as we all know the Dolan twins just sat down with Shane Dawson to discuss where
their YouTube career is heading so in this video what we're gonna do is we're
gonna take a look at this conversation from the aspect of positive psychology
what is up everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the
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announced when was it last week that they were doing a collaboration with
Shane Dawson a lot of people didn't know what it was about but I guess when you
sit down with Shane Dawson you're like okay alright something something's up
something's something's going on so they sat down with Shane Dawson and it was
kind of like sitting down with a mentor Shane Dawson's being in the YouTube game
for what like 12 years now and the Dolan twins have been uploading weekly since
they were 14 years old and they're getting to an age you know they're 19
about to turn 20 and they're getting to an age where they're trying to figure
out you know what what's the next step do they want to
you know going on the path that they're going do what they want to switch things
up and everything like that alright so like I said we're gonna dive into some
positive psychology but first I want to ask you a question
all right answer down in the comments below pause the video if you have to but
in one sentence let me ask you this what does true happiness look like to
you alright well circle back to that
question at the end of this video but make sure you leave a comment down below
alright but anyways I want to start this video out by discussing this clip right
here which I found really fascinating
stuff especially because I'm assuming a lot of your audience is like younger and
they're probably just like you like I want more videos you complete me you can
put a dolphin noise so it's like kind of a big step for you guys we haven't even
talked about we'll bring a do yeah no but it's okay I mean fortunately the
times that we've taken breaks from the weekly uploads
everyone's been pretty accepting of it but I do feel like I'm letting people
down and it starts they really take a toll on my alright so why did I pull
that clip so positive psychology is just an amazing branch of psychology so my
beautiful girlfriend Tristan introduced me to this dude not like personally by
anyways this is dr. Edie Deena okay he is one of the OGS when it
comes to positive psychology some of you might have also heard of Martin Seligman
he is like the father of positive psychology but anyways Tristan showed me
this documentary called happy and they did an interview with Edie döner and
when he talks about how he got into positive psychology and started creating
this branch of psychology it was just it was you put it in a way that I hadn't
even thought of before but anyways he talks about
how so much of psychology and mental health is looking at getting rid of
depression right like how do we get rid of depression and he's like maybe we're
looking at this in the wrong way maybe we need to focus on how to help people
become happier and just a little shift in perspective I feel makes a huge
difference all right like think about that for a second so
many of us are talking about how do we get rid of depression how do we get rid
of these bad feelings why don't we focus on how do we become happier because
that's one of the goals in life right so anyways there were some amazing books on
positive psychology that I've been diving into some of them I read awhile
back recently I just read two of them one of them one of my favorites is the
happiness advantage by shawn Achor this dude's friends with Oprah so you know
the book's good alright but he also has another book called big potential
anyways another great book that I just finished was called antidote and then
this book right here the upside to your dark side was written by Edie
Dean errs son all right so as I've been reading these books on positive
psychology I found a common denominator no matter which book on positive
psychology I read I found one common denominator that I saw the Dolan twins
bring up with Shane Dawson and it's this we suck at discomfort all right I think
about that for a second I don't know where this idea came from but it's
something that I struggle with you might struggle with it but it's something very
common where we don't like being uncomfortable right and that
uncomfortability might be sadness it might be boredom it might be complacency
or whatever it is but for some reason we're always trying to push these things
away and for some of us it causes us to become you know workaholic so we pick up
you know vices and things like that to mask our feelings and emotions rather
than just sitting with them you know they've done start
on this i'll cite it down in the description below but they did one study
where they had people sit there and they had the option to either a sit with
their own thoughts and feelings or be electrocute themselves with a buzzer and
most of them hit that damn buzzer like how crazy is that so when I see the
Dolan twins talking to Shane about this and talking about how it takes its a
toll on their mental health I think about all of you guys watching this
stuff I think about my own life right and I think about what we've learned
from these amazing people studying positive psychology why are we
constantly running from discomfort wouldn't the best thing for us to do be
to acknowledge that discomfort is a fact of life
achieving pure happiness and bliss 24/7 for the rest of our lives is impossible
and once we get that out of our heads now we can start focusing on how do I
manage the negative feelings right and I don't even like using the word negative
