Mark: Hey, it's Mark here and today, we are talking one of the most important topics
that you can possibly come across in relationships and in fact in life is your intuition. Now
I've got Laurie Davis Edwards back with me, one of the most amazing experts at this. She
has been responsible for over 200 marriages with her clients. Uh, you've been a New York
times, Amazon bestselling book, Love at First Click, all these, Good Morning America, all
these crazy things you've done. Today, we're talking intuition again and if you've seen
that previous video, if you haven't definitely watch it, it's five signs that you're blocking,
or five steps, sorry to accessing your intuition. Today, we're talking about seven signs you're
blocking your intuition.
Laurie: Man, the people block it..
Mark: Man, the people block it. It's going to be a fun one. So let's dive straight into
it. Laurie, what's number one?
Laurie: Number one is overthinking. This is the biggest thing that we all do is we like
over analyze, over intellectualize, try to think it all out and like make sure it's all
logical and our intuition is never logical. It never makes sense. It's always the thing
that you know, that you need to do is actually the thing you need to do instead of overthink
it and convince yourself that it's not the right thing for you.
Mark: Yeah. This one, when I first heard it, I went, whoa how many of us are guilty of
this? Literally, just overthinking a problem. It's like, you know the answer. Yeah, it's
there, but we overthink, we get into it and we make bad decisions
Laurie: And then we spend so much energy over thinking too. And we don't need to like better
things for you to spend energy on in your life.
Mark: Number two is excess busy-ness. So it's a little bit related to number one, but one
thing we do to, I guess distract ourselves from our intuition or not want to follow into
it when we know what we should be doing is we keep ourselves really busy. Uh, one thing
I like to say to my clients when they say they're too busy to me, I remind them that
they have the same amount of hours in the day as Elon Musk. And if the dude can run
four companies and change the world, it doesn't give any of us an excuse to not have time
for that, which matters. But we do, we get busy being busy.
Laurie: Yeah. Well, and here's the thing. When you're really aligned with everything
that you're doing, you don't need as much time because you're not spending all your
time distracting yourself with all these other things. Like you just are super clear on what
needs to get done in your life and what doesn't need to get done.
Mark: It's really a symptom of all these thoughts, isn't it, that swimming around and blocking
the intuition. Number three, Laurie,
Laurie: Number three is distractive eating. Um, we go to food as a distraction. It means
eating when you're not hungry, overeating, eating things that you know aren't good for
your body or just that you don't even need in your system. Um,
Mark: I think I might be guilty of that, so is my cat.
Laurie: Um, but yeah, we just, we just, we go to food to like soothe us and it's really
like soothing that we know that we're not listening to ourselves. Um,
Mark: Such an important one. It's such a common one. Again, overthinking busy-ness, distractive
eating that we use when something comes up that we're like, no, I don't really want to
deal with that. I'll sit with that. Number four is making excuses for people. I've caught
myself doing this one as well where we know what's up deep down. If we actually stop,
we know what this person's about, but we make excuses for that person often. Obviously here
we're talking about in a romantic context, but it can be in any other context as well.
You find yourself justifying or he probably did this because of this, or he really loves
me because of this. Your intuition knows, but you're not trusting it. If you're making
excuses for someone, clear sign, you're blocking your intuition. Number five Laurie.
Laurie: Number five, screentime we block ourselves so much with our phones, with Netflix, with
social media. Um..
Mark: It's really excessive screentime.
Laurie: Excessive or really just like unnecessary, you know, like I think that, um, it's, it's
such a tool we go to, to not feel our feelings and to not be with ourselves. And you know,
when you're scrolling that you don't need to be doing that. Like, are you really connecting
with anyone when you're scrolling? Are you really like, it's the least thing. And the
same with like Netflix or anything else, video games, anything like that. That's like actual
screen time too. We do that a lot just to like suppress what's going on inside.
Mark: Yeah. How does one tell the difference between, I guess maybe healthy screen time,
which you know, is something you'll share with your friends versus unhealthy? Any tips
on that?
Laurie: Yeah, I mean it's, it's about frequency. Like first, um, I think people who have healthy
relationships with it because it is a relationship, that's another way to like look at it, um,
that if it's healthy, we're not doing it all the time. Um, we're not addicted to it. If
it feels like a compulsion, that's when you know it's not right.
Mark: Yeah. And kind of what do you find yourself doing? One thing I like to ask is just before
you go on to your screen time, is it, do you think a thought and then you end up compulsion
to, Oh, I better check Instagram now. Number six is one I talk about a bit on the channel
and it's one that might be a bit more obvious, but so important is substances. Uh substances
are one of the best unhealthy ways to distract us from our intuition to distract us from
what's really going on. Whether it's drugs, whether it's alcohol, whether it's any, any
kind. I mean even eating would technically come under that, but any kind of particularly
drugs and alcohol, toxics type substances can be big blockers. And again, I like to
say what was going on just before the compulsion to take the substance that will lead to big
blocks in intuition. The last one,
Laurie: Last one is when you decrease your self worth. So when your internal chatter
turns to, I'm not good enough or I shouldn't have done that, or that's not the right thing.
Or you know, really like putting yourself down, beating yourself up. Oh, that's a huge
one that we do as women just like are beating ourselves up for things all day that aren't
even our fault sometimes. Um, and there's a huge link to like how we're treating ourselves
and our intuition because how we're treating ourselves like is the way that we're with
ourselves. And if we're not treating ourselves well, then we're probably not listening to
ourselves.
Mark: Yes, this is [inaudible] it's a huge one. The way I think of this is kind of, is
yourself worth decreasing when you're with a guy? You know, do you see, cause I've, I've
done this in my own relationships and you noticed that each day just feel a smidge less
confident. Like you're just a smidge less less, uh, kind of on top of life. And it's
literally like each time you ignore your intuition, it's like you have to pay in a little bit
of your self esteem to do it. And over time, that compounding effect, you have to exchange
a lot of your self esteem if you keep blocking your intuition. So if you're in a relationship
or a dating scenario and you're going, Oh, is, is this good or bad? What does my intuition
say? Ah, I'd literally just ask, well, are you feeling better about yourself or worse
about yourself? Since you've been in the relationship and you get your answers to whether you're
blocking your intuition based on that. Laurie, thank you so much for coming in. It was a
pleasure. I really love your content. The stuff we talked about today is so, so powerful.
Don't forget we have another video on this as well. Five steps to accessing your intuition
and you've got this amazing program. Can you speak a little bit about that?
Laurie: Sure. So my program's called Abundant Love and it's all about like accessing things
like your intuition, all of your gifts that are actually inside of yourself and about
like when we can do that, when we can come out of scarcity mode, when we can go into
our inner abundance, then that's what we attract on the outside. So whoever we are is who we
attract. And when we can come from a place of like deeper self love, relationship with
self, we attracted men who are super connected to themselves, who can be trusted. You know
who like want our worthy wand to really shine. So that's what abundant loves about.
New Speaker: Beautiful program. Check it out, in the, by the link in the description below.
I'd love to hear your comments, thoughts, questions as well. Have you found yourself
doing one of these signs like we all have at times? I'd love to hear your story. Tell
us a bit about it in the comment section below, or just leave your thoughts on the video down
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little bell. And Laurie, thank you so much for coming in. Pleasure having you. That was
fun. We'll see it in the next video very soon.
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