Okay, what a woman needs
from a man in a relationship to feel safe.
As I say this from the side of a dark parking lot.
Yes, so for a woman,
emotional safety is as important
as physical safety.
Making a woman feel safe
scores bonus points for the game of love.
The reason women are attracted
to dominant looking men
keywords, dominant looking
is because they assume
those men can protect them.
Good news gents.
You don't have to be rich, handsome, well hung
to be dominant or to look dominant.
And I invite you to ask
your female acquaintances
if there's ever been a time in the last year
or even months, they felt physically unsafe.
Most will say they have.
Ask them how recently it was.
You may be surprised that most women
who left their homes after dark,
not in a vehicle in the last week,
were acutely aware of their physical safety.
Now, if you've been following my channel for a while
first of all, thank you.
Well, you know that
women's primary need is to feel safe.
And while men also need to feel safe
men typically take physical safety for granted
unless in extremely dangerous circumstances
like maybe being in the hood at 3:00 AM.
So, if you look on Airbnb
and check the comments for the word safety
or security, you will find
it's mostly women talking about the neighborhood.
Remember when I did that video
under a bridge by the river?
Well, some of you were concerned for my safety.
Thank you.
Well, so was I, I didn't go there alone.
However, most guys wouldn't think twice
about filming there on their own.
When you make a woman feel physically safe with you
she'll experience you as having
masculine dominance in a good way
and that'll make her be able to relax
into her feminine submissiveness.
A lot of ladies are triggered by that word
and certainly I used to be.
But submissiveness isn't about being a doormat.
It's about letting her guard down, trusting you
and opening up to you like a beauty S flower.
However, masculine in dominance isn't the only way
to make a woman feel safe.
Women also need to feel emotionally safe with you.
Now there are simple,
subtle ways you can make a woman feel safe
that send a strong signal
that require no bravado, risk, or danger.
In this video, you'll learn
25 simple things you can do
or say to help your lady feel safe,
physically and emotionally
allowing her to be more feminine
and you to get more respect, action and loyalty.
Okay, if you're new to my channel, welcome.
I help men decode modern women
so you can find, attract and keep your keeper.
Or simply have better relationships with women
if you prefer to stay single
welcome to just the tip.
Okay, if there's any ladies watching
be sure to thank your man for displaying
any of these subtle superhero signs
and add any that I missed to the comments.
Fellas, keep score of which ones you do naturally
and which ones you'll add
to your romance repertoire.
Did I say that right?
Keep in mind some are appropriate for any woman
and others are best saved
for when you know her better.
You'll need to navigate the nuances.
So, here are 25 moves
to turn any man into a safety superhero.
One, gentleman's escort
after a date walk her to her car
especially after dark.
Chivalry isn't dead, it's just evolving.
You can say mind you, if I walk you to your car.
Two, text check in.
Send her a quick text when you know
she's about to do something out of her comfort zone
to make sure she's doing okay with it.
It's like a virtual, I got your back.
You could say something like
or text or something like
just making sure you're conquering
the world and being awesome.
Let me know if you need anything.
Now, just as a tip,
there's a big difference between
being masculinely supportive
and sipping or being needy.
More on this in a minute.
Three, well lit path
opt for well-lit areas.
When you're out and about you can say something like
let's take the scenic route under the street legs.
I don't want to mess up my boots
kicking somebody's butt.
Four, show up early
when you've agreed to pick her up
somewhere after dark.
And sure she's not waiting alone outside.
You could just text her saying
out front when you're ready.
No rush.
Five, listen up.
Pay attention to her feelings and concerns.
Being heard is a potent elixir
for feeling emotionally safe.
You could say do you need to vent
and blow off some steam
or should I put my Mr. Fix it hat on.
Master of keys.
If she's a well-known coworker
and she's nervous about walking alone
to her car in a sketchy parking garage
offer to be her personal key guardian.
Just being there can make all the difference.
You could say something like
I was just thinking of taking a walk to the garage
want some company.
