last point waiting on God is allowing God to take something out of you before he brings
someone to you so we see that with Adam is that Adam not only that God tells him I want
you to go look for a wife and then Adam looks for someone he can't find it he waits for God
but I want you to see that God brings the person to Adam by not just Adam wasn't just
in a prayer room Adam wasn't just waiting idle waiting on God is allowing God to work on you
God went into the surgical room and started to surgically remove things out of Adam this was this
was painful this was action see waiting on God the problem with the young generation that we have
today is that many people while they're waiting they're fornicating they know they won't be end
up with that person they're saying you know what why don't we just simply begin to flirt let's just
begin to stir up feelings within that you know you shouldn't be doing leading them on on something
that you know you have no interest of being with the person you don't see future with the person
if you don't see the future with the person there is no need to mess up with their feelings there
is no need to sext there is no need to develop emotional attachments there is no need to message
them at two in the morning through snapchat there's no need i'm gonna share with you a secret
that I was taught when I was a single person the way you act as a single man is the way you
will act as a married man and when I was single this is not to brag about myself but this area
of my life was under control you wouldn't find me driving with another woman you wouldn't find me
going on a coffee with another woman now you can call me strange you can call me weird whatever
you can call me but the habits I developed as a young man I lived in purity toward single ladies
and I wasn't leading no one on and these habits they stayed with me when I was a married man
when I am a married man my God I can get in trouble today in this room Jesus
guys it's the english is my third language okay come on help me out it's not intentional amen
I don't have to work on being pure in my relationships with other women I don't have
to discipline myself not to text girls randomly because I didn't do that when I was 16. I won't do
that now when i'm 31. listen to me young man you may give yourself a freedom to sext to text and do
cool because you're single and you you say i'll change when I get married let me tell
you something you won't and your spouse will struggle it's better to right now act like a man
not like a boy the bible says blessed is the man who finds a wife not a woman
that means the woman is already acting like a wife she's already acting she is not chilling
with the boy she's not just simply til 2 in the morning to every single dude that has nothing
to do but to text back and forth she doesn't snapchat herself from different positions
to expose what her mama gave her she doesn't do that why because she's a wife now even
though she doesn't have a husband yet and one day she will have a husband come on somebody
be a wife before you become a wife i mean you treat your relationships with purity
that means that every boy and every guy that you hang out they know there's there's guardrails why
because you're taken no not like the movie taken but like taken by Jesus and the Holy Spirit taken
are you with me and so we see that Adam he goes to sexual sleep and when you are waiting in order
for God to work on you you have to sexually go to sleep to sexually go to sleep doesn't mean
you have to sexually die it doesn't means your hopes and dreams are gone it just means you don't
invoke emotions in other people you don't lead other people on and you don't do this
thing we're just talking which means we're doing everything the married people do the only thing we
don't have is I don't have his last name that's exactly talking means in their culture today
it just means when you are waiting you are sexually asleep you don't come to church to
just to look for somebody you come to church you come to other places and you focus on God
and as you sexually asleep you're spiritually awakened and God is beginning to do things in
your life and in your character and why is God wanting to do that i want you to write this down
because the key of finding the right person is first being the right person
you have to understand the reason why God wants to work
on you is because there's something in you that's a magnet that attracts
you attract who you are not what you want and so when you're going through waiting God is working
God removes this God removes that God fixes that and then the people who used to be
attracted are no longer attracted and people are beginning to be attracted who are different
begin to be drawn to you and your taste buds change your approach begins to change
if you know you the way you know you would you marry you
why would you want somebody else to do that if you know you the way you know you would you marry you
so that's why God wants to shape certain things I always challenge young people that
many of us walk into the relationships with high expectations low preparation do the math
anything that's between that is frustration if your expectation is and you're a young man you're
like man I want her to look like a Hollywood star i want her to have the anointing of Katherine
Koleman the heart of Mother Teresa to cook like my mom have as many kids as my grandma if you walk
into marriage relationship with expectations on this but your preparation is on this preparation
and expectation has to be around the same level
and that's how we avoid frustration all kinds of our problems in our relationships
because we're prepared and because our expectations are realistic and
reasonable