what is up everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the
problem but focus on the solution and if you are new here my channel is all about
mental health I provide solutions to help you work on your mental health and
today which you've probably already gathered we're going to be talking about
borderline personality disorder this is a mental illness that really fascinates
me it's very interesting and a lot of people struggle with it and a lot of
people don't even realize they struggle with it as some of you know who have
followed my channel you know that I am a drug addict and alcoholic and recovery
some of you also know that I am the son of an alcoholic mother now when it comes
down to why borderline personality disorder happens
scientists believe that there are some genetic components but a lot of them are
environmental components so what I've noticed through my own experience as
well as my experience working with people with mental health issues is that
a lot of people who have parents who are drug addicts or alcoholics a lot of them
struggle with borderline personality disorder this is also very common with
anybody who experienced trauma as a child basically a lot of people with
poor childhood environments can struggle a borderline personality disorder now
now let's talk about what borderline personality disorder is when I first
heard about borderline personality disorder I think the name of it is a
little like and because when you hear it you think that it's some kind of like
multiple personality disorder which it definitely is not so I'm gonna go
through the symptoms of it but in a nutshell a lot of people with borderline
personality disorder they struggle a lot with two major things emotional
regulation which means their emotions bounce all over the place as well as a
sense of self a sense of who they are okay and as we go through these symptoms
you'll start to recognize what I'm talking about
so something that I'm kind of excited about is tada I finally got myself a
copy of the DSM this book right here this is the diagnostic
mystical manual and it's for mental health disorders so this is what mental
health professionals used to diagnose you with different disorders so by the
way I'm gonna give you some resources at the end of this video but this video and
none of the videos I do this is not for you to diagnose yourself but if you
recognize some of these symptoms I will have resources at the end of this video
so you can potentially work towards some solutions and have some better health
all right so let's dive into this okay so for borderline personality disorder
it says it's a pervasive pattern of instability of interpersonal
relationships self-image and effects and marked impulse impulsivity beginning by
early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts as indicated by five or more
of the following so in order to be diagnosed with borderline personality
disorder you have to meet at least five of these symptoms okay a lot of the
different disorders they you have to meet a certain amount for them to fully
diagnose you but again this is something that you need to do with a mental health
professional and not a YouTube video okay so symptom number one frantic
efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment so people will borderline
personality disorder they have a lot of abandonment issues so for example when I
talk about having an alcoholic mom there was a lot of fear of abandonment that
she was gonna leave me especially because when I was younger she sent me
off to my dad's it's stuck with me this fear of abandonment stuck with me
throughout my adulthood and by the way in case I didn't clear clarify I have
never been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder but when I found
out about this daughter I saw that I used to have a lot of the symptoms so
anyways I'm sorry for this quick break in the symptoms but I want to give hope
to anybody out there who struggles with borderline personality disorder that I
have had a lot of the symptoms and I've managed to work through them and
overcome them okay so symptom number two a pattern of unstable and intense
interpersonal relationships authorized by alternating between
extremes of idealization and devaluation so I'm gonna do another more dedicated
video to this but when we're talking about emotional regulation
okay there's extremes think of your brain working in two different modes
attraction and aversion come close go away okay so what this is talking about
is people have borderline personality disorder they have a lot of what's
called black and white thinking okay they either love you they love you
you're amazing or they hate you and get the heck away from me so a lot of people
with borderline personality disorder they struggle with maintaining
relationships because there's a lot of push pull push pull push pull okay so
symptom number three identity disturbance markedly and persistently
unstable self-image or sense of self so a lot of people with borderline
personality disorder they have a difficult time knowing who they actually
are like Who am I like discovering themselves like a lot of you watching
this video if you don't struggle with BPD you have a pretty good idea of who
you are but people with BPD they bounce around quite a bit alright for
impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self damaging okay
so the examples it gives spending money sex substance abuse reckless driving
binge eating so they do a lot of risky behaviors alright five recurrent
suicidal behavior gestures or threats or self-mutilating behavior so a lot of
people date people with borderline personality disorders and these are the
people who are is I'm gonna do more videos on this but it's very difficult
to be in a relationship with someone who has BPD it's not impossible as long as
you understand what this mental illness is but people would be TPD they'll often
bounce back and forth between loving you and hating you and then also they'll
have these kind of suicidal threats and then it gets into a really bad situation
because then you as other partner in the relationship you
can feel like you're being held hostage because they have these threats of
either killing themselves or harming themselves alright six affective
instability due to a marked reactivity of mood
okay the example it gives intense episodic dysphoria irritability or
anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days a lot
of people with BPD they can experience like a variety of different kind of mood
swings all right arm symptom number seven
qualit feelings of emptiness this kind of relates to that that issue of not
really having a sense of self okay a feeling of emptiness Who am I
sometimes BPD is misdiagnosed as like depression one of the symptoms of
depression can be emptiness or numbness okay again this is why you need to seek
the help of a professional to get properly diagnosed alright
symptom number eight inappropriate intense anger or difficulty controlling
anger again this goes back to emotional regulation okay
people with BPD can get furious like most people get kind of like oh you
didn't put the dishes away and get kind of angry or upset with you people at BPD
they can fly off the handle like that alright and the last symptom is symptom
number nine transient stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative
symptoms okay so people with BPD they can also have a lot of disassociation
and this is another reason why sometimes BPD is misdiagnosed as something else
there's a lot of other mental disorders especially in the DSM that talk about
disassociation so this is why it's important to seek a mental health
professional to get properly diagnosed alright so these are the symptoms of BPD
so my recommendation if you can relate to these symptoms or if you know
somebody who sounds like they fall into the realm of the
symptoms okay like please first off please share this video with them
because acknowledging your symptoms of mental illness is liberating it's this
this kind of sense of ah like once you get diagnosed with something once you
kind of figure it out it will leave some of the stress you
sort to realize like I'm not this crazy or awful person I have some kind of
mental illness and the good thing about illnesses is that they can be treated
okay so if you're struggling with BPD the first recommendation and best
recommendation I can give you is seek a therapist okay a qualified therapist
they use this exact same thing the DSM okay so if you don't have access to a
therapist in your area or if you have insurance issues or even with your
insurance therapist or expensive go ahead and check out the description down
below I do some work with an online therapy program it's very inexpensive
they actually have a sliding scale too so if you don't make that much money
it'll be a little bit cheaper with you okay but that you have access to
hundreds and hundreds of different therapists and they're available pretty
much whenever you need them okay so if you feel like you're struggling with BPD
or any other symptoms of mental illness and you need help make sure you click on
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hooked me up with this to present it to my audience and if you go through
therapy through them it also helps support the channel not a
bad deal at all alright but I want you all to leave
comments down below if you struggle with BPD or you think you might or if you
have any suggestions on topics about BPD that you want me to kind of dive deeper
into please leave them down in the comments below I am actually going to do
this I'm gonna link up in the info card another channel I found today while
researching BPD this young woman she struggles with BPD and her whole channel
is about BPD so I highly recommend that you go check it out also if you happen
to talk to her I hit her up on Instagram because I'm trying to get her as a guest
on my channel to talk a little bit more about BPD alright but anyways I hope
this video helps some of you out and if it did
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