so I just finished the movie bird box over on Netflix I know who it was an
excellent movie but this movie actually shows perfectly the link between
depression and loneliness and I'm gonna tell you about a really cool study that
proves it so the ending and monsters will be explained what is up everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we
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gave to my beautiful girlfriend Tristan because she likes owls but yeah worked
perfectly for the thumbnail if you haven't seen bird box yet there's going
to be spoilers it's a great movie excellent movie I loved it and also I'm
going to be using some of the ideas that I pulled from an awesome youtuber who I
just subscribed you his name is think story he explained the ending and monsters of bird box it perfectly like
even at the end I was kind of like confused like I made some of the
connections he did but he has a great explanation of the movie so I'm gonna
link his video down in the description as well as up in the info card if you
want to get more of a breakdown of the movie all right
so just to kind of sum it up I'm gonna be talking about two different topics
here all right I'm gonna be talking about the link between depression and
loneliness and then I'm also going to be explaining the monsters alright so we
start off with Sandra Bullock's character Mallory and she's pregnant she
was left by her man named Ryan and it starts off with her seeing her sister
and she's an artist and in her first painting that she's working on whether
sister comes over she talks about how you know these these people are there
they're all together but you can see that they're lonely right and there's a
lot of darkness in all of her paintings right and when she goes to the ob/gyn
she she doesn't feel connected to her baby and she's also thinking about
giving it up for adoption alright but you could tell them not only has this
kind of like I work on life where she's disconnected right
disconnected from other people and maybe you know that's partially because the
the father of the kid left but you also find that throughout the movie that she
didn't have a great relationship with her mom or her dad like her sister talks
to her mom for her and that's how they get these updates and everything like
that but throughout this movie you see how Mallory has these walls up and she
is just an isolated person right and it's hard for her to make connections
with other people and some would argue that that's helped her survive but this
is actually something that we could look at with some psychology to some of these
things that we do like the walls that we build up these are defense mechanisms
that we built up as a kid way and they served a purpose as a kid maybe when we
got too close to people it hurt us and we carried that on throughout our life
but later on it can actually hurt us okay and that to me is kind of what this
movie was talking about and later on as the movie goes forward we see how
Mallory starts to build more connections but like you really start to see it when
when the kids are how old are they like five years old
you see that she named these kids boy and girl all right
like she was so disconnected and didn't want to build this bond with people so
much that she named the children boy and girl
and you know what what set her back a little bit but only briefly was the loss
of Tom right they fell in love and you know they were alive together until
something happened to Tom later on but anyways one of the topics that I think
was interesting too was how depression from a parent can can affect a child too
so I think you know one of the one of the symbols in there was like she was
sheltering those kids too so her and Tom get into this argument where tom was
stolen telling him this story write this story about when he was a kid he was
outside playing and all these other things and Mallory comes in there she
ends his story and all this and she can argue with Tom that sounds like yo we
got to give these kids hope like that's what it's about being a parent and Tom
calls her out for her ways in the way that she's she's shelter has these wall
and now it's affecting these kids too he even calls her out for the fact that he
named a boy and girl but later on towards the end of the movie when a girl
is later named Olympia almost gets taken by the monster you know
Mallory gets her back by apologizing for what she's done right and she tells she
tells the rest of Tom's story and the daughter ends up coming back but I think
this is this is a really important symbol too because as parents if you're
a parent out there we have to work on our mental health we have to work on our
mental health for a multitude of reasons it affects our kids in a variety of
different ways but one of the things is it might push our kids away like if we
try to shelter them from everything from the outside world it can affect them
very very greatly right and Torcy into the movie like the ending of the movie
is mattering not having this connection okay we see that in a few different ways
when she goes to the school for the blonde she names the kids finally she
lets them go and play she lets the birds go and all this other stuff these are
old ob-gyn and that battery has this connection all right but I want to tell
you about a study because there is this great great link between depression and
loneliness all right so this is actually a study that came from my favorite
depression book of the year called lost connections like it's all about
