- Hey, what's up, it's me, Jessica J.
And I was just wondering if you've ever sat
and thought to yourself, "She's worth it Jessica, I swear,"
when you were chasing this lady who wasn't reciprocating.
Well, if so I'm really glad because I've come across
so many men that when I give them the reality check
that they're chasing a woman that doesn't fucking want them
they all find it in their heads to come up with this
super, grandiose, "But she's worth it to me.
I'm not just looking for just sex, I think she's special."
Like the first fucking guy to ever think a woman
they were chasing was special.
Anyway, today's video is about why
she's not worth it to chase.
I don't care how fucking special you think she is.
And to make sure you never miss out on another opportunity
to stop chasing when you fucking shouldn't and find out why
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Okay, so like I said, it is not uncommon for me
to get clients coming in, talking about,
"I'm very super thirsty about this girl,
How do I get her to be thirsty about me?"
And then I sit there and I'm like, (sighs)
because the answer is always stop fucking chasing.
It's always going to be the answer, always.
It's like the title of every single fucking video
I've put out in the past, ever.
And again, a lot of you guys will sit there and think
to yourself, like, "No, I'm a really great guy,
really great guy, stop at nothing
to get really great girls.
And she's a really great girl."
Like no other great girl will ever fucking exist.
"But she won't, Jessica."
They also think to themselves that they just can't give up
on somebody because they wouldn't want
to be given up on, either.
But here's the thing, holding somebody in that
special regard where this is somebody who deserves
110% of yourself and deserves to be pined after
only puts her in a position up above you.
And any woman that has to look down at a dude
is never gonna wanna look at him going down on her.
That is the fastest way to lose your dignity,
to lose your self-respect.
And I'm telling you she's not fucking worth it.
Nobody is fucking worth it to lose yourself.
And if you are not getting equal amounts back in love,
I don't know how many times I have to say this,
if you're not getting all your love and all your efforts
matched equally, you are losing yourself.
And I don't care how great she is.
Everybody's fucking great at the end of the day.
Everybody's the hero of their own story.
I don't care if you think she's fucking great,
she is not worth it, nobody is.
And like the title suggests, neither are you.
If you had a girl that you were not interested in,
for whatever reason.
She is not attractive physically.
Maybe she's got quite a fucking odor on herself.
Maybe she makes really bad dad jokes and like stalks you.
How would you feel about a like this chasing you
very fucking hard?
Rearranging her schedule to be where you are.
Obsessing over you, talking about you in therapy,
writing about you in her journal,
turning down other guys because,
"No, I have a special guy I'm after."
Again, let's go back to this girl in question,
a girl you are not interested in, a girl that physically
you would not ever want to stick your dick in.
What if that girl would not take no for an answer?
You would probably be like,
"Girl, chill, like, I don't even like you.
What's wrong with you?"
I'm not saying that you are better than her in any sense.
If you're not attracted to her, you're not attracted her.
It's probably, you know, you don't mean
to be offensive about it.
And to that girl, I would say, "Girl, he's not worth it
to lose your self and your dignity.
He thinks you smell, he's not attracted to you, get a clue."
Because at the end of the day,
none of us are worth being sacrificed for.
We're no better or worse than any other
person on this planet.
We all got here the same way,
we're all leaving the same way.
So to that end, I will challenge you to look at this role
as a fucking human being.
Chances are she doesn't like you because you've
objectified her into this prize on a pedestal.
And no woman ever wants to feel like that.
We just want to feel like a human being.
And we want to feel your humanness alongside our humanness.
And then eventually your human parts in our human parts.
I have so many guys coming to me, trying to prove themselves
and be like, "Oh yeah, I'm not like other guys."
When really, that was like one of 12 dudes
who told me that week that he's not like other guys.
The best fucking thing you can do is give her you.
What do I mean by that?
So while we are no better than the next guy I'm telling you,
there is no other person on this planet who is you.
And that is the one thing you can give her
that no other guy can.
So yeah, that makes you fucking special.
I didn't say better, but it makes you fucking special.
And fine, there is no other her on this planet
and that doesn't make her better,
it just makes her special, fine.
So until you can get to her special,
which is what makes her different, what makes her unique,
which is her thoughts, her feelings, her experiences,
until you can connect that to your thoughts,
your feelings, your experiences, guess what,
you will be chasing every other special girl
all around the fucking block while being completely
on unspecial in their lives.
And this is exactly what the core of my
Speak To Spark Arousal program is about,
is getting to your fucking special to connect
to her fucking special.
Because at the end of the day, we're all just these,
you know, like-minded beings trying to fucking make it.
And until you can phase out of all the sameness
that's out there and just be you,
she's not going to fucking see you
and she's not gonna give a shit about you.
So stop losing yourself over her and just be yourself,
who you are at your core.
And if you don't know how to do it, I'll tell you how
to do it in my Speak To Spark Arousal system
at SpeakToSparkArousal.com
So guys, for the love of God, please stop putting
the on the pussy on the pedestal.
Put yourself on a fucking pedestal for once.
Thanks for watching as always, and I'll see you next time.