so I've been getting a lot of requests to discuss this situation with Haley
Morales and the fan Lena who unfortunately took her own life
so yeah let's discuss this what's up everybody this is Chris from the rewired
soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution if you're new to
my channel what I try to do is take different topics going on in the YouTube
community and try to see what lessons we can learn from them something that I'm
extremely passionate about is mental health even more so young people mental
health like my mental health issues my anxiety my depression my trauma all of
it happened as a kid so anyways that's what my channel is about if you're into
that make sure you subscribe and bring that notification bell alright but yeah
let's jump into this let's talk about this like I said I've been getting a lot
of requests I had no clue about this situation didn't know who Haley Morales
was either until this happened so to kind of summarize this story Haley Haley
Morales is a 15 year old youtuber alright and she has a huge audience I
think she has over 800,000 subscribers and a young woman I believe she was 14
her name is Lena she ran a fan account which is kind of common on you know for
you know youtubers have fans who want fan accounts a lot of people do edits
and things like that but anyways Haley Morales said some
things that got got back to Lena that could be considered bullying and
unfortunately Lena took her own life and a lot of the internet is turning to
Haley and blaming her for this so we need to talk so the first thing is is
let's talk about their ages okay you have Haley who's 15 Lina who was 14
years old I actually learned a little bit more about this situation somebody
recommended I watched the video from D'Angelo Wallace D'Angelo is a super
smart funny young man he has an art channel he also does some commentary but
anyways he really talks about this point about how young both these young women
are so I'm gonna link his video down in the description it's like 25 minutes but
definitely watch it it's worth it he has a really good point of view on this and
I'm gonna talk a little bit about that as well and and mainly it's you know the
age of these young women so what we know about Lena and what I've read is
apparently this is not you know the first time that she's attempted suicide
in the past so we have a young teenage woman and man 14 years old like a it's
so sad thinking about people that young just even contemplating taking their own
life and I get it like when my depression first started hitting me when
I was that age like I get it man and I'm just glad that you know those thoughts
never turned into actions and now I'm a father of a 10 year old son and that's
one of the reasons I'm making this video because this is an important subject to
discuss so the first thing let's talk about is people are trying to put the
blame on Haley Morales okay Haley Morales is 15 years old
and although Lina apparently she said you know Ailee was to blame nobody we
can't blame people for for suicide like you know like there's so many factors
and everything like that but we need to realize like one of them is when
whenever a life is lost too soon or whenever any tragedy happens we want to
find somebody to blame like we need somebody to blame whether
it's him or her or her or him or whoever it is right or maybe you blame God or
whoever it we want to blame somebody we want somebody to be held accountable for
this tragic loss right but we can't do that and this is one of the reasons why
we all have to work on our mental health so much like something that I've had to
do when working on my mental health is look at other people and be like they've
been through this how did they get through this like if they can get
through this maybe I can too you know what I mean so it's not fair if I have
the opportunity to improve my life or my mental health right how is it fair that
I blame somebody else for my mental health you know what I mean like I look
at it in the aspect of you know my addiction recovery there were so many
factors one of them was I was a kid if an alcoholic mom she didn't get sober
until I was 20 I blamed her for my whole life and then finally you know addiction
took over my life and when I got sober I had to learn to forgive her and I had to
realize like oh my god like even though that was a factor I had to work on my
mental health I wasn't allowed to just keep doing what I was doing but when I
look at this situation and again this isn't to pass blame but when I look at a
young woman like Lina who took their own life I seat here and I ask you know not
even not even to blame the parents at all alright because we don't know but
I'm sitting there I'm like what was going on in that household how is there
a young woman in that household who has made an attempt before and now
got to this point where she took action what were the parents doing and again
like this is one of the reasons I have my channel so many people just don't
know the signs and the symptoms to look for and this is how these things happen
way more often than they should they come seemingly out of nowhere or
somebody made an attempt and we think they're fine now you know what I mean
and one of the things and if you if you have been through a different experience
let me know but when I was growing up we didn't learn about mental health they
didn't teach it in school I know some schools are better about it now but like
we don't talk about mental health so like we're not talking about mental
health how are how are young people supposed to get the help and support
that they need you know what I mean and when I see somebody like Lena who had
this you know fan account for Haley and everything like that like something else
that I think about especially as a youtuber and there's something I talk
about quite a bit this pair of social relationships
right and I think we all need to look at it like you you see these pair of social
relationships between viewer and the fan all the time and we have to ask
ourselves like how much is healthy how much of that relationship is healthy and
when does it become unhealthy you know what I mean and we have to acknowledge
when our that relationship or forming with a person we've never met when it's
getting to that point of being unhealthy and if we're a parent we need to be
mindful of that with our kids right if you're a teenager we need to be mindful
of our friends the people in our life like is their relationship getting to an
unhealthy place right and it's difficult because you see people who are like fans
of like kpop right and then you have like fans of like youtubers and
everything like that like it's good to have something that you're a fan of them
like when you become a fan you become part of the community and that can
actually help your mental health like something to help me with my mental
health growing up was being a video game player and a nerd who built computers
like I found my people because of those things that I
was into you know what I mean so that's just something that we really need to
look at and like so much in life is just about balance right finding something
that we enjoy or we're passionate about what while also keeping it healthy like
listen I'm a recovering drug addict my whole life has been doing things to
excess so now today I really have to work on moderation and finding that
balance you know and the last thing I kind of want to talk about is I don't
mean to like excuse Hayley's you know behavior but I don't think in any way
shape or form she was responsible for Lena's death but you know I I see these
kids who blow up on YouTube and then I have to ask like like are they ready for
it you know like especially see YouTube is a lot different than like becoming a
movie star or like the stranger stranger things kids you know what I mean because
YouTube is a social media platform so with YouTube you're always on Twitter
you're always on Instagram you interact a lot and everything like that there's
so much more that goes into that relationship with the audience and like
it makes you wonder if young people are prepared for that because anybody
anybody could just hop on YouTube start going viral and boom just have this
massive audience like most of us talking like now it's 15 years old I was worried
about like you know 10 or 20 people at school knowing something about me right
now you got to worry about hundreds of thousands and not only that you have to
worry about your relationship with these hundreds of thousands you see what I'm
saying so it's it's this really tricky situation at the end of the day I'm of
the belief that as parents as adults we need to be talking to our kids about
this stuff right and as tragic and sad as this whole
thing is like I it it's awful but Haley is definitely going to learn something
from this situation you know hopefully it makes her a little bit more
kind and compassionate as she moves forward in life but it should have never
gone to this point and it breaks my heart you know like I said I have a
ten-year-old son so to even imagine what those parents are going through or her
friends and the rest of the family and for everybody out there who's you know a
teenager watching this stuff like just know there's help available and man I
wish I always wish I can go back in time and tell my younger self that everything
was gonna be all right you know I just wish I just hold on if you're a teenager
hold on I promise you once you get out of high school things are gonna get
better when you get out into college or if you decide to skip college you just
go into the real world you're gonna find your people and you're
gonna be grateful that you just went out there into the world so if you're
struggling and need help like check out the description down below
aside from D'Angelo's video I'm gonna link some resources and things like that
but tap to people talk to your parents talk to a teacher talk to a friend's
parents talk to you know your big brother a big sister if you're
struggling with your mental health please talk to somebody alright anyways
that's all I got for this video I'll see you guys in the next one