- Should you submit to a man?
And if you should, how to do it properly.
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So recently I got a very interesting question
from one of my clients
and she said my boyfriend is complaining
that I'm not submissive to him enough.
That I don't always do,
or what he tells me to do.
And I was like, oh, what an interesting topic.
Let's make it into YouTube video.
So today I want to talk to you all about submission.
I think, first of all,
submission
from a woman to a man,
I think it's very, very natural.
And as women, we kinda naturally have this need,
this instinct to submit to a man,
where as men have this instinct to lead.
And I personally think submitting to a man
and letting a man lead you,
you are fulfilling your own need,
and you're fulfilling his need,
and this is all beautiful.
But, you have to be very wise with it.
So for example,
what happens nowadays with younger girls
or ladies who just started to date
and don't know much about dating,
they might go on one or two dates with a guy
and then automatically we just submit to them
and start to go out of their ways to please them,
to do everything for them.
'Cause we feel like this is what we should be
doing as women.
Ladies, submitting to a man is beautiful,
but you have to submit to the right guy.
A guy that you just met,
and you just been out with for like a few dates,
submitting to this type of guy is very silly
and it's very naive, because you do not know him.
The only guys women should ever submit to
are the ones that want to do the right thing for you,
are the ones that want to do good for you,
are the ones that you can trust,
and have good sincere intentions towards you.
If, on the other hand,
you will just be submitting to any man,
you are taking a huge risk to be abused,
to be hurt, to be manipulated, and to be used.
On top of that,
by giving yourself and submitting to him,
not only that he will use you,
but he will also lose respect for you,
will take advantage of you,
and will start to take you for granted.
For that feeling or the intention
to want to submit to a man,
I would say it's even very beautiful and really good,
but it needs to be a very wise decision
and it needs to be done towards the right guy.
So for example,
you started to date somebody
and through the period of dating
you can see that his intentions are good.
You can see that he's going out of his way to please you,
you can see that he's investing into you.
You are observing him,
and you can see that your values and his values match,
you can see that he does the right thing,
you feel like you can trust him,
you feel like he values and respects you,
your submission to him will be very natural,
as you'll see him as a righteous leader
and you will feel safe to submit.
There's a different type of example.
Let's say you're dating a guy who plays many games,
flakes on the dates.
You're dating a guy that you cannot trust.
You're dating a guy that's very manipulative.
You're dating a guy that's very abusive.
You're dating a guy that's pushing you or influencing you
to do the wrong thing.
Well ladies,
even if you have a natural need to submit to a man,
submitting to this type of guy
is basically your first road to hell.
'Cause all this type of guy will do,
he'll be super happy that you're submitting to him.
Then he'll start to manipulate you more,
then he'll start to push you around more,
then he'll start to take advantage of you,
use you, take you for granted,
at the end of the day probably break up with you,
and throw you out as a piece of rubbish
'cause you gave him what he doesn't deserve
and now he is bored with you.
Now with saying all of that, nobody's perfect.
And of course good men will do mistakes too,
but this is where you kind of have to manage yourself.
If you're dating a man that is high value, as we say,
or a good man,
and you know, he's leading you, he's doing the right thing,
you think you guys having a really good relationship.
However you feel like, in some kind of case,
he started to take you for granted.
Or maybe he said something disrespectful.
Maybe you see that he's not really doing the right thing
and he's trying to manipulate someone or something,
or perhaps you.
In this case ladies,
you must step back and sit in a boundary.
You have to show him
that you will only submit to him
and will let him lead you
when he is being good, kind, righteous towards you.
Then he wants to do the right thing for you.
If you start to feel like
his sincere intentions towards you are failing,
or you start to sense some kinda disrespect,
this is where you need to stand up for yourself.
Because if you will submit to a man that disrespects you,
you basically rewarded his bad behavior
and the outcome of it will become very nasty.
Well ladies, I find that a lot of Christian men
try to manipulate women saying
well it says that a wife should submit to her husband,
et cetera, et cetera.
And yes, biblically,
it does say that a wife should submit to her husband,
but also in the Proverbs God really well describes
what is a good man that God loves,
and what is a bad man that God doesn't like,
and what type of people not to be involved in.
So for example, liars, manipulators, et cetera, right?
So submitting to a man, of course,
yet if you really have read the Bible
you will see that God only allows you to be with a good man.
So yes, biblically, it does say to submit to a man,
but, it also says that a man should value a woman
as he values himself,
a man should love a woman as he loves himself,
a man should love a woman so much
that he would be willing to die for her.
A man should love a woman as Christ loved the church.
It does not say anywhere biblically
that she should just blindly submit
to any kind of abuser, manipulator, game player, et cetera.
This is not right, and this is very silly.
So ladies, this is all I wanted to share about submission.
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