So, what do you do if you find out that
your husband
is bisexual? And my name is Paul Friedman,
I founded The Marriage Foundation and
this topic comes up from time to
time
and the reason it comes up,
I'm going to get into that a little bit
first
is because you find out that your
husband is cheating on you.
Now, he may just be into porn
which is not as bad but usually,
the problem isn't that he's bisexual.
The problem is that he's seeking his
comfort
and love elsewhere.
The bisexuality,
I'm not going to explain it, explain it
away
defend it, be mad at it or anything
like that.
Honestly, it's one of those
things
it is the way it is. However,
what isn't and is the way it is kind of
thing is marriage.
Marriage requires loyalty
and this is not to condemn your husband
for being disloyal.
No, I may be actually telling you
that he's seeking his comfort elsewhere
because you're not providing
something that is much greater than sex,
much greater than sex that if he
has that, he's not going to look for
anything else anywhere else and that
is love. True
marital unconditional love
with because he's still a man, all the
expressions
that go with it that's his true need.
We can live without sex. We're not
animals.
We don't want to, we shouldn't have to
but we can't live without love. We're
human beings,
and when a man bisexual or heterosexual
doesn't matter.
When he's not getting that from his
marriage,
he starts looking.
So you need to take a look not
at his
escape route or that he's bisexual,
forget that part and you may argue
with me. I get arguments all the time.
"Well, he should be
loyal. This is God's commandment
and all of these other things." Sure,
should be and you should never tell a
lie
and you should never complain, and you
should never criticize.
We're not perfect
but by the time your marriage has gotten
to this point where he's looking
elsewhere, the problem
is not his sexual preferences or lack
thereof
but it's what I described before. Get one
of my
books. You know what, you're past that
point.
Get the course for women so that
you can learn
how to create the environment in your
marriage that will be so attractive to
him
and make you at the same time so filled
with joy
that your marriage will turn into
The Garden of Eden that it's meant to be.
Put aside the bisexuality aspect of it.
It's a distraction from what's really
going on.
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It's not a right at Disneyland. You don't
just get into marriage and now
everything's going to be fine, what in
the world is like that?
Certainly, not marriage.
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We're here for you to help you out.
Don't be distracted by his sexuality
but be cognizant of the fact that from
his point
of view, he's not getting
really basically the love that he needs.
And
please don't tell me, "Oh, I love him like
crazy."
Something is missing, know that
by the result. It's cause and effect. All
right.
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