You, like, walked (laughs)
you walked in the door
and
I don't know, like,
I felt your “Yeah”
type of energy like.
And I was like,
I don't know who you think you are,
but like,
no, I have the most “Yeah” energy
going on in this room.
I would agree with that.
Yeah.
Like, “Oh, you think you...” - Like a challenge.
Yeah. - “Challenge accepted”.
Yeah. - Yeah.
Okay.
Ooh (laughs)
When was the first moment
you knew I loved you?
That's dangerous.
Yeah.
Mm.
Well you said it early.
You said it so early
that I was, like
I just can't believe this.
I'm not that good.
I said it on, like, the third date?
Yeah, it was really quick.
Yeah.
I don't know
if it was fear
like holding me back from
really believing it, but, um...
Yeah. - Yeah.
I don't think I would even have been
in control to have known either way.
But, um... - Yeah.
Like, this day, like,
even in class, I just kind of felt
I didn't feel like myself.
So by the time I got home,
it was clear
like I had a fever, like,
and I got home,
I lay down and by the
next time I woke up,
it was like almost like nine o’clock.
I have missed the whole meeting
pretty much, but um...
Around like,
maybe like ten o’clock or so,
I don't know, maybe eleven,
I'm not sure.
I hear a knock at my door. - Yeah.
I'm like,
there's no way.
Like, nobody
nobody would know.
Like, my phone has all these missed calls
and people are like, you know, whatever
but, I - Yeah.
with the little strenght that I had, like
I get up to open
the door and like,
I didn't even have the strenght to look back,
like to see who was really at the door.
Like it was like
I opened it and just fell.
Yeah.
And I heard you, and you was like, “Oh my God”
Like, “Are you okay?”
You instantly went into like,
doctor mode and it seemed like in
a matter of no time I was
you was like, good.
I was better. I was eating food and like
just the things you need to do.
So that was,
that was the first moment when I knew
I'm like,
is either she love me or
she crazy.
(Laughs)
What’s something
you would never have done
if it wasn't for me?
I'm okay
Um,
You give me a lot of strength, you know?
Like a lot of strength, like...
Like the way you believe in me, like
it helps me, like,
love myself more.
Like
As I've been, like,
growing in, like, my womanhood.
I feel like
you’ve just been, like, right there
Like, “Keep going.
You got this.
There's nothing that no one can tell you
that will change
anything”.
Like
So a particular moment, I guess.
Um,
is when we were living in,
um, Jersey
when I was working in New York
and
I was having, like,
a really crappy day, like,
I don't know what it was like something
just, like,
kind of came over on me
and I was just like,
I don't want to do this no more.
I don't want to be here anymore.
I want to feel something new.
I want to feel something different.
And I don't know where to start.
Like...
And like I called you
and I was like,
I want to move to California.
And you were like, “Okay”.
Like it was no “Why?”
It was no “But what are you going to do?”
It was no like,
How are we going to do?
When are we going to move?
Like...
You just said “Okay”.
Like...
And I was like,
he's about to dump me.
It's over.
Like, he's not coming with me,
like, for sure.
And then you
then you covered me
like,
you know,
like you were my best friend.
You were my mom.
You were my dad.
You were my brother.
Like, you were literally everything
and more than I needed, like...
‘Cause you had everything
set up for your life there
and you really sacrificed, like,
everything and more.
And I know you did,
and I appreciate it.
Thank you.
I don't care what you say.
Um, I would say the same
you know?
What's the best thing
you learned from me?
Oh, um, excuse me.
What's the best thing you’ve learned
from our worst fight?
Whoa.
The one yesterday?
Joking.
Um...
Um, what's the best thing I—
The best thing you’ve learned
from our worst fight?
Um...
Them low blows, man.
Like they're
just, like, not needed.
Anger just overall
brings out
every dark side in you.
Like, you know what I mean?
Like even if you try to be,
like, full of light
we're human, right?
So
it's hard to hide
that dark side
or that little ragy person
in you.
I'm learning to
like really communicate
how I'm feeling or even
just more so like process
why am I so angry in that moment.
