LOOKING
LOOKING FOR LOVE DURING THE PANDEMIC HAS AFFECTED THE WAY SINGLES ARE
DATING AND PRESENTED NEW
DIFFICULTIES WHEN LOOKING FOR
LOVE AND SINCE IT IS COLDER
OUTSIDE THE IDEA OF SNUGGLING
UP TO A MATE MAY SOUND LIKE A
GOOD IDEA AND THERE IS A TERM
FOR IT.
>> IT'S CALLED CUFFING SEASON
IN HERE WITH MORE INSIGHT ON
CUFFING OUR ELITE MATCHMAKERS
AND FACT AND RACHEL FEDEROFF,
THANKS FOR JOINING US.
FIRST OF ALL, YOU NEED TO
EXPLAIN CUFFING SEASON TO THOSE
WHO DON'T KNOW WELL COMING
SEASON IS BASICALLY WHEN YOU'RE
LONELY AND YOU JUST WANT
SOMEONE TO BE WITH SO YOU LATCH
ON TO THE FIRST AVAILABLE
PERSON YOU CAN ESSENTIALLY USE
THEM FOR YOUR OWN DEVIOUS
MALICIOUS AND THEN GET RID
OF THEM WHEN YOU'RE DONE.
OH GOODNESS THAT SOUNDS SO
SELFISH.
>> WHY DO PEOPLE WANT TO CUFF
UP DURING THE FALL AND WINTER
SEASON?
BECAUSE I UNDERSTAND THERE'S
ALSO SOME SCIENCE TO IT.
WELL, YOU KNOW EVERYONE IS A
LITTLE NONCOLLEGE DURING THE
HOLIDAY SEASON KNOW THERE'S
LONELINESS THERE'S WHEN THERE
ISN'T A PANDEMIC YOU'RE GOING
TO HOLIDAY PARTIES, YOU'RE
SEEING FAMILY.
YOU WANT TO HAVE SOMEONE
SPECIAL TO DO ALL THOSE THINGS
WITH YOU.
AND SO WHAT BETTER WAY TO DO IT
THEN POP UP WITH SOMEONE JUST
FOR THE HOLIDAYS AND THEN DUMP
THEM WHEN IT'S OVER.
YOU THINK ABOUT IT.
YOU SEE ALL THESE PEOPLE
TOGETHER WALKED OUT EVEN IF
YOU'RE A SERIAL DATER AT THAT
MOMENT LIKE OH I'M ONE THAT
WILL YOU TAKE IT AND THEN YOU
GET WITH IT?
>> YEAH.
AND I GUESS RIGHT NOW YOU KNOW
YOU'RE NOT REALLY SUPPOSED TO
BE GETTING WITH NEW PEOPLE AND
YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO REALLY KEEP
IT HERE SMALL CIRCLE SO IT
WOULD MAKE SENSE IF YOU FIND
THAT ONE YOU CAN BE WITH AND I
GUESS CUFFING SEASON STARTS
AROUND THE FALL OCTOBER USUALLY
ENDS AROUND WHAT VALENTINE'S
DAY AND NOW THAT WE'RE IN A
PANDEMIC, HOW IS THIS GOING TO
WORK?
>> WELL, WITH PANDEMIC, YOU
KNOW SOMETHING WE'VE NEVER
EXPERIENCED BEFORE THIS WHOLE
NEW LAYER OF COMPANY AND SO
PEOPLE ARE EVEN MORE LONELY.
YOU ARE ALL TRAPPED IN OUR
HOMES AND SO YOU KNOW, YOU MAY
NOT BE JUST OUT AT PARTIES LIKE
RACHEL WAS MENTIONED.
YOU FIND SOMEONE YOU'RE ONLINE
AND YOU'RE MEETING PEOPLE THAT
WAY AND THEN YOU JUST LATCH
ONTO THE FIRST PERSON THAT'S
NICE TO YOU AND THE FIRST
PERSON IS GOING TO GIVE YOU
WARMTH AND COMFORT AND THEN IT
JUST KEEPS GOING THOSE THE
HOLIDAY IS AND THEN VALENTINE'S
DAY YOU REALIZE THIS ISN'T
WORKING OUT.
I SHOULD HAVE A CUP OF THIS
PERSON TO GETREADY.
WOW.
AND I MEAN YOU GUYS ARE
EXPERIENCE YOU KNOW YOU MATCH
PEOPLE TOGETHER NOW WHO IS THIS
GOING TO BE GOOD FOR?
YOU'RE SAYING IT'S LIKE SERIAL
DATER SO PEOPLE THAT ARE USED
TO BEING SINGLE BUT ALL OF A
SUDDEN THEY'RE LIKE HEY I WANT
THAT SPECIAL SOMEONE BUT JUST
FOR A LITTLE WHILE WELL
COFFEE IS GOOD FOR ANYBODY
REALLY.
>> IT'S NOT SOMETHING THAT YOU
KNOW, YOU SHOULD BE DEEBO ANGUS
RIGHT FOR.
IT'S IT'S REALLY IT'S BETTER TO
BE ALONE AND HAPPY THAN TO SHOP
WITH SOMEONE TEMPORARILY USE
THEM WAY.
BUT NO ONE WANTS TO FEEL LIKE
THERE'S THERE'S ONE EXCEPTION
TO THE RULE IF YOU GO IN SLOWLY
KNOWING THAT YOUR COMPANY AND
THE PERSON YOU'RE GOING TO
COUPLD FULLY KNOWS THEY'RE
GOING IN AND THEY'RE COMFY.
