if you're someone who struggles with anxiety there's a very valuable lesson
to be learned from the whole grav3yardgirl (graveyard girl) and Starbucks sippy sippy situation what is up
everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the problem but
focus on the solution and if you are new to my channel my channel is all about
helping you out with your mental health and sometimes what I like to do is take
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YouTube all right anyways for those of you who are in the know let me do a
quick little recap about what's going on with graveyard girl her real name's
bunny and Starbucks so basically she uploaded a video there was a lot of
stuff she was posting online about how mad she was at Starbucks so she made
this video explaining the whole thing
she was getting free refills from Starbucks for years right she was
friends with the baristas and all sorts of stuff and they said that the pulse
here changed seat bunny was going through the drive-thru at Starbucks and
she would come back like four times day and get free refills they said hey
policies changed you want to get those free refills so bunny goes on this huge
you know she's out there talking about the situation bunny has since taken that
video down all right so basically with this I'm kind of new to YouTube still
and I found out about her through Shane Dawson series and talking to her and she
struggles with anxiety and other mental health issues and she's trying to like
reignite her channel and to be completely honest I think she made a
misstep with this video Shane encouraged her to
make more videos getting vulnerable and talking about you know her life and
things like not just you know or unboxings and different products and
stuff I think she made a misstep you know she was like oh the reception that
she was expecting so anyways I found out about this situation because YouTube
just recommends a billion videos I just kept getting videos like graveyard girl
on Starbucks I'm like what happened with graveyard girl in Starbucks so I watched
a few videos just to kind of see what was going on so the first thing I want
to say is this is really interesting to me how many of these videos commentating
on this situation like how many people made these videos and they said I get it
I struggle with anxiety - anxiety and depression
she suffers from bad anxiety I suffer from anxiety so I understand that she
put us down to being like an anxiety thing somebody with anxiety I totally
get that the change of routine or something in fact can really like a mess
with your mental state and like give you anxiety even worse we all relate to your
anxiety I don't know one person that does not have anxiety social awkwardness
or anything like that I'm not saying anything either way but I
just want you the audience to think about that for a second like is it
coincidental that everybody making a commentary on their it's not everybody
but a lot of people making a comment around it they say I get it I struggle
with anxiety - like the channel trailer right now currently for my channel is
you're not mentally ill and I talk about how people are perpetuating the stigma
and kind of diluting the whole mental health thing by people just throwing
around words all willy-nilly like I'm anxious to or I'm depressed - because
like when you're saying that and you haven't been diagnosed so you don't
really have it it's really minimizing other people with legitimate disorders
so like again I'm not saying the people who made their commentary videos haven't
been diagnosed with anxiety but it's just something I want you to think about
like statistically more people are suffering from anxiety than ever before
so it's very well that all these commentators do have
anxiety so it's possible but I just wanted to point that out because it's
also possible that you know people are just saying this you know what I mean
they're like well I get nervous too sometimes so I have anxiety like it's
different okay how anxiety is much different when you have a clinical
disorder than it is for just like normal nervousness and worries and things like
that which is something that everybody gets so I just want to start out and
point that out a little bit so anyways here's my take on it and here's the
lesson I want all of you to learn from this ok so a lot of people pointed this
out you know some of the videos that I just referenced they're putting this out
like you know here's the thing I had to realize like I got diagnosed with a
generalized anxiety disorder okay a lot of social anxiety issues just all sorts
of anxious everything right something I had to accept and realize a long long
long time ago is that the world is not going to change just for me okay this is
one of the reasons why I suggest that all of you you know Pat does meditation
and keep a journal and write a gratitude list because our brains default into a
selfish self-centered place we think me me me me me this is affecting me
everybody else needs to change because of me right and that's where I take
issue and this is something that hope bunny learns like I know the struggle of
anxiety and I'm not just saying that anti-anxiety medications non-narcotic
anti-anxiety medications and like I understand that but until I accepted the