Seven, plan a route
for your first drive together.
If you don't know her
let her know the route in advance.
It's like a trust building GPS
for your relationship.
You could say or you could text her and say
just a heads up, we're going to take the direct route
via X Street, blah, blah, blah.
My first panic attack
was on a first date with a guy
who picked me up in a van with no windows
that smelled like sea bass.
Yeah, I learned my lesson after that.
Eight, sidewalk chivalry.
Make sure you walk on the roadside of the sidewalk.
This is an old fashioned gesture.
Most women still swoon for.
You could just say I'll just walk over here.
Then give her a look that playfully says
see how I put myself in harm's way to save you.
Nine, secure compliments.
Compliment her on more than just her looks.
Make her feel secure
with words that go beyond the surface.
To learn my favorite compliment
watch my video on
how to compliment women.
It will help you with beautiful women
and less conventionally beautiful women.
If you know where you could say
your creativity blows me away
you're not just beautiful, you're an artist.
10, learn basic self-defense.
This is so important.
Enroll in a self-defense class together.
It's a bonding experience that packs a big punch.
Hint, don't punch her.
You could playfully say
hey, we could use some of these wrestling
moves in the bedroom.
If you don't have a girlfriend,
take the class yourself
so you can teach your next potential girlfriend
how to defend herself
when you are not there to protect her.
Key point, studies show women prefer
men who look dominant
over men who look physically attractive.
It's your ability and willingness
to protect her that matters most.
If you have both, bonus.
how to feel more masculine coming up.
11, subtle hand placement.
When walking together,
let your hand subtly glide down her lower back.
This is a gesture that screams
I got you, just the tip.
Unless you've already been intimate
don't start high on her back and move slowly down.
Or she may tense up wondering
where you're going to stop.
But if you've already been intimate with her
then definitely do that and give her a wink.
12, unspoken code.
Establish a code word
or signal for when she's feeling
uneasy in a conversation.
Your secret language of reassurance
lets her know it's okay
to put the brakes on a discussion
and just shelve it for now.
Maybe her code phrase is, unicorns are real.
So, then you could say okay, unicorns are real.
Let's agree to reconvene tomorrow.
Yes, key point ladies
or anyone who likes to shelve a disagreement
because conflict is overwhelming,
make sure you do revisit it.
Otherwise, you will lose trust
in being able to shelve it.
Side note, 13, mind your surroundings.
Be aware of your surroundings and subtly adjust.
If the environment feels off
use your spidey senses for date nights.
You could say you know what?
The vibe here is kind of off.
Let's go somewhere else.
14, trust building games.
So, you don't have to play
you know, the blindfolded
fall backwards game.
But you could maybe
reveal an intimate detail about yourself.
You say I'm going to share something with you.
I've only shared with 14 other people.
Actually only one but they're no longer living.
15, encourage open communication.
I know men love this one.
So, you want to create safe space
for her to share her thoughts and feelings
without judgment.
It's like a relationship therapy
minus the couch
though it can lead to the couch.
All right, you could say something like
this is a judgment free zone.
Well, you know, mostly share your thoughts
and we'll see how I do.
Okay, the classic arm tuck.
If you're in a crowded place like
Granville Island on Easter weekend,
you want to make sure
you're not going to get separated.
So, a small gesture with big impact
no words are necessary.
17, share your location.
Embrace the magic of technology
by sharing your location with her
when you're at a bachelor party in Vegas.
Ha, trick tactic.
What are you doing at a bachelor party in Vegas?
On a serious note,
if you're somewhere she's concerned about,
this one goes a long ways.
We all have insecurities
texts she receives from you,
your location, plus you're welcome.
X reminder.
pandering to her insecurities
in genuine thoughtfulness are two different things.
18, knowledge is potential power.
Be mindful of her allergies,
medical conditions, and preferences.
It's like having a PhD and partner allergy.
That was really cheesy.
Okay, so you could say
we're going to a restaurant
that's totally celiac friendly.
