- Are you feeling disrespected?
Are you at a loss of how to deal with his bad behavior?
If so, check out my new video, how to set
in five different types of boundaries for his disrespect.
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So without further ado let's start with number one, teasing.
So why do men tease?
Men tease when they are bored, in a playful mood
or want to see how you react when they poke
at your potential insecurities.
They want to see if you can stand up for yourself.
So in this case, the best way to respond is to play along.
If you feel like it that is, but if you do not
and you cannot think of a comeback or you're just not
in the mood, basically just ignore their teasing.
Pretend you did not hear what he said and go about your day
as nothing happened, as it's normal.
However, if you can think of a comeback, then you
can go ahead and tease him back in a playful manner that is.
That way you are showing that you can stand up for yourself
and will not take his childish behavior personally.
However, saying that, when you do banter or tease
make sure not to cross a boundary as it should not be done
in a malicious way but rather in a playful one.
Ladies, I have a great video how to be playful back
that you can find just by following the link right here.
Situation number two, disrespect.
So what does this look like?
This is when he calls you names, makes fun of you
or your family, or speaks rudely to you.
You set in a boundary by saying please do not speak to me
or talk about my parents this way.
The key is to do it early, as soon as you see signs of it.
And why you should do this early
because if you let the little things go up
this can snowball to bigger issues in future.
Therefore you need to say this as soon as he makes
a disrespectful comment like this.
The majority of guys do drop it,
especially if you say this in the early days,
but if they don't and try to push it further
to see how you will respond then you can make it clear
that you are not going to put up with this
by removing yourself from his presence.
For example, you may even leave your dinner
or wherever you are to show through your actions
that you are not accepting this behavior.
Number three, controlling.
So what does this look like?
This usually begins in little ways.
For example, if you suggest something
like you drop university because let's say
you are too old to study yet you love what you're studying
and you are excited about your future plans.
Then you need to stand up for yourself for your beliefs
because this is your chosen path
and he should be supporting you with this decision,
not belittling you.
However, if he's uplifting you and is suggesting something
that will make your life better
then it is good to listen as he is looking out for you.
From the two examples you can see how this is dependent
on context and you should see how one request is reasonable
whereas the other one is not.
If for example, he tells you that you cannot wear
a particular dress and you should go and get changed
yet you love what you are wearing
but you listen and change it in order to please him
then this can become dangerous as you're turning on
the green light for him to control you because
you're submitting to his request only because
you're trying to please him and pleasing
his controlling requests day by day, 10 years down the line,
there is potential for him
to be fully in charge of your life,
become a controlling monster, take you for granted
and even lose attraction for you.
Why?
Because by pleasing his requests blindly
and not standing up for yourself step by step
end up losing your own identity.
However, if you stand up for yourself and do not let him
push you around from day one, 10 years down the line
he will still be hanging in the basics of trying
to get you to change your dress.
As they say, men, if you cannot control your woman,
she's a keeper.
Why?
Because she has got a character and that's hot.
Number four, games and manipulation.
So why do men do this?
Men do is because they're bored, insecure,
maybe want a show, looking for ego strokes
or maybe they want to make you insecure
along with checking your personality perhaps
and showing off.
We can never know for sure why is he playing a game
as we cannot read his mind.
But most important is to know how to handle it correctly
when the game is being played as this will determine
his respect for you.
You will either gain some or you will either lose some.
When it comes to games, knowledge is key.
So if you can learn to understand why is he playing games
and you learn how to respond to these
not only you will prevent him from walking all over you
but you will also get him to admire you.
Your boundary is set when you make the right response
to whichever games he plays on you.
Yet in order to give the right response
you must learn about the games.
And if you want to have the knowledge
about the games men play and how to handle them,
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Number five, how to respond to his promises.
Well, in this case, I have a line for you
which seems to work really well.
So let me share it.
If he makes a lot of promises without following through
with his actions this is the line that seems to do the work.
"Oh, I actually that you were a man of your word."
Why does it work?
Because a man of your word is an honor, it is a big deal.
Therefore, if he lets you down, calling him out on it
should impact him at least to reflect on his behavior
and hopefully stop the empty promises
being from thrown your way.
So ladies, these are my five ways on how to handle
disrespect in different situations.
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