How does that happen?
How do you end up there?
I'm gonna tell you in this video.
Hey, I'm Rebecca Zung.
I am an attorney.
Been recognized as one of the top attorneys in the
country and yet I found myself in the nightmare
in the hands.
Not just one
but two covert narcissists.
Waking up in cold sweats nauseous
in the middle of the night.
Ruminating
feeling like I was going crazy,
stressed,
anxious,
all of the things that I know you're feeling
because of these narcissists.
And that is why I have this passion.
That's why I I'm on this crusade.
That's why I make all these videos.
Yes, I've represented narcissists in my practice
Yes, I've had narcissist as
opposing clients in my practice,
but the reason why I'm doing this,
the reason why I have this passion
for it is because I've had narcissists in my life
because I've had to deal with them
and so it caused me to go down this
path of having to read literally
hundreds of books on narcissism study this,
know this and so while I spoke on the subject
of negotiation for years and years.
And became a master at
the subject of negotiation
and how I built my practice was lecturing
and teaching on the topic of negotiation
for years and even wrote a
bestselling book on the
topic of negotiation called
Negotiate like you matter.
Robert Shapiro or even wrote
the forward for that book.
It was really reading all of
those books on narcissism.
That's when I started realizing,
hey, I can actually
apply what I'm learning
about narcissism to what
I already knew about negotiation.
That's when I started seeing
real movement in my cases.
I was like I had discovered Penicillin,
and that's when I was like,
I gotta share this.
I gotta share this with the world because I
don't want other people dealing with this.
This can't be something that I keep to myself.
I want other people to know
how to deal with these people too.
And I know that I'm one of the
only lawyers on the planet that really
understands how to negotiate with
narcissists in a real way.
But once you understand, you know,
how to negotiate and how these people think.
Once you have the tools and you understand
the psyche of these people,
then you can turn it around.
You absolutely can work with them
but you have to understand both.
But why do smart people fall for narcissism?
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And I do know why smart people
end up falling for narcissist now.
It's you know, a number of different things.
But you know,
first of all, they start off by love bombing you
and one of the things that they do with
love bombing you is they mirror you.
They be kind of become you.
They study you.
They know exactly what it
is that you want to see.
They show up as that person.
Everything that you've ever wanted
they show up as.
You think the stars have aligned
but that's because they know exactly what to do,
what to say,
how to be.
All the things that they know that you want.
Whether it's business.
Whether it's personal.
They know how to turn on
that charm, that charisma,
the confidence, all the seas.
And so they mirror you.
And it's almost weird how they mirror you.
There's a lot of weird things
that narcissists do
by the way and that's just one of them.
Do have a whole video on
Weird things that narcissists do?
and definitely check that out.
There's a lot of weird things in a narcissist do.
But they study you and they know
how to be exactly what it is that you want.
They've spent their entire lives
on the art of manipulation.
And I've often said, you know,
Malcolm Gladwell
talked about in the in the book The Outliers.
The ten thousand hours that
people need to spend to master
something to master the skill of something.
You know, The Beatles
spent their time in Germany
to become perfect.
Bill Gates had time in coding
in high school.
You know in his book,
he takes all these different examples.
Narcissists has been doing this since childhood.
They have way more than ten thousand
hours at the art of manipulation.
And so you can't take that person I mean,
they've been working on this for a long time.
Remember also, they didn't attach themselves
to you because you have so little value.
They attach themselves to you
because you have so much.
They're opportunists.
They seek smart people out.
They want somebody who has a lot of value.
They want to be seen and associated
with someone who's going to elevate them.
Make them look good.
By the way,
once they're attached to this
person that elevates them
makes them look good,
then devaluing that person.
Also, boosts their ego
because now they're devaluing
something that has value.
So that boosts their ego.
It doesn't boost their ego
to value something that has no value.
Where's the boost in that?
That's why they devalue you,
by the way.
That's why you end up falling
for them because they are so excellent
at laying the perfect trap for you.
They make it look so that they're
the perfect match for you.
They know what they're doing.
You know,
if you if they're a business partner,
a prospective business partner,
they've got all the right clients,
they've got all the right skills,
they've got all the right contacts.
Everything lines up.
If it's a romantic partner,
they've got everything
you've ever wanted in that person.
They're very, very good.
But you know,
that doesn't mean that that has
anything to do with you.
I mean, they're almost like chameleons.
That's why you end up falling for that person.
That's why we as smart people end up
hooked into their webs,
hooked into their layers and
you know, you cannot beat yourself up over that.
You cannot feel guilty about that.
You cannot feel bad about that.
You just need to move on.
You just need to cut your losses
and make a decision and say,
it's okay.
That was then this is now.
The more you beat yourself up over it,
the more you say,
oh, I can't believe I did that,
you know, all of that it keeps
yourself in this victim mentality,
this victim mode.
It holds you back from being your best self.
From keeping.
from allowing your best self to
come forward your creative self.
The self that you were meant to be on this planet.
The self that you can give to others
in the world your soul,
which is here to serve the
highest intention for yourself,
which is to create,
to give
to the world.
And you know you're here for a higher purpose.
You know you're here to create,
to serve,
to give.
And that's what you need to focus on.
So let it go.
So I want you to put in the comments right now.
‘‘I’M MOVING ON!’’
because you're just gonna let it go.
You're gonna move on.
Who cares?
Just you know it's time.
I mean, that's what I had to do,
and it was really the best thing that I've ever done.
Truly the best thing I've ever done.
You know, now I get to serve
through this YouTube channel.
Literally millions of people all over the world.
You know, through my programs.
I've helped thousands of people
And you know, it truly has been my
honor and my privilege
and you can too.
I'm moving on.
I want you to put that in the comments.
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