19, home sweet home.
If she lives in a sketchy area
make sure she gets home safely.
You could even ask her
if she wants a peephole installed.
Now, if she doesn't know you very well
you're not going to want to ask her
to come over to her home and inspect
her home for security
because that will actually
just make her feel less safe.
But if you know her well
you could say something like
want a quick home security check?
I will ensure everything is safe for you.
20, situational awareness.
Be mindful of her comfort level
in different situations.
If she's not in the mood for a crowded place
maybe for a cozy night in
#CouchCuddles,
you could say hey, not feeling a crowd tonight.
Let's switch gears and find a cozy spot
that feels just right.
21, emergency preparedness.
Equip her car with a small emergency kit.
You never know when a random act
of preparedness might come in handy.
Lord knows there's a 99% chance she won't know
how to use it but someone might.
To be fair, modern cars
are mystery to most men too.
That might be something you want to check on.
You could say something cheesy like
your chariot comes equipped
with a mini emergency kit.
Safety on wheels, courtesy of yours truly.
Just the tip.
This works best as a random act of thoughtfulness.
Don't make this a birthday gift.
That's not what any woman wants.
22, scheduled check-ins if you know her well,
if you're with her for a long time
you might want to remind yourself
to check in with her regularly.
Those good mornings and those good night texts
mean so much to a woman.
You could just say something simple like
good morning beautiful.
23, the discreet SOS signal.
So, you could come up with a discreet signal
for her to use
if she's feeling uneasy in a social setting
and wants to skiddle.
Is that a real word?
Maybe she plays with her earring.
Anyways, just find out
whatever's comfortable for her, okay.
24, boundary respect.
It's the golden rule of making anyone feel secure.
You could say something like
tell me specifically
what it looks like for me to respect this boundary.
Just the tip.
If her boundaries start to look like
prison walls aim to keep you out or in
or avoid conflict or responsibility,
you need a serious chitchat, stat.
25, unexpected acts of thoughtfulness.
Surprise her with unexpected
acts of thoughtfulness.
It's the I care about you vibe
that goes a long way in building trust.
This is also very important
for women to do for men.
Whether it's buying her her favorite flowers
or watching a chick flick with her
or something completely random.
You could say in case of superhero emergencies,
you should know who to call.
Spoiler it's me.
Okay, so in a minute I'm going to tell you
why I'm on this side of the camera
when that side is so beautiful.
If you know actually if you're a videographer
or a photographer, you'll probably already know.
So, leave your guess in the comments
and we'll just continue on with this video for now.
Okay, so women must also do their part
to make their man feel physically
and emotionally secure in the relationship.
I know it's a two-way street
how crazy is that.
High value, emotionally healthy women
need to feel safe and secure
not just physically but also emotionally.
If you can make a woman feel cherished
without losing herself in the process
or processed, do you guys say process or process?
Well anyways, she'll feel safe and secure
and naturally want to do the same for you.
Ladies, you must also do your part
to keep your man happy.
It is not all about you
and you won't respect your man
if you allow that to happen.
For the fellas who have been called a nice guy
but not in a nice way,
you may want to watch my video on simping.
And if you really want to feel
and be more masculine
and able to protect her
ready, willing, and able,
then you're going to want to watch my video on
how to be or feel more masculine.
Now, go forth guardians of the hearts
and let... Begin.
Thanks for being here.
Lots of love, God bless.
That's me.
Okay, so the reason I am on this side of the camera
there I am, hello, I'm waving at you.
Is because of the contrast with the lighting.
It's actually much easier
to film on overcast days when there's not shadows.
Because if I can see the beautiful
skyline of Vancouver,
like today in the sunshine,
well then you can't see my face
because it's in either in direct sunlight
and I'm squinting
and you can blindfold me with dental floss
or my face is completely dark in the shadows.
So, did you guess right?
Did you?
Extra bonus points if you guessed right.
Yeah, okay, that's all I got.
Lots of love, bye.