feelings feelings are just feelings the way we judge our feelings is the only
thing that makes them good or bad but when you have positive psychologists
from around the world all discussing how we suck at dealing with this comfort it
makes you think a little bit so I want you to ask yourself like how much
resilience do you have when it comes to being comfortable with the uncomfortable
like or your expectations that life is supposed to be perfect or you're
supposed to be happy all the time do you think that is healthy for you to have
that as an expectation because it seems to me that it's just one of the biggest
illusions ever that we're supposed to be happy all the time although we are
talking to you guys you guys aren't able to talk back to us until after we post
the video so we can't really have a conversation with each other about
something that we're both so unsure about so we reach out to someone for
help because we needed it and when you need
hell I would advise you to please reach out to someone because everybody in some
way or another is able to relate to one another and just by saying the simplest
thing you could help someone so much or you can be helped by someone so much so
I also wanted to discuss that clip right there
all right like the importance of asking for help so let me introduce you to
someone else another amazing author if you didn't get
the memo I love me some books so I just finished this book by Amy Duke called
thinking in bets I actually heard about this book from the youtuber dr. Mike he
did a review of some books but anyways in this book she talks about finding a
group of mentors she calls them fellow truth seekers right so I do believe that
the Dolan twins what they're doing by talking with Shane someone who's been
down this path before someone who used to make a ton of content and now makes
less content but the quality is way bigger right like this is something that
all of us can learn from so here's one of the issues like you guys got the memo
about the United States healthcare system mental health care system it kind
of sucks not everybody can afford therapy right so what is the next best
option that's affordable find people who have gone through what you're currently
going through find people who have achieved what you want to achieve and
you ask them how'd you get through it what do I do
how do I get through this do you have any experience that you can share with
me like despite your opinions on 12-step programs right like millions upon
millions upon millions of people I'm one of them have gone sober all because it's
one person who's been through it helping another person so although I do believe
therapy is the the best option I'm in therapy okay because believe it or not I
don't know everything but like I also have to have mentors and people who have
been through specific struggles right so let me know if you want to answer
this in the comments down below that would be interesting for me to see like
especially those of you who have been through therapy do you find more value
from a therapist who has been educated in these topics or be someone who's
actually been through what you're going through or see I think see but don't
don't pick my answer I think C is the best option is when you're able to find
a therapist who has also been through what you've been through all right but I
would love to hear your experiences about that down below but I do love how
the Dolan twins kind of hit on that topic multiple times throughout this
video about the importance of reaching out and asking for help the only thing
that I would chime in on based on you know things that Annie Duke talks about
in her book thanks for my own personal experience as well as my own personal
experience working in a treatment center and everything like that is to also like
not only reach out for help but find somebody who understands what you're
going through something I realized a long time ago and this is something that
you might be able to relate to as well is that our minds try to make us feel as
though we're the only person going through what we're going through it
tries to distance us from everybody else nobody understands what I've been
through but here's the thing there's always someone out there who has been
through what we've been through and even if they haven't been through the exact
same situations they can identify with the feelings right they can identify
with the struggles they can identify with like the core things that are going
on so for example the Dolan twins and Shane Dawson you know they don't make
the same type of content but Shane Dawson can relate to making a bunch of
videos and feeling kind of burnt out on his content and not really knowing which
direction to go and all these other things so the Dolan twins pick the
perfect guy to talk to about this and what's interesting too in the videos I'm
doing on Shane Dawson series with Jeffery store I talk about the same
thing Jeffery star is Shane Dawson's mentor when it comes to getting into the
makeup industry you see what I mean learn from others so
all of you out there who are consuming this content learn from the people
you're watching what can you do in your life to turn to others so they can help
you go down the path that you want to go down because remember like acids
beginning of this video what is your definition of true happiness and now
that we're coming to the end of this video
ask yourself how comfortable are you with discomfort and I want you to ask -
what can you do about it what can you do to get a little bit more comfortable
with the uncomfortable all right but anyways don't forget share this
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