How to navigate the modern dating world.
Ugh, do you feel like you're lost
in the wilderness of modern dating?
Have you ever wondered
how you can meet women
without becoming a me too meme
and going to prison?
Are women even worth the risk today?
Well, given the modern dating world
these are reasonable questions.
If you're bored with porn
and the palm sisters
by the end of this video
you'll know your answers
to these questions and more.
If you're new to my channel
I help man decode modern women
so you can find, attract, and keep your keeper
or simply have better relationships with women.
Welcome to just the tip.
Okay, in today's dating world
the old and the new collide
creating a dating landscape
that's confusing, frustrating, and downright scary.
In this video we'll explore the psychology
behind successful modern relationships,
old standbys, and the subtle art of attraction,
and the unspoken rules
that govern the game of love today.
Plus how dating modern women
is different depending on if she's in her twenties,
thirties, forties, or older.
Now, a lot of men struggle with modern dating
often landing on advice
that validates negative feelings to towards women
but also causes havoc
and disconnections in those interactions.
When you start to understand
the nuances of modern dating
you'll begin to see real success.
For it to make sense we need to look at
how societal pressures,
social media, third way feminism and me too
have all influenced the attitudes
and behaviors of modern women.
However, there are things
that haven't changed no matter
how much some women
mistakenly think they want them to.
Key point, biology doesn't care.
Just before we get to that
let's look a little bit more
at the changing social norms.
But today's dating scene
is a blend of traditional and contemporary ideals.
It's a melting pot of different
expectations and behaviors.
You need to know when to be a chivalrous,
chival risk gentleman
and when to embrace more modern expectations.
Example, if you're old school
maybe you're great at
holding doors open for women.
Maybe you're really good at picking up the check.
Maybe you rely on gentlemanly behaviors
in the hopes of physical intimacy
but you fail to engage in deep
and meaningful conversations.
Modern women of value
want substance not financed sex.
Or maybe you're in your twenties
and you are in touch with your feelings
but you refrain from chivalry
for fear of being called a sexist.
Aye yai, yai, to help simplify every situation
follow my three A formula.
Depending on if she's in her
twenties, thirties, or forties,
you'll ask, assume or assert
women in their twenties
prefer you to ask
if she wants you to act chivalrous
like holding the door for her.
Women in their thirties don't assume chivalry
but they do appreciate it
and women in their forties
or older generally love chivalry
and genuinely miss that kind of assertive courtesy.
Examples, twenties ask with confidence
do you prefer a man to hold the door
or not so much?
Or do you believe men and women
should split the check or not so much?
Or do you want me to choose the restaurant?
Or do you want to choose the restaurant?
If she's in her thirties, assume with confidence,
hold the door, reach for the check.
I choose the restaurant
while considering her preferences.
I chose this one
because you said you love Italian food.
She's in her forties assert with confidence
hold the door, pay for the meal.
Say you're going to love
this Italian restaurant I found
you've already done the recon on her favorites.
Of course, there's always exceptions to the rule
but this will guide you most of the way
and keep you out of hashtag me too jail.
When you start blending
your natural masculine gallantry
with an updated attitude
your dating life can flourish
and the side effect is
you'll experience more satisfying connections
and more ***
You can learn to embrace
and even appreciate
taking the lead sometimes
as well as stepping back to listen to her input.
So easy.
Now, you not only get a teammate
who brings something more to the table
than her vagina,
but she'll be more enthusiastic
about bringing that vajayjay to the bedroom.
Yay, Yay.
So, many of you will be relieved
to not have to make decisions
and lead in every area of your relationship.
Now, let's look at understanding modern women.
Today's women are looking for men who are teammates
and who understand and respect
their independence and ambitions.
Here's where biology steps in.
Even though it's no longer about you
being a financial provider
modern women still want you
to pull your weight financially.
The thing is, a lot of women
make more money than men nowadays.
What's a guy to do?
Well, it becomes about
what else you can bring to the table
other than your big, beautiful wallet.
It's about being a teammate in every sense.
This means being emotionally supportive,
open-minded, communicative
and willing to grow together.
Example, maybe you used to approach dates
with a night and shining armor or mentality
only to find that attracted damsels in distress
and didn't resonate with modern independent women.
Well, when you shift your mindset
to view modern women
as needing your masculine strengths
like assertiveness and risk taking
while also providing less
traditionally masculine strengths as well
like sharing vulnerabilities,
your relationships become more fulfilling.
When you value her opinions,
support her ambitions and grow alongside her.
That is the kind of hero modern women need
and she should provide the same for you.
