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>>> WELCOME BACK TO NEW DAY NORTHWEST.
NORTHWEST. AT ITS BEST, MARRIAGE CAN BE
EXCITING AND ROMANTIC. BUT, A
SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE ALSO TAKES
A LOT OF WORK. NEXT MONTH, MY
HUSBAND AND I ARE CELEBRATING
OUR FIRST ANNIVERSARY.
IN THAT SAME MONTH, HIS
PARENTS ARE HAVING A SPECIAL
ANNIVERSARY.
ANNIVERSARY. I AM JOINED BY MY FATHER-IN-LAW
WHO HAS BEEN MAKING IT WORK
FOR 60 YEARS WITH HIS WIFE,
IDA, WHO I LIKE TO CALL NANA.
HELLO, PAPA.
HELLO, PAPA. IT IS SO GOOD TO SEE YOU.
I HAVE TO SAY, I DEFINITELY AM
ALWAYS IN ALL OF YOUR
RELATIONSHIP. 60 YEARS.
DO YOU EVEN REMEMBER YOUR
FIRST DATE?
FIRST DATE? >> I DO.
>> I DO.
>> I DO. I DO.
I DO.
I DO. OBVIOUSLY IT WAS QUITE A WHILE
AGO BUT I DO REMEMBER IT. THE
FIRST DATE LED TO A LONG
RELATIONSHIP.
RELATIONSHIP. >> I KNOW YOU HAVE BROUGHT
ALONG SOME TIPS TO SHARE WITH
US.
US.
US. NUMBER ONE YOU TALKED ABOUT
WAS SEX.
WAS SEX.
WAS SEX. >> THAT IS SO IMPORTANT.
TO ME, RESPECT NEVER GOES OUT
OF STYLE.
OF STYLE.
OF STYLE. YOU NEED TO RESPECT THE
PERSON'S ABILITIES AND THEIR
INABILITIES. YOU CAN RESPECT
THE PERSON, THEIR VIEWS, THEIR
JUDGMENT, THEIR THOUGHT
PROCESS.
PROCESS.
PROCESS. RESPECT IS VERY IMPORTANT.
>> I DON'T KNOW IF YOU HEARD
ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIPS EXPERT
JOHN GOTTMAN AND HIS WIFE, BUT
THEY ALSO SAY IN RELATIONSHIPS
THAT ONCE RESPECT IS LOST,
THEY SAY IT IS OVER.
YOU HAVE TO HAVE RESPECT.
IT IS SO FUNDAMENTAL.
>> I WOULD AGREE.
>> YOUR PRACTICAL EXPERIENCE
BACKS UP THEIR RESEARCH.
NUMBER TWO. YOU TALKED ABOUT
LISTENING AND COMMUNICATION.
I HAVE TO SAY, I ALWAYS HEARD
THAT ABOUT COMMUNICATION BUT
NEVER UNDERSTOOD IT.
WHAT DOES THAT LOOK LIKE WHEN
YOU TALK ABOUT THE IMPORTANCE
OF LISTENING?
OF LISTENING? >> WELL, A LOT OF PEOPLE LIKE
TO TALK BUT SOMETIMES THEY
DON'T LISTEN TO WHAT THE OTHER
PERSON IS TALKING ABOUT.
I FIND THAT I LEARN MORE BY
LISTENING THAN I DO BY TALKING
. IN COMMUNICATION, YOU WANT
TO PAY ATTENTION TO THE OTHER
PERSON'S POINT OF VIEW. YOU
MAY NOT BE RIGHT AS MUCH AS
YOU THINK YOU ARE OR AS MUCH
AS YOU MAY WANT TO BE. YOU
NEED TO LISTEN SOMETIMES AND
SEE WHAT THE OTHER PERSON IS
SAYING. YOU KNOW, MY WIFE LIKES
TO TALK A LOT.
I DON'T. SOMETIMES I LISTEN
AND SOMETIMES I DON'T.
>> BUT, HOPEFULLY YOU KNOW
WHEN TO LISTEN.
>> I KNOW WHEN TO LISTEN.
>> I KNOW WE ARE RUNNING OUT
OF TIME BUT I WANT TO GO THERE
ONE OTHER POINT.
YOU TALK ABOUT DON'T TAKE YOUR
PARTNER FOR GRANTED.
YOU ALSO MENTION LIKE THE
PERSON.
PERSON.
PERSON. YOU TALK ABOUT, YOU ATTRIBUTE
YOUR SUCCESS TO WORKING WELL
TOGETHER BUT ALSO LEARNING TO
PLAY TOGETHER.
PLAY TOGETHER. >> I THINK THAT IS ONE THING
THAT MADE OUR RELATIONSHIP WORK
, THE ABILITY TO WORK
TOGETHER,'S TO ESTABLISH GOALS
, AND PULLED TOGETHER TO
ACHIEVE THEM. FOR ME, IT GAVE
US SOME SATISFACTION IN DOING
THAT. WE DID NOT START OUT
WITH A LOT.
WE MADE IT WORK BECAUSE WE
PULLED TOGETHER TO MAKE IT WORK
. IT IS ALSO IMPORTANT TO LIKE
THE PERSON YOU ARE WORKING WITH
. YOU JUST HAVE A FEW SECONDS
LEFT?
LEFT?
LEFT? >>
LEFT? >> YEAH, I KNOW.
>> I WILL JUST SAY THIS.
HONOR THE COMMITMENT.
PUT IN THE WORK. MAKE THE
COMMITMENT WORK.
COMMITMENT WORK. >> THANK YOU.
IS NANA GOING TO BOMB OUR SHOT?
A PHOTO BOMB TO SAY GOODBYE?
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THAT
ADVICE.
ADVICE.
ADVICE. HAPPY 60th ANNIVERSARY TO BOTH
OF YOU.
OF YOU.
OF YOU. >> THANK YOU.
>> I DON'T KNOW