Hey there, this is Clay with RelationshipInnerGame.com.
And I'm back.
Yeah, I took a couple months off because I was doing some traveling.
Um, and also, you know, I was kind of wanting to take some time away from Youtube and just
kind of focus on another aspect of our business just to be able to really scale that part
up.
But you know, it's autumn time now.
Summer's over.
I'm obviously back here again.
I'm, so I'm going to be doing some more videos now.
Hopefully on a more consistent, regular basis moving forward, but you know, yes, I'm back.
We're back.
The Relationship Inner Game channel is back.
ModernLove.life, still our business that we're really chugging ahead with a full steam ahead
and today we're going to be addressing the Advanced Relational Skill of present moment
awareness.
Okay, so present moment awareness is one of the Advanced Relational Skills that we teach
to our members of all of our courses and I want to just really clarify a certain misconception
that a lot of people have about awareness.
Okay?
So oftentimes people will think that awareness really means that they need to be tuned into
what the other person is doing, to be really aware about, you know, whether they're dating
somebody else or not.
Or you are really aware that it took them three days to respond to a text message or,
you know, stuff like that.
Right.
And you know, sure, that is one component of awareness, but awareness isn't just about
being hyper vigilant about what the other person is doing or not doing or anything like
that.
Awareness is also something that we want to turn inwards and really look at how we are
bringing ourselves to the interactions, right?
Because I noticed that this is a big issue that a lot of people have with dating and
relationships and especially to the people out there watching this who are trying to
save their relationship, uh, you know, after a breakup.
And that is that they think that, that they're somehow not a factor in the equation that,
you know, they just kind of have to, you know, text the right thing or say the magic line.
And it's really all about, you know, what your ex is doing or what this other person
is doing, or you know why they're this way or that way.
But really you don't really stop to turn your attention inwards and look at how you're bringing
yourself to the interactions, you know.
Are you anxious?
Are you filled with anxiety where you're walking on eggshells?
Are you second guessing yourself when you're about to say something, about to text something
about to send that email, right?
...That letter, whatever it might be.
Are you really over analyzing that and just like really almost paralyzed with fear?
Or are you bringing yourself to the interactions in a completely different state of mind?
Right?
And this is really another of awareness that I think a lot of people really overlook.
You want to be able to turn that attention inward and really notice how you are bringing
yourself to the interactions and the effect that that is having on the interaction as
a whole.
Right?
Oftentimes when people have poor interactions and you know the other person pulls away,
the other person disconnects, the other person doesn't respond or something, they are like,
"Well, what's wrong?
Are they just emotionally unavailable?"
And I mean, you know, sure, that could be a possibility, but before you just jump to
conclusions and say, "Hey, it was the other person's fault.
They're just being an asshole or something like that."
You know, you want to.
You want to really take a look at how you're bringing yourself to the interaction.
You know, was there something that was in your presence, in the way that you were bringing
yourself to that interaction that could have possibly discouraged them from engaging with
you, from contacting you, from interacting with you, from replying to you or something
like that.
And if so, do you need to change that?
Do you need to change your strategy?
Do you need to change your approach in some way?
And if you're always tuned into the other person, what they're doing, what they're not
doing, who they're doing it with, and all of that stuff, then you're never going to
really have that present moment awareness to notice how you are bringing yourself to
the interactions and the impact that is going to have.
So please, as you are studying the Advanced Relational Skills, do not overlook this aspect
of present moment awareness.
Okay, so again, this has been Clay with RelationshipInnerGame.com.
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This has been Clay and I'll see you in the next video.
Take care.