why do people have sexual fantasies well
according to a survey of over 4 000
Americans discussed in a psychology
today article by psychologist Justin
lemiller there are a few reasons the
most common reason given by survey
participants was simply to experience
sexual arousal while 69.8 percent of
Americans said it was because they were
curious about different Sensations and
sexual experiences
following that participants reported
having these fantasies to meet
unfulfilled sexual needs Escape reality
for a while or Express or fulfill a
socially taboo sexual desire see lots of
people have seemingly taboo sexual
fantasies which is why it's important to
discuss this topic according to an
article from Insider evidence suggests
that those who have sexual fantasies
experience less anxiety and a greater
sense of self-esteem
so what are these seemingly taboo
thoughts well here are four of the most
common sexual fantasies like it rough
apparently over 70 percent of you do
that's right rough sex and dominant sex
have been found to be more common than
you think a social psychologist Justin
the Miller surveyed 4 000 Americans and
found that 93 of women and 81 of men had
fantasized about being dominated while
85 percent of men and 76 percent of
women fantasized about being sexually
dominant
this may make you think of BDSM which
stands for bondage discipline domination
submission sadism and masochism
there's a psychological component that
is often involved in BDSM many for
example like psychological role play
where an exchange of power is often
present
cosplay and role play
cosplay
isn't that the thing people do at Comic
Cons
well hey some may do it in the bedroom
too role play and cosplay are different
according to an article from Insider
cosplay is the act of dressing up like
someone or something else often from a
book movie or video game it's not
inherently sexual but some people enjoy
impersonating a character during sex
however the term role play often has a
sexual connotation as it has often been
used to fulfill sexual Kinks or desires
remember that power exchange mentioned
before dressing up as certain characters
or taking on different personas with
your partner may just be a way to safely
and consensually express that desire
certified sex therapist sorry Cooper
explains in an article for psychology
today that the old saying that the brain
is the biggest sex organ still holds
true how we become aroused in a sexual
scenario either Solo or with a partner
begins with fantasy and Imagination
Cooper goes on to explain that often her
clients are shy about sharing personal
fantasies out of fear of being perceived
as strange bizarre or disgusting by
their partner she adds that not being
fully open about one's sexual desires
and needs can lead to problems down the
road in the relationship
seems role-playing isn't as taboo as
some may think and as Cooper adds
role-playing is one of many options that
provide a safe non-threatening way for
couples to explore
multi-partner sex
threesomes orgies you may have come
across these terms before and that may
be because of the sexual fantasy
involving more than one other partner is
pretty common a study published in the
journal personality and individual
differences had 788 British adults
across four age groups take a nationwide
quota poll they found that men were more
likely to fantasize about having sex
with more than one person often with
Anonymous partners for women the study
states that as a proportion of total
fantasy output women were more likely
than men to fantasize about same-sex and
famous Partners but wait there's more a
2017 study published in Archives of
sexual behavior and discussed in an
article from Insider found that out of
274 Canadian University undergrads 64
percent of them revealed that they had
interest in multi-partner sex
when it comes to sexual fantasies the
most important thing to remember is that
it's normal and all right to fantasize
and explore your sexual desires and
interests
if you have a partner it's a great idea
to communicate your sexual fantasies to
them
why let me just improve your sex life
and relationship according to a survey
conducted by psychologist Ari tuchman
tuckman explains in an article for
psychology today that those who were
most satisfied with their relationships
and sex lives and had the most frequent
sex were also the most comfortable
sharing their fantasies with their
partner tuckman adds that these couples
are doing a lot of things well which
makes it easy to feel safe with the
vulnerable intimacy involved in sharing
their most secret desires the question
is will you share your secret desires
with someone else in the bedroom or will
it remain your prized fantasy secret
only for you to know and enjoy
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