live everyday till bedtime.
if you can't stop thinking about the future you will always have the next thing to worry about.
if you're a college student for example you might be worrying about getting a degree.
"oh what if i fail to get my degree, this means i'm wasting my time and money right now"
"oh! or let's say i did get that degree, what if i can't find a job then"
most people's lives revolve around worring and it's draining them mentally and physically.
the only way out of it, is to live in what carnegie calls "day-tight compartments".
and it basicly means, you wake up, get out of bed
and worry only about what you are going to do at that particular day.
okey now i'm awake what's the first thing that i need to do ?
breakfest, i got my breakfest, done, what's the next step ?
i need to go workout finished working out?
go home, what's next step ? and that is it.
you live your life step by step.you don't worry about tomoroww
unless you are already there.
of course you have to set goals for the future and plan your life and all that.
but after you do set future goals. there is absolutely no meaning in worrying
about what will happen the next day.
the next year or the year after, it's a waste of time and energy.
i want you to wake up in the morning and think about how awesome it feels
to be alive for yet another day.
sereously, people has it way worse than you.
think about a person who died when he was 2 years old in the world war.
they haven't had the chance to see the world for a second
and you're just sitting there infront of your t.v
worrying about why the goverment isn't doing it's duties to fix your financial problems.
or why a politician said this bullshit instead of that bullshit.
i remember the time when i was in highscool.
i had a friend who's really in love with this girl
but he never talked to her.
so i encouraged the guy to man up and ask her out.
when she rejected him, he got pissed off.
but then we grew up and after 4 years the guy is still thinking about the same girl.
and worrying about how awkard it felt when he got rejected.
it's hilarious, he is living in the moment, but mentally he's stuck in the past
and i'm like hey come on, you can find another girl.
but he just can't let go of it.
you can feel that he wants to go back in time and change that girl's reaction to be able
to feel good again.
but it's imposible. in life we are faced with similar circumstanses
an incident, a harsh breakup, people making fun of you.
and most of these are things that we have no control over
you cannot control what people think of you, what people will do for you
or how people will react to you.
the only thing you can do about it is to ask yourself "do i accept this or not?"
if not, then you'll be emprisoned in the past, you'll will be worrying about that event for
the rest of your life.
until you are ready to accept what happened and to accept the fact that you couldn't do
anything about .
when am working on something that requires alot of focus, time and energy
i find myself not worrying much about future problems.
i do believe that worrying is just a waste of time, and that time wasted in worrying
could've been invested in working on your business, your studies or whatever you're into
the idea here is to "get busy. keep busy. it's the cheapest kind of medecine there is"
from what i know, the brain is unable to hold two thoughts at the same time.
so if you're dedicating most of your spare time to cultivate a skill or work on a project
you're brain will automaticly filter out all unnecessary thoughts not related to the task at hand.
you're still going to worry but your worries will be related to the task .
and so the worried person must lose himself in action.
so far we saw three principles you can apply to fix your worries :
number 1:
don't think about what will happen in the future
nor ponder about what happened yesterday
the future is ruled by randomness and we are so inclined to expect the worst from it.
live everyday till bedtime.
experience every moment of your life to it's fullest.
the second one is to co-operate with the inevitable.
if you are aware that you have no control over a situation.
you have no choice but to accept the fact that you can't do anything about it.
and so let go of it.
if not, the worries and the resentment will accompany you till the day you die .
and the last one, is to lose yourself in action, in service for a purpose.
find something that you really enjoy doing and go on a journey to build that skill
and make something big out of it.
do so in a way. you become soo immersed in the process of accomplishing that goal.
to a point, you feel like you have no time to waste, worrying about petty little problems.