depression and anxiety I'm gonna link it down in the description and the comments
below and you have to have you have to have to
read this book this book is like the number one at the top of my list for
anybody out there struggling with depression or anxiety anyways there's a
study in there that they talk about and scientists who did this his name was
John Cacioppo all right Acacio Poe I think I'm saying that right many ways
he's a neuroscientist all right so and he ended up doing an experiment because
he thought there was a link between depression and loneliness or being
disconnected from people so for a long time for a long time even to this day
they thought that our brains were just not functioning right these chemical
imbalances and all of this so he was like well maybe there's something else
going on maybe little bit further so he was a professor
at the University of Chicago so what they did was they got a hundred students
all right they got a hundred students and they told him to just go about their
days for three days all right just live your normal life do your thing all right
so on the first day on the first day they had a few things okay
we had a notepad they had a beeper and that a heart monitor okay so whenever
that beeper would beep they had to write down the readings from the heart monitor
and they also had to say whether they felt lonely or connected to other people
all right so if you imagine maybe they were walking down the street by
themselves they felt lonely okay but if the people went off while they're at
dinner with friends or family maybe they felt more connected all right so on day
two same thing with a beeper but instead of having the heart monitor they have
these little plastic tubes that they had to spit in okay the reason they had to
spitting them is because John wanted to measure the cortisol levels okay
those of you who don't know the cortisol is that is a stress hormone so they had
to spit in the tube and also write down how lonely or connected they felt and
the the results were absolutely mind-blowing okay so when they got the
test results back and they were measuring the heart rates and cortisol
levels like first off the heart rates are up when somebody feels lonely okay
but the the cortisol levels like that stuff was insane people have the exact
same cortisol levels when they felt lonely as when you're being physically
attacked all right like let that sink in for a second when you feel lonely and
disconnected from other people you have the same amount of stress is when you're
being physically attacked isn't that insane so this is why depression and
anxiety fuel each other all right cortisol is a stress hormone it triggers
anxiety so when you are lonely you are getting anxious as well so this is why
we need to work on building our connections if you're ever interested
down in the description of every single one of my videos we have a link to our
Facebook group as well as our discord server I'm gonna do some other videos
later on like using using technology to our advantage to connect with others is
one of the best things that you can do for somebody who doesn't go out that
much all right like we need to feel connected with other people
in Natalie's case in a bird box it was feeling connected with her children but
she also started building connections with other people actually ended up
maybe the daughter Olympia after the nicest woman she ever met right she
named the son Tom okay so like she ended up building those connections later
so now let's explain these monsters let's explain what this big bad monster
was so this is something else that I think story actually talked about so we
never actually see those monsters all right we never see them now it was it
was kind of confusing but I think things story kind of explained it well like
there were people who could look at the monster so those of you who haven't seen
it but hopefully you have because I just gave away like a lot of spoilers anyways
if you looked at the monster if you looked why that's why everybody has
these blindfolds like you go psychologically insane but there were
some people who walk around without blindfolds on and what we knew on a
couple occasions was there was the first guy who took out our boy from the movie
get out I forgot his name in the movie this movie but anyways he was an
ex-convict all right and then there was also the men who escaped from the insane
asylum or the psych ward right and those people were able to look so what they're
saying is like people who had already faced their demons they weren't affected
so what this was kind of symbolizing is when you're not facing these things
they're gonna come back and they're gonna mess you up alright so what what
happened was that Mallory didn't finally overcome these things until she faced
her personal struggles and one of the reasons we don't see these monsters is
because we don't see our depression we don't see our past we don't see these
things they're all trapped up here but Mallory in order to save her kids she
had to break down those walls she had to break down those barriers and save them
alright so that is the theory as to why we don't ever see these monsters okay
they're all up here but in order to heal you got to feel baby that's what I'm
trying to teach you but anyways I want to hear your thoughts and you saw a bird
box did you like it did you hate it do you understand the link between
depression and loneliness let's have a conversation down below alright anyways
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