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skin saxaphone Dick Pilates Dungeons and Dragons where the dick is
the dice and your come is the seven fire attack wait plus
seven plus seven. dammit whatever you want to call it,
masturbation is a fact of life and today's topic.
Hello,
I'm Caitlin V, your a sex and relationship coach instagrammer
tick talker, youtuber human being I have a lot of things
going for me. I like to think about masturbation as a gift
from the cosmos, a way to experience momentary pleasure in
a world that is so often cruel, and painful. In other words,
life is suffering. But hey, at least we have masturbation and
come on we all do it men do it. Women do it. Your grandpa Frank
does it or at least he probably did just furiously jerkin his
way through the 40s. And we do it no matter what our
relationship statuses we hung out when we're single and when
we're in a committed relationship, but too much of a
good thing can start to cause significant issues with your sex
life. And an overabundance of self pleasure can start to cause
sexual issues like premature ejaculation, inability to
ejaculate even erectile dysfunction. So my dude, are you
adjusting your crotch turtleneck a little too often? Or a lot too
often? is it affecting your performance or your libido when
it comes to dating? Or if you're in a relationship having sex
with your partner? Or do you just find it easier to fap? Over
having sex because of performance anxiety or just
straight up laziness? If you answered yes to any of these
questions, do not worry. Today we are going to discuss why we
lean on masturbation as a sexual outlet and how to tell if it is
negatively affecting your relationship with sex,
particularly your physical and emotional intimacy with your
partner. But first, let's start with why we masturbate.
Obviously, it feels good. It is like a Mardi Gras parade
shooting out of your decor. And that is because it Jackie lating
releases oxytocin, which feels freakin excellent. Men also
masturbate to de stress like after a tough day to
disassociate from whatever they're dealing with in their
life, or just out of boredom. Also, when you're in a
relationship and sex is feeling bland or scarce, you could be
masturbating from sexual frustration. So I asked you to
consider are you leaning on masturbation as a crutch? Or as
a way to avoid dealing with issues or changes that need to
be made in your life? Think on that for a moment, we will
revisit now the bajillion dollar question is spanking your turtle
too much causing negative ramifications in your
relationship? Particularly when it comes to sex? It might be and
you might not even realize it. Maybe because you're still
imagining a cute tiny little turtle is getting spanked. Or
maybe you're too busy trying to open your personal Pringles can.
Here are the five signs to look out for. Number one, you've lost
interest in real sex. Sex again,
that's just too much power.
Why plays sports when I can just play Madden on my Xbox, you
know, number two, you lose chunks of time in your day, you
don't get things done or you miss out on important things.
You check your phone and suddenly it's 4pm and you've
been sitting there with your shorts around your ankles in
front of your laptop for like seven hours trying to look at
the same celebrities boob time to reel it in and put that
fishing pole away. Number three of five you obsess over
masturbation, you cannot get enough. You're distracted from
your daily tasks like you're on a work call. But all you could
think about is juggling your frosting tube, you are in
obsessive territory my friend. Same is true if the skin and
your penis starts getting damaged or sore that is a sign
that it is just too much. Number four of five. reaching an orgasm
with your partner during intercourse becomes difficult.
It's likely because you have taught your body that it can
only orgasm in one way with your hand around it and no one
else's. And number five, you are spending money on porn that you
don't have or engaging in riskier and riskier behaviors to
serve your habit, like masturbating in inappropriate
places or suddenly finding yourself descending into darker
more violent types of porn.
Now,
we should probably take a moment just to talk about porn feel
like we could have a big dramatic
effect
don't and don't pause Oh.