Like when you just said that one thing
about what I did last week
why is that making me angry?
Yeah.
Is it the tone?
Is it the
did I.
Do I feel guilty like, yeah,
I was acting some
some sort of way last week.
You're right.
But I don't want to like,
acknowledge that. - Yeah.
And that's probably nine times out of ten
it’s me
not wanting to acknowledge I'm wrong.
I don't like it.
I went.
Ooh.
What do you need
to hear from me?
Um,
That's pretty good,
I like that.
Yeah.
I need to hear that
that you do trust me.
To hear it.
You know I believe it.
but to hear it. - Yeah.
You know? Or
for you to just like,
in those moments where,
you know,
maybe in the past,
that might have brought friction.
Yeah.
Kind of lean into that like,
not the friction, but lean into like,
I know it's uncomfortable
because you do like to be in control
and it's my fault
because I’ve like kind of...
You opened that door.
I did, so...
But, um, yeah,
just hearing it like, “Oh,
you know what?
This is not what I thought
was going to happen
or how I thought it was going to go
but... - Yeah.
I trust.
I trust that you
you got it,
we got it, it’s good.
And I do.
Sometimes like
I told you, I don't like being
I don't like saying that I'm wrong.
So sometimes I like
to just give it to me.
It's working through it, but
I will.
I definitely will.
How do you think
we see love differently,
and how does that affect us?
Oh, wow.
Um.
Yeah,
that's good.
Um, wow.
I think, um.
I think before,
you know, when we were
before we left,
and we really had to be on our own.
I think
whatever our understanding of love
was just like, growing, like,
as we were going. - Yeah.
Um...
Now I know for sure
our love is unconditional.
Yeah.
Like, I know it’s no condition.
Like, you’ve seen me
at my worst.
You've accepted that.
You built me up from there.
So
I think our love has changed
because it become unconditional.
So it might have started like
even in the beginning
where maybe I didn't know.
Like, I'm like, “Oh, you can't be serious”
And like grew from that to like,
“Oh, it doesn't matter what happens,
I'm still going to love you”, so
I think that's the best way
I could articulate it.
Do you think
the way I show love to
you is different
from how you show love to me?
Because I think you do show me
unconditional love
and sometimes I feel like
if you are not going to rub on my feet,
that's it.
I’m done. - Um.
I think it’s different
but I think it's supposed to be.
Why would we express something
the same way
when we’re two different people?
I don't think we were created
to express it that way.
So yeah, I may be like
it may come off like that
where is like, you making, it’s no condition
You've shown that.
It's not a question to my mind, like
these things you've done that
nobody would never do
and you've done it
without me even asking.
I didn’t even have to
nudge, so...
I feel like you...
It's a part of you.
Like you've earned that right to be like,
Can you do this?
Or I need this or whatever.
Like, I don't see that as like,
you're not taking advantage of me.
it's just - Yeah.
we love each other differently,
but I think all together,
it makes it, like,
whole and complete.
So, yeah, it's
different.
It is.
And sometimes, you know, we got our moments
I'm not going to be like...
But at the core I know.
So I never question that.
I like that.
‘Cause I thought you
was going to say something different.
Nah, nah...
I did.
Why am I in your life?
I truly believe,
like,
God really was like,
“All right, Courtney,
you're buggin.
You need guidance.
Clearly, you're not hearing me.
Here goes someone
that you will listen to”.
Like
like I told you, like,
the first time we started,
like,
or when I met you, I felt like everything
started to go right in my life, like...
And that's not wrong.
Like, I'm
not chucking all my blessings to you,
but I truly do believe, like,
God helped me with you,
like he brought you to me
to really, like, grow
and prosper, like,
because I know he loves me.
I know my parents love me like,
but I never envisioned
someone on Earth being strong enough
to love me through
every single moment that I have.
Like, whether it's like insecurities
or just me being really,
really intense at times.
Like,
because I know my love can be intense.
So
yeah, I never thought
that there would be anyone
strong enough
to really,
like, see me.
So...
I hope I answered the question.
I think you did.
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