HEY, YOU GUYS ARE UTILIZING
EACH OTHER FOR A PURPOSE YOU'RE
BOTH AWARE OF WHETHER IT'S
PHYSICAL OR MENTAL OR EMOTIONAL
FUN AND WE'RE NOT A MUTUAL
UNDERSTANDING OF FIVE.
BUT IF YOU KNOW SOMEONE DOESN'T
KNOW WHAT'S GOING ON AND THEY
THINK THAT THIS IS A REAL
SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP, THEN
FEELINGS ARE GONNA GET HURT.
IT'S JUST COOL.
>> YEAH, I COULD DEFINITELY SEE
THAT BEING HURT FALL AND NO
FUN.
SO HOW CAN SOMEONE WHO REALLY
DOES WANT A LONG LASTING
MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIP AVOID
BEING PRESSURED TO CUFFING
BEING ALONE IS NOT A BAD THING.
OKAY YES.
BE WITH SOMEONE IS MORE THAN
WATCHING FLICKS ALONE OR ARE
YOU GOING FOR A WALK ALONE AND
IF IT'S BE GOOD WITH YOURSELF
YOU'LL LOVE YOURSELF AND BE
HAPPY WITH YOU WHEN YOU'RE
HAPPY BEING WITH YOU THE RIGHT
ONE WILL COME IF YOU NEED HELP
FROM A MATCHMAKER YOU'RE DOING
ONLINE DATING INTERVIEW BE
PROACTIVE.
THAT'S GREAT BUT THE WORST
THING YOU CAN DO IS DATE OUT
OF DESPERATION.
>> SO HOW CAN PEOPLE STAY
DISTRACTED AND NOT FALL INTO
THE HOLE CUTTING LIKE I'M
LONELY.
I JUST WANT YOU KNOW THE NEXT
THING THAT COMES ALONG HOW DO
THEY KEEP FROM DOING THAT?
AND IF THEY ARE SINGLE AND
READY TO MINGLE I MEAN HOW DO
THEY GO ALL IN?
>> WELL, YOU NEED TO LIKE I
SAID, YOU NEED TO DO A LOT
OF SELF CARE ESPECIALLY IN THE
TIME THAT WE'RE IN RIGHT NOW
WITH THIS PANDEMIC KEEPING
YOURSELF BUSY, STAYING IN TOUCH
WITH FAMILY AND FRIENDS IF YOU
ONLINE THINGS LIKE THAT,
LOOKING FOR HOBBIES AND YOU CAN
DAY YOU CAN STILL GO ONLINE TO
CONSULT ON PEOPLE LIKE
OURSELVES MATCHMAKERS TO HELP
YOU OUT AND JUST REMEMBER TO DO
IT THE RIGHT DO IT THE RIGHT
WAY.
DON'T DO IT OUT OF DESPERATION.
DON'T DO IT AT BLEOVED.
YOU JUST DON'T DO IT BECAUSE
IT'S A HOLIDAY.
DO IT BECAUSE YOU'RE GENUINELY
OPENLY QWAN AND YOU CAN BE
AGAIN PROACTIVE WITH YOUR
DATING LIFE IF YOU HAVE AN
ONLINE PROFILE.
MAKE IT THE BEST ONLINE PROFILE
YOU CAN DO IT.
WE ALL HAVE GREAT SMARTPHONES.
WE ALL HAVE REALLY GOOD CAMERAS
,SOME REALLY GOOD PICTURES
OF YOURSELF.
PUT THOSE ON YOUR ONLINE
PROFILE, INVEST THE TIME AND
GETTING TO MEET PEOPLE WHETHER
IT'S DIGITALLY FOR SAFETY OR IN
REAL LIFE FOR OTHER PEOPLE AND
ONE FOOT IN FRONT OF YOU.
JUST IT'S 80S THAT I WANT TO
ASK YOU THIS.
>> HAS DATING SLOWED DOWN OR
HAS IT PICKED UP DURING THE
PANDEMIC DATING?
WE'VE BEEN REALLY BUSY DATING
IS STILL HAPPENING VERY MUCH
SO.
THERE'S DIFFERENT LEVELS
OF THERE'S PEOPLE THAT ARE JUST
DOING IT VIRTUALLY ONLINE AND
THERE'S PEOPLE THAT ARE MASKING
UP AND GOING OUT OF ENTERTAING
DON'T CARE TO TAKE OFF THE
MASKS AND ARE, YOU KNOW, FULL
ON.
SO IF IT'S GOING IT'S GOING
SMALL SINCE THE BEGINNING
PANDEMIC EVERYBODY WAS A LITTLE
AFRAID OF NOW IS ON LONG
ENOUGH.
WE REALLY WANT LOVE.
PEOPLE REALLY WANT TO GET OUT
THERE AND GO AND FOR IT NOW
THEY'RE OVER IT.
YEAH, WELL AND THEY'RE GETTING
USED TO THIS KIND OF LIFESTYLE
THAT WE'RE LIVING RIGHT NOW.
YEAH.
THAT'S TRUE.
ALL RIGHT, GUYS.
WELL THANKS SO MUCH FOR
SHEDDING SOME LIGHT ON CUFFING
SEASON AND DATING ADVICE IN
GENERAL.
WE REALLY