hello there today we're going to talk about one of the real problems that one
of my readers is having and she writes there's this lady at work and she is
horrible I've been at work in this new job for
about eight months now and this woman who will remain nameless
is not even my official boss but she has been there forever she knows everything
and she treats me like an insect every chance she gets she undermines me makes
me feel stupid and she even criticize my shoes on casual Friday
I'm not sure what to do I know her life would be way better if I quit but I like
everyone else at the job and I love the job itself what should I do
attach Wow what a pickle in this video I'm going to share my story of a super
similar issue that I was having and how it turned out and I'm going to share two
main lessons that I learned and I think they're really gonna help so stay tuned
you
Wow do I know how you feel I had a very similar thing happened to me and I was
just starting out in my career I just landed my first job as a receptionist
of a large busy downtown law firm I loved the job
I loved the owner of the firm and all the attorneys who work there but this
one woman seemed to enjoy making my life crazy a lot happen in that job for me
and more happen after I left and I'd like to share that story with you today
because I think it's really gonna help you and anyone else who's dealing with a
crazy bi TCH so this lady's name well we'll call her
Heidi and I really thought she was a bully similarly to your situation
Natasha she had been there forever she never made a mistake maybe once a year
if we were lucky and she never ever had patience for me when I was first
starting out I had a lot of questions but she did not want to answer any of
them once she told me to get coffee mugs for the office or when I asked her some
questions about what kind of mugs I should get she just said figure it out
so I picked out some mug that I thought were nice they were pretty simple and
she told me that they were ugly since she had ever seen I was like come on so
early on in my career I was inexperienced and I honestly didn't have
the tools to deal with her anger towards me the best I could do was go into her
office and start telling her how I felt and I ended up falling my eyes
she apologized she's nice for a couple of days but then she just proceeded to
go back to exactly the way she was I thought that was just me she was other
person there was nothing that could be done either I had to learn to live with
it or I had to leave so what happened that well after a while I did leave i
was headhunted by another firm all the expenses were paid for me to come and
work as a paralegal and trained as a paralegal - they were gonna fully fund
my training while I worked Wow I was so stoked I also knew that this
meant I didn't suck as much as Heidi wanted me to think I did have my job I
was actually pretty good even though at the time I felt like I couldn't do a
single thing right so this brings me to big lesson number one don't put a lot of
weight on one person's opinion of you or their behavior towards it doesn't define
you or who you are that is just one person everyone else probably thinks
you're pretty awesome so I went on to work for this other firm and proceeded
in my career and my life happy to have Heidi out of it I hope to never have to
see her again but what happened after that might surprise you so five or so
years later my husband and I were making our real estate purchase and we needed a
lawyer to draw up the paperwork for us and the firm where Heidi worked was the
only firm that I knew that did this type of work so I didn't want to go back
there because of Heidi I also knew that the prices for these legal fees were
pretty expensive and that the owner of this firm the great guy that he was
would give me a big discount if I were to go there so I knew what I had to do I
made the appointment to go in and see them so before I went in I thought to
myself but I had a pretty good idea of what to expect from Heidi I was thinking
to myself she would probably be super nice to my face and as soon as I left
make some under her breasts comment about what a silly decision it was to
fight how satisfying or the location wasn't a
good location or how I come crawling back or something mean I really thought
I had her pegged but I thought I knew exactly what she was gonna say my
husband actually said to me maybe she's changed you never know right and I said
nope not a chance so we went in and I was humbly proven
wrong I could not believe what I saw she was clearly fighting a very large battle
of her home she had lost a lot of weight and she was already hustling person she
was small she was frail she was bald and she was clearly missing her right
breasts my heart sank and I just felt awful for everything I had ever said or
thought about her in the past she was fighting breast cancer and who knows for
how long and I felt terrible for just thinking all these things in my head
about her so what was the lesson here I would say the biggest lesson from this
was so i opening and it's everyone is fighting their own battle and the rest
of the world really has no clue about their battles but regardless of why I
couldn't help but think that there I was sitting there happy healthy grateful for
my life and just by saying that I had not even stopped to think or stop to
consider for a second what was going on with her in her life she could have been
going through a lot more than I could have ever seen and she was just doing
her best so this one when you speak of Natasha what is she going through what
is her life really like outside of work what if you knew she was fighting cancer
would that change the way that you felt about her
would you still see her in the same light I'm not saying that it excuses her
behavior at all I'm just wanting to open your eyes to things that you might know
fie aware of and there you have it I hope this helps this was a big topic
for me and I hope that my story can shed some light on yours
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