In this video, we're going to talk about how to know if your ex is trying to make you jealous
or not. But first, my name is Clay with modernlove.life, where we help you get the great loving relationship
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But let's go ahead and get into the topic of this video, which again is how to know
if your ex is trying to make you jealous. So the first thing that you might want to
keep an eye out for is whether or not you think your ex is the kind of person who might
have it in them to try to make someone else jealous. Maybe you've seen them do this with
an ex before you, or maybe you've seen them do this with other people in their life. If
they've wanted to make other people feel jealous about things that they have or things that
they're doing or relationships that they're having, or if they tried to make other people
feel jealous because of the relationship that they had with you, for example, when things
were good. That could definitely be a sign that they might be trying to make you feel
jealous now.
You know them better than I do. You know them better than probably most people out there.
So you would know if they had it in their personality to try to make someone feel jealous.
If they do, then it might be a sign that they're doing it now. If not, then they're probably
unlikely going to suddenly switch and start trying to make you feel jealous. I mean, it's
a possibility, but it's much less likely.
The second way that you can know if your ex is trying to make you jealous is if they're
dating or in a relationship with someone else, and they're constantly pointing out how much
better that relationship is than the relationship that they had with you was, or how much better
this new partner is than you were when the two of you were together. And this is, I mean,
obviously it's a sign of a rebound relationship, this whole like really accentuated compare
and contrast thing. I mean, it's normal for people to say, "Oh yeah, this is better than
my previous relationship." But if it's at a really high degree, then it just shows that
like, okay, there's some kind of rebound relationship/emotional unavailability going on here.
If you want to learn more about that by the way, we have a video playlist up there, might
want to check it out. It's on rebound relationships. But if they're doing this, it shows that they're
really just trying to get a response from you, a reaction from you. They're trying to
provoke you in some way to kind of make you feel bad, to make you feel like you've come
out of this whole breakup as the loser in this whole situation. They're trying to play
themselves up, play their current situation up and downplay what they had with you. And
this is I'm a sign that they're basically trying to make you jealous, obviously.
The third way that you can know if your ex is trying to make you jealous is if they post
things online, on social media, especially if they know that you're going to see things
on social media. Like if both of you are really active on Facebook or something, and they're
posting things on Facebook that are trying to provoke you. Things that they know that
you'd like, things that they know that you would be really into or things that they know
would have a really intense emotional response from you and it seems like they're trying
to provoke you in some way. Then, yeah, that can be a sign that your ex is trying to make
you jealous.
Either they're suddenly posting about, "Oh, hey, this new video game that you wanted is
out and I have it now." Or, I mean, I guess where I can this global pandemic right now,
so it's a little bit different, but assuming you're watching this in the future and we're
all in a much better place in the world, fingers crossed, let's say they're going on some sort
of great, wonderful vacation and they know that you have always wanted to go there or
you've always wanted to get away or you've always wanted to do something like that and
they're posting photos of it to try and make you jealous, to try and provoke you or something
like that. Definitely a sign that there could be something like that going on.
Before we continue, I want to let you know that we do have another video playlist up
there that you might want to check out. It's on signs that your ex wants you back or signs
that they don't want you back. So if you're curious about those sorts of things, you might
want to check out that playlist.
Moving right along, sign number four that you can know if your ex wants to make you
jealous or not is if they're openly talking about a new relationship or a new partner
in front of you. Now, this takes a certain amount of confidence, a certain amount of
let's just say, gall, I guess that'd be the polite way of saying it. It takes gall for
them to do this. But if they're talking about their new partner and they're talking about
how great that new relationship is in front of you, number one, yeah, it's probably going
to hurt. It's probably going to sting when they do that. But know that they're probably
doing it in order to provoke you, in order to make you jealous, in order to have a sort
of like, "Hey, look at what's going on in my life and how much better it is than your
life," kind of way. Okay?
It kind of sucks that they're doing that. It's not a cool thing to do, but it's not
outside the realm of possibility. I've heard people do this kind of thing in all sorts
of situations. Pretty common. So that could definitely be a sign that your ex is trying
to make you jealous. Again, it takes gall. That's what we're saying in this one. Okay,
gall. I'm trying to keep this family friendly. But it does take gall to do that. So definitely
something that your ex could be doing if they're trying to make you jealous. Very overt.
And then of course, the fifth sign that your ex is trying to make you jealous is if they
seem to have these sort of fantasies about you suffering or you being worse off than
them. And you could maybe pick these up by reading their social media posts or by hearing
things that they're saying to mutual friends or things like that. But if they seem to want
or desire you to suffer in life, then that could be a sign that they are trying to make
you jealous. If they seem excited by the prospect of you being in a bad place in life, then
that could definitely be an emotional setup for them wanting you to feel jealous.
Now, of course, like all of these sorts of things that we've talked about in this video,
they speak to a much bigger problem in the quality of the connection between you and
your ex. Like, why would they want you to suffer? Why would they want to make you jealous?
Why would they take such delight in it? And I know that there are a lot of people who
watch these videos that want to get back together with their exes. And it's not to say that
you shouldn't get back together with your ex, but I would at least stop and look at
my ex's character before thinking about getting back together with somebody who might be doing
some of these things that we've talked about in this video.
Again, maybe they're just going through a weird place in life right now. Maybe they're
having some intense emotions and they don't know how to deal with them properly. Maybe
you did something that would make them behaving in this way seem reasonable. I don't know.
But I would look at their character and say, "Okay, is this really someone that I want
to get back together with?" If it is, that's cool. That's fine. If it's not, that's equally
cool and equally fine too. But I want you to check in with yourself because some of
these things are a little bit sadistic and they would make me pause a little bit before
I thought about getting back into a relationship with somebody who might exhibit some of these
characteristics.
So yeah, you might want to think about these things. But if you've stopped and paused and
thought about it and it's like, okay, yeah, it makes sense. Maybe I cheated or something
and they're hurt, and now they are understandably behaving this way. Okay. That's one thing.
And if you genuinely feel sorry about the cheating and you're correcting course and
fixing things in every way that you possibly can, great. It's not off the table that you
can get back together and have a great, wonderful relationship and all of that. But if it's
something else, then, hey, maybe it's not the right thing for you to do.
If you do want to still work things out, if it does still make sense for you, then you
might want to check out that Connect and Commit thing down in the description box for this
video. If not, no worries. If you've watched this video and it's like, hey, it's actually
kind of a really harsh thing to do. I don't know if I want to be in a relationship with
someone like that. That's absolutely fine too. But I just want you to stop and think
about that.
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as well, too. But if you do want to find out more about maybe some signs that your ex wants
you back, or doesn't want you back, you may want to check out this video series over here,
or you might want to check out this video right here. But once again, my name is Clay
with modernlove.life. Thank you so much for watching this video and please stay safe,
please stay healthy out there and I'll talk to you next time. Take care.