porn is the way that we outsource our eroticism. Sure,
it serves a purpose but it can easily become detrimental to our
sex. Life, if it starts to control how we engage in sexual
activity, porn is a shortcut to coming. It does all of the hard
work for us. You see, it takes a lot of effort and energy to get
your mind and body fully present to have sex, to be with your
partner to enjoy the sensations of your body and of that
experience. Whereas porn makes it easy to buttons and we're
there we're getting turned on, someone else has done the work
of fantasizing or thinking about sexy things to show us and we
just get to sit back and be entertained. Unfortunately, this
takes us outside of ourselves, puts all of our energy and our
focus onto the screen and prevents us from really dialing
into our bodies. porn is also very pervasive inside of our
lizard brain, which is the most basic hardware that we're
operating. It's the same thing that we have in common with cats
and dogs and lizards. And if you're having sex with your
partner, and you find yourself thinking of porn scenes, or
worse, you got to think about a specific porn scene to even
orgasm. That is a sign that you are jerking it too often. And it
is starting to cause a disassociation from your real
life, eroticism and intimacy. Lastly, there is a tendency
among porn users to view more and more aggressive porn over
time. And this is likely because of a switch in our brain that
connects sexuality and getting off with aggressiveness. And
once this switch gets tripped, we can actually lose a sense of
what our partner really wants and start to develop urges
beyond what she is comfortable with. I might be old fashioned,
but I don't think that face is actually what most women are
looking forward to, in having sex with their boyfriends. Call
me a prude. Oh, what does that sound a bonus? Number Six reason
or indication that you might be fapping it too often is that
fapping and ejaculating in particular takes a lot of your
body's resources. semen is a very, very nutrient dense thing
to make, as are all of the other fluids have ejaculate and it
takes longer and longer to replenish as you get older. So
well, Grandpa Frank could easily blast it all over the ceiling of
his 1947 Plymouth the Lux, it is going to take him a lot longer
to replenish while he's waiting for his applesauce at the
nursing home. And that's because calm is actually jam packed with
nutrients. And those nutrients tend to be the exact same
nutrients that are required for a healthy nervous system and a
healthy nervous system is required for just about
everything else that your body does. So there's an interesting
link between ejaculation frequency, and the actual
vibrancy of your life. You see unused semen gets recirculated
back into the body, which has been found to boost energy
workouts, and creativity. I made a whole video explaining the
bajillion benefits of semen retention. So be sure to check
that out. After we're done here. This is all to say that there is
a very, very, very compelling reason to limit your
relationship with masturbation, it serves you better and it can
serve a better relationship with
your partner,
whether you just started dating or you've been married for a
long time. Now, of course, I'm not saying that you should not
masturbate, we should all have a healthy sexual relationship with
our bodies. Like I said, in the beginning, masturbation is the
way that God makes up for having to deal with boogers. And that
feeling that you get when you can't really get your buffalo
clean after you've gone to the bathroom. Like all of the things
that makes life challenging and a never ending struggle as we
grind our way towards death. In those beautiful moments where we
get to self pleasure, all of that melts away and we get
connected to something bigger and more awesome than ourselves.
And there is definitely a time and a place. So take for
example, like say you're a single dude, and you live in
Montana in somewhere remote where it's really difficult to
meet women, and by all means shaking the devil's finger on
occasion is a healthy way to maintain a sexual relationship
with yourself and alleviate those carnal urges. However, do
not let masturbation keep you from seeking out a partner. It
is a nice temporary relief to orgasm when we're uncomfortable
or unsatisfied. But sometimes we need a little discomfort to
motivate us and help us to get out there. There's a lot to be
said about the men who limit the expulsion of their sexual energy
and save it for a sexual partner. So the next time that
you get an urge to get into your own pants, pause for a minute
and ask might this be better for me to save when I get into
someone else's pants instead? Also, if you are experiencing
jack deletion issues or delayed ejaculation with your partner,
please do not wait for it to go away on its own. Apply for help.
And the coaching program I designed specifically for men
like you. It's called high performance male. And in it we
address how to live as a high performance man, both in the
bedroom and in the boardroom. We talk about how to save your
sexual energy for your wife. Or if you're single, how to turn
that sexual energy into your secret dating sauce that makes
you more attractive to women and makes them want to do all kinds
of crazy things like lick your armpits and sniff your beard.
Please check it out the application link is in the
description below. And if you enjoyed this video or found
anything that I had to say helpful or if you think I'm
totally bullshit, and all you want to do is write in the
comments about how much you are just going to jerk it all day
every day, no matter what the crazy lady on the internet says
amazing. Do that. And while you're down there, make sure
that you are subscribed to this channel so that you can be the
best possible lover both to yourself and others. I think
you're the best. Thank you. I've been Caitlin beat I'll still be
human be when you come back here next week.