aside
to make sure you have that emergency buffer
to give you some financial security.
And once you have the long-term goal,
then you can start to decide
whether the short-term spending is worth sacrificing that long-term goal,
or pushing that long-term goal further ahead.
My long term goal is, very boringly, overpay my mortgage.
But if I do that, if I get rid of my mortgage,
that means that I know I don't have to work until I'm 80 years old,
because I'll have some financial security, that I'll own my own home.
And working towards my long-term goal makes me feel like this.
So hopefully it will come up.
That's how it makes me feel.
So, no amount of short-term spending has ever made me feel like that,
if I'm honest.
But it all comes down, you know -
That comes down to sort of reassessing my priorities.
Now, I'd just ask myself one question before I hand over any money.
I would just ask myself, Do I need this or do I just want this?
And if it's need, excuse me -
If it's need, genuine need, then I buy it.
If it's just want, I put my purse back in my pocket.
Because I actually don't think that we ask yourself that enough.
We say, "I only need that new pair of jeans,"
and you've got three sitting in the wardrobe.
It's a really simple question, but it has a big impact.
But it all comes down to your priorities.
I can't tell you
where to stop spending money or what to spend your money on.
But it's about deciding
whether you want your short-term thrill that you'll get,
if you're happy to give up
your short-term thrill of the new shoes or the new phone
to achieve a longer-term goal that might actually make a real impact to your life,
that might be a real achievement for you or change your life totally.
I can tell you what makes you feel like this.
I can tell you which one will last longest.
We can all take responsibility
for our future, for our money, and for our own happiness.
The only thing I can tell you
is that that happiness cannot be bought in a shop.
Thank you for listening.
(Applause) (Cheers)