fact the fact that people places and situations are not going to change
because of this I wasn't gonna get anywhere because it's fighting it gets
the current you're just coffee setting these unrealistic expectations is what
it is you're sending this unrealistic
expectation that everybody is going to not only know that you have this mental
illness but they're also going to cater to it that is extremely unrealistic and
once I let go of that idea I started getting better I started realizing what
I could do in my life to manage my anxiety without just blindly walking
into situations thinking that everybody was gonna change just because I've I
baby like I would get really really anxious going to grocery stores or going
to any other stores are going to the mall or public places I would get really
anxious in crowded spaces right so it would be like me saying like okay well
since I have anxiety nobody should go to these stores or malls or anything like
that because I have anxiety and everything's about me like do you kind
of see how that sounds so this is a call to action for you like you have to work
on these things you have to figure out your own workarounds when you
acknowledge and accept your symptoms of mental illness and you start creating
workarounds your symptoms start to decrease and your life gets a whole lot
easier so one reference a story that happened a
few months ago where there was um there was this thing that blew up online
because of an Eminem concert okay so Eminem was doing a show I forgot which
show was aware was or whatever but in one of the sets
he had like gunshots like as a sound effect go off and I think that went off
too and people were tweeting out about how insensitive it was because of you
know different mass tragedies going on in the country especially at that time
there's a lot of stuff in schools and things like that like and they were
saying how insensitive it was and you know I think one tweet went viral from
some celebrity who said they were out the show and they said they have PTSD
there needs to be a warning and da-da-da-da-da and this is the kind of
stuff I'm talking about like I'm a mental health advocate and I want to
increase awareness and decrease the stigma like I agree with Eminem like
Eminem came out and like they said we're not changing anything we've been doing
this same sound effect for years we're not changing anything and I'm like good
because our mental health is our responsibility to take care of you know
what I mean like we have to acknowledge like when like especially if you
struggle with PTSD and loud noises and things like that like you have to be
more mindful about what you're doing where you're going is there a
possibility of this and that way if you're preparing yourself when you go
into it you're either a you don't go or you're prepared for it and hopefully you
develop coping skills to deal with it so you're not sheltered aside of your house
all the time like for example even though I had a lot of social anxiety and
didn't like crowded space like I love going to concerts I love
going to shows so I had to figure out ways to deal with that but at the end of
the day this is a good thing because it also makes you really really resilient
to these situations and it helps to decrease your symptoms like I can't go
anywhere I want to now and my anxiety is minimal because I have become more
resilient to those situations I'm gonna say and there's something I'm gonna
continue to say whenever I see a youtuber discuss their mental health
issues and again I don't know bunny I don't know graveyard girl I don't know
if she's seeing a therapist but like if you watch the Shane Dawson series like
graveyard girl is ballin like she has money out of control right like girl
make sure you're getting help because that's the other thing like when we're
talking about the selfishness of self-centeredness right like we expect
the entire world to change and Bend around our mental illness yet when we
have the resources to go get help we're not getting any help so we want
everybody to do what we think they should do but we're not doing the thing
that can possibly improve our quality of life and mental health so I'd like I
said I don't know if she's seeing a therapist but if not girl go see a
therapist go see a doctor like start working through this stuff
okay and I'm gonna make some videos eventually because like as I continue to
grow I know I'm gonna get backlash when I keep telling people to go get help so
I'm gonna make some videos about that because I understand how how scary it is
how how hard it is how some people don't like asking for help I get that but we
need to make a change if we want to improve and if you need help or you need
to work with a therapist I have a better help link down below its online
affordable therapy if you can afford it check it out all my since professionals
my girlfriend loves it she struggles with anxiety and she's been making
massive improvements since working with the therapist on better health so check
it out if you would like to alright anyways let me know your thoughts down
below about do you think the world should bend to your needs if you
struggle with anxiety let me know down in the comments all right but that's all
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