Women in their twenties don't want to be rescued
or "mansplained" what they're doing wrong.
They want to bounce ideas off you
and have you save yourself not them
or better yet, not need saving.
This also applies to women in their thirties
who don't want children.
Meanwhile, modern women in their thirties
who do want a family
will expect you to share
child rearing responsibilities
without strictly traditional
mommy daddy rules attached, most of them.
She may want both of you to make compromises
so she can continue working.
You need to know where you stand
on these types of issues.
Meanwhile, most of the women
I know in their forties and above
even the independent ones
maybe especially the independent ones
who realize all work and no play
makes Jill a cranky lady
want their men to assertively
support them in more traditional ways
that allows them to relax into their feminine.
Most "boss babes" of any age
need men who inspire them
to take a break from their masculine roles
and lean into their feminine nature,
which they often allowed
to wither or atrophy.
Women nowadays want a lot.
I know realistically, most men nowadays don't want
or can't afford a totally traditional
relationship anyway.
Like, do you want a woman without a job
who you need to financially support?
Well, exactly.
Example, even though my parents
were from a more traditional generation
when my mom wanted to leave being
solely a homemaker to go back to school
my dad totally supported her
emotionally, financially, the works.
Well, my mom was able to pursue her ambitions
and eventually contribute financially as well
and that was a win-win.
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Okay, so next up, the art of conversation.
So, mastering the art of conversation
is about more than talking, flirting,
or engaging in a playful banter.
Now, of course, those are still important
to build sexual tension.
However, it's also about creating a deeper connection
and true intimacy.
In to me see.
intimacy is about unraveling the vulnerable parts
of ourselves with each other
because that's the part
that establishes lasting bonds.
It's about active listening and empathy
and sharing personal stories that resonate.
A bonding conversation
isn't about the amount of words used
but it's more of a two way street
where questions lead to surprising discoveries
and silences are comfortable and not awkward.
Example, maybe you dread first dates
because the pressure to keep a conversation going
well, you can work on your listening skills
and your ability to ask open-ended questions
that invite longer responses
by engaging more with colleagues or acquaintances
and you can learn to share
personal anecdotes.
Anecdotes, that how you say it?
That add to the conversation
making others feel more comfortable with you
and becoming a more interesting
person to them as well.
Practicing with others not only makes you
and them feel good
it also builds social confidence.
Women in their twenties expect more transparency
than generations past.
They expect men to be able to label their emotions
and have a high degree of emotional
intelligence and sensitivity.
However, they don't want a dependent.
They want you to express your fears along
with your plan on how to tackle them.
Meanwhile, women in their thirties
appreciate vulnerable transparency
but don't necessarily expect it.
And yes, they still want you to manage your fears.
Meanwhile, women in their forties and above
know that this kind of intimacy
does not come naturally to most men
of their age or older
but they do crave it
and as long as it's not coming from a place
of weakness, neediness, or dependency
especially low self-worth, they like it.
Which brings us to building self-confidence.
So, true self-confidence comes from within.
I know you know that
but it's about knowing your worth
and embracing your flaws that you can't change
or don't want to change.
It's a quiet assurance
not an overbearing arrogance.
Developing this kind of confidence
involves self-reflection,
facing your fears
by stepping out of your comfort zone
and recognizing your strengths
as much as your weaknesses.
Example, when you start focusing on
what you're really passionate about
like gaming or music or fitness
or science or skateboards or whatever
and you immerse yourself in your interests
your knowledge of that topic expands
and your confidence grows in that area.
You can bring this self-assurance
to your dating life
along with a contagious enthusiasm
you feel for your passions
and your delight is noticeable in your posture,
your conversations, your overall demeanor.
Women experience you as someone
comfortable in your own skin
which is incredibly attractive
and it makes women feel
they can be themselves as well.
True confidence is attractive to women of any age
but be gentle with yourself.
It doesn't happen overnight.
If you're overwhelmed that's totally normal,
take one thing and start there.
Maybe start with my simple three A formula.
If she's in her twenties, ask
if she's in her thirties, assume
if she's in her forties or above, assert.
Understanding the dynamics
of modern dating and relationships
it can transform your approach to women
and dating and relationships.
Instead of being frustrated by what you don't know
or understand about women and relationships
just do a checkup from the neck up
and reframe it
as an exciting new interest you're curious about.
However, it's not all about what women want.
She must bring something
worthy of your love and attention.
Look for a woman who has most of the qualities
in my she's a keeper video.
Thank you so much for being here.
Lots of love, God bless.