Mark: How to keep him chasing and be romantic again. Bring the romance back to
the relationship. I have the amazing Mr. Alex Cormont with me. Thank you so much for coming
in, Sir .France's number one dating and relationship coach. This guy's a phenomenal expert and
he is from the incredible French culture. You are all known for your romance and your
ability to create romance. So I thought, who better to bring in than this guy who's coached
over 30,000 people to talk about how to regain romance and keep a guy chasing from a little
bit of a different cultural perspective. Alex, I'm going to throw it straight over to you.
What's your, what's your tips? What's your best advice for doing this?
Alex: So you know, as a French person, when we talk about romance, that means we are still
in the attraction process. But when we talk about being romantic, there is no lifetime
value. It's all day or night.
Mark: This is important because we actually, we realize the cultural difference with this,
which is when the friends talk about romance, they're talking about attraction and basically
before sex. Whereas when they talk about being romantic, that's kind of the after sex bonding
time.
Alex: And the reason why we were talking about that, it's because in my philosophy, I always
say if you want your man to chase you or to be romantic, you need to be a challenge because
as human, we value what we don't have. Exactly. So it's really important for you to understand
if your man is not romantic, if he's, your man is not fighting for you or if he's not
chasing you, it's just because it lost the attraction. He lost the fact that he needs
to attract you and he needs to fight for you. So my tip number one will be to always work
on yourself. Rebuild yourself, be confident, do some actions for your personal life and
you're going to something that you love to talk, the natural distance just because your
life is good, just because your life is exciting. That's where you will be about to make sure
this guy will chase you. Now, when we talk about being romantic, something that I've
learned with my experience and all the people that I've coached is when we are in a relationship,
we forget about re-attracting each other. That's why I want you to make sure that there
would be a rule inside your relationship that every week or every two weeks you will have
to go on a date. It could be new activities, something that you have never done before.
Exactly. It could be to just dress up and make sure you, we spent some time to rebuild
this attraction and make sure the guy will be romantic by thinking, okay, what shirt
should I wear? How can I make sure I'm wearing something that she will like? If your man
is thinking like this, that means he's chasing you. If not, that means he's not paying attention
to the relationship, which is really important.
Mark: It's really that ongoing attraction, isn't it, that that builds the motivation
through these positive experiences and through you being in your great place that first makes
a guy want to be more romantic again, that pulls him into, to have the motivation.
Alex: Yeah. And every time you spend some energy to try new activities, new experience,
every time you would just be yourself, be confident, then you will see this men, will
be chasing you. And when someone is chasing you, the woman take actions are just right
here. Now, I want to give you a tips that I've shared with some women that I've coached,
a tip that something would disturb you. I would explain to you. So I've got this woman
and I told her, now you would be romantic. That means you would keep the door open. When
your men are we just walk in front of you. I want you to put your hand on his back. Why?
I want her to do some actions? Because I know that men need to step up after. So it's the
way you can elevate your standard. So if you want your men to chase you to be romantic,
start doing the first actions because then you can tell your man, you know what? I'm
not motivated by this relationship. I want more romanticism. I want more romance inside
this. And by doing the first actions, he cannot tell you nothing. So you will be in your position
to say what you want, which is really important.
Mark: So you're essentially setting an example. Alex isn't saying that you have to do everything
and you have to take it all on your shoulders, but you, you're setting an example to say,
Hey, this is the type of relationship I want to build. And then when you balance that out
with doing your own thing as well, it creates this really positive relationship experience
where you're building the romance and then this appreciation that the guy has when he's
got that space away from you. For him to want to do that more and step up to match that.
Is that right?
Alex: It's exactly this and it's really important as we talk also off the video, that something
that when I watch your video is like receiving. So when a man is romantic, when a man is doing
something good, you need to receive it and you need to tell him that this is what I want,
this is what I need. I love when you do this. So he would think that he has the lead.
Mark: This is amazing. I appreciate so much.
Alex: Exactly. This is really important because the man will feel that he has the leadership,
but the reality, you're just telling me what you want and it's really important. So you
want, if you want to keep him chasing you, you also need to value what he's doing. Most
of the time you will look at words, but Alex, you know, he didn't tell me some compliments.
He's not telling me that he loves me, but he's doing some other actions. When you need
him, maybe he's here or he's giving you some gifts of time when he can spend time with
his friends but not his with you. That's being romantic for men because we are doing a lot
of efforts for you and you need to value this. That's something really important.
Mark: Absolutely receive it. Give him back that high of appreciation that he wants because
it's like if your dog keeps bringing you the newspaper, but you, you know, you don't reward
it at all, eventually the dog stops doing it, right? But if you pat the dog, you're
like, Oh, you brought the newspaper, this is great. Every time, your dog's like, ah,
I can't wait to bring the newspaper again. Right? Men are the same. It's not to say we're
dogs, but you train us in how you want us to treat you and that reward system is so
important.
Alex: The last thing I want to say is don't be needy please. Because I have coached so
many women who lost themselves, lost their self confidence. Just put the men on a pedestal
and this is something that we have done a lot in our videos in French for me, in English
for you. It's like you really need to be focusing on becoming a natural challenge. Don't play
a game, but be yourself like you were in the beginning of the relationship.
Mark: Yeah. I love that advice. It's so important because when at the beginning of the relationship,
you know, what were you doing when that was all happening, the man was inspired. There
was that natural space going on, that natural challenge. And there was the man was wanting
to step up and meet your standards. So let him continue to do that. Do your own thing.
And as Alex has been talking about, been talking about when you are in, in your standards and
your space, the man's going to want to step up and meet that.
Alex: And this is the relationship that you want. You want a man that would be romantic.
You want to a man that will step up, that would chase you. So you need to also be the
woman you want to be. That's normal.
Mark: And as Alex says, don't be afraid to to tell him either and show him what you love
through appreciation and also by saying I love it when this, I love it when this and
that essentially trains him into the romantic behaviors that you love and that you like.
Cause it might be a little different to what his idea of romance is. You know, crossing
the love languages over as you've talked about in another video. So the communication elements
are important too.
Alex: That's true.
Mark: Alex, thank you so much for coming in, sir. Check out this guy's website and his
YouTube channel. The YouTube channel is phenomenal. You must subscribe to it. Literally, the best
person in all of France doing this cannot, yeah. Awesome, awesome to have him in here.
What's your website?
Alex: It's my French website at alexandrecormont.com and my US, US website, frenchrelationshipexpert.com.
Mark: Make sure you check him out. He's very, very worthwhile. Leave your thoughts, comments,
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Alex: Bye bye guys.