hello our first video in our self-care summer series I'm so excited to start
off with the conversation of self-love because self-care is awesome and we're
gonna have a great self-care summer it all starts with self-love the only
reason why you would ever take care of yourself stems from the fact that you
love yourself when you love yourself then you'll take the time out of your
day to nurture your body your mind your soul and you will focus on yourself you
will set boundaries that are needed for yourself you will allow yourself to
experience the things that fulfill you you will indulge yourself in a self-care
activity because you care about yourself let's take a second before I dive into
all my experiences and what I do know to practice self-love and to learn how to
love myself more and grab yourself a cup of tea and get cozy and I want this
video to feel like a really big hug so I want you to feel really comfy and cozy
while we chat because I'm feeling very comfy and cozy so I want us to feel that
together learning self-love has completely changed my life
I did a lot of things when I was younger mostly that were because I gave myself a
lot of negative self-talk I also didn't love myself enough to allow myself to
experience the things that I deserved so I would allow myself to be part of toxic
relationships I wouldn't set boundaries for myself I would overanalyze myself in
many conversations to the point where like after I would be at dinner or lunch
with somebody I would overanalyze everything that I said and I would think
that I said most ridiculous things and I finally
reached a point in my life where I feel inner peace and that's like the coolest
feeling in the world and I am not perfect at this every single day at all
like there are definitely times where I'm like giving myself negative
self-talk or I do overanalyze something that I said so I'm not perfect at it
every day but for the majority of my life I'm like like if I look at it as a
whole on a daily basis I'm like yo like I'm I think I like found it because I
literally don't care anymore like one what people think of me too um about
being caught up in toxic relationships like I'm so good at being like nah and
nicely just kind of being like I don't need you in my life
but that's because I found the love within myself right because I'm like
okay I love myself enough to not put myself through these things I also
suppress myself a lot before I was able to love myself enough I didn't put
myself out on the internet for years of dreaming it up because I was like oh my
god people are gonna think I'm so weird what are you even gonna think of me why
do I think I should put a video on the Internet
what do I have to say that people want to hear I didn't even have full
self-love the first time that I put my self on the internet but I developed it
over time you don't have to be in a perfect place to do the things that you
want to do I think that's really important I think that you need to know
that if there's something in life that you want to do but you don't feel a
tremendous amount of self-love and confidence and that's okay like that's
the time to to seek out scary things that are completely out of your comfort
zone because through those experiences you will learn things there will be hard
times there will be good times there will be many different experiences that
you have but putting yourself out there and
also just doing things that you wouldn't normally do whether it be like you're
wanting to travel um you want to go study abroad but you're scared you don't
know like are you gonna make friends are you gonna be lonely what are all these
things like I'm not just talking about uploading a video to the internet
because there's this goes in every single direction if you want to start a
business if you want to travel the world if you want to try out for a soccer team
whatever it might be like it's so easy to not do those things because you think
you're not worthy taking up space or you're not worthy of you don't have
anything to give you don't have anything to say and that's not true at all
because you are so unique you are the only you in this world there is
something that you offer that nobody else has the connection that you can
have with another human being or with a specific career or anything you are the
only person that can have that connection you are the only person that
will make that mark in the world so when people feel like they're not worthy of
specific experiences and they're not worthy of tackling and going after their
dreams that is one of the hardest things for me to ever hear because that is what
makes life and I'm going down a direction right now in this conversation
that's like more of like a motivation to go after your dreams but that all stems
from self love because you love yourself more when you're allowing yourself to
experience your passion because experiencing your passions can
be really scary at first but if you really push yourself and you're gonna
find love within yourself and I'm gonna get into actual steps that you can take
to experience more self-love but I think that having this conversation
first about like my experience is what it feels like how it can actually change
your life is a good way to just inspire you to seek out loving yourself more and
falling more in love with yourself self-love determines your life path so
how you feel about yourself is such a reflection about the people that you
allow in your life it's a reflection on what you allow yourself to do and
experience so it's so important it determines your mate support determines
the person you're gonna spend your life with or the person that you're just
spending your life with right then it determines whether or not you achieve
your dreams because it is a reflection of whether or not you think you deserve
it whether or not you think you deserve to
live the life that you dreamed up whether or not you think that you
deserve to be in a good relationship with somebody who values you self-love
determines your strength it determines your boundaries the things that you say
like actually no that's not okay you can't do that you can't do that to me I
love myself enough to say no to put boundaries up I think this is a good
time to talk about the actual tools and the things that you can actually do to
learn to love yourself more because I can sit here all day and tell you
exactly how it makes me feel how it can change your life how it's changed my
life and those things are all good to just talk about but also I want to give
you guys something that you can take away so that you can learn to fall in
love with yourself more and you can learn that you're worth it so first and
foremost protect yourself love yourself enough to protect yourself and protect
is part of boundaries as well so if there is somebody in your life that is
not treating you right protect yourself from that person put up
boundaries that are needed to protect yourself from that person whether it be
family friends a romantic relationship think about the people in your life and
think about is this person bringing happiness to my life or they toxic and
really think about those kind of things because it's easy to blame yourself and
to put blame on yourself a lot and to think that you are the reasoning behind
them being angry with you all the time so really evaluating the protection that
you have on your heart is really important remember to forgive yourself
if there is anything in your life that you think about where you kind of give
yourself negative self-talk where you're like I can't like believe that I did
that a mistake that you made of some sort or irrational things a lot of the
time like we have irrational thoughts all the time as human beings where we
think things are our fault when they're not and we play situations in our mind
over and over and over again and we just need to let those things go we need to
forgive ourselves if we really think we made some sort of mistake or if we
really think something is our fault if we did something wrong in a friendship
or a romantic relationship or in a family relationship learn to forgive
yourself and if you really felt like you did something wrong maybe tell that
person what that was and and that you're sorry and to stop beating yourself up
about it because that is the number one reason why it is hard for people to find
self-love is because they're mad at themselves you can't love yourself when
you're mad at yourself about something so learn to forgive yourself and lastly
I think a really important thing is to live intentionally without your life
with good intentions and try to be the best version of yourself as much as
you can something that I've been really loving doing recently that I actually
posted on my Instagram a caption that said I'm trying to do every single day
something that makes me a better person and I mentioned this I think in my
organize your life video but I am going into every single day recently with the
intention of I'm gonna do something today even if it's the smallest thing
I'm gonna do something today that makes me a better person even if that's just
cleaning out the trunk of my car even if that is calling a family member I
haven't spoken to for a bit because through that you heal and you come
together you become a complete human being you have to seek out a purpose you
have to find your purpose and seek it out and go for it and give yourself some
slack sometimes because we're not always perfect and when you don't need to be
living life thinking like I need to be the best version of myself all of the
time because it's just not the way life is we're not always in the moment of
feeling clear and like mindful and like perfect in these moments it's just not
realistic but if we do set an intention for our life and for our everyday it's
incredible what type of changes you can make in your life if you just have a
good intention if you just have a purpose and if you just know how you
want to make people feel and if you know how you want to make yourself feel keep
that focus and if you stray away from it sometimes that's okay and say okay I
know what my focus in my I know that I have good intentions and I know my
purpose in life and I know and when I say purpose in life I don't
mean like you need to know exactly what you want to do with your life when I say
purpose right now I'm talking about knowing that you want to live a good
life and you want to be the best version of yourself
even if you take the smallest baby steps as long as you're doing one thing every
day that makes you feel like a better person or makes you feel just good you
are going to get there you are going to get to a point where all of a sudden
just like oh this feels good I have all of these little things that I've done
over the last year or six months or month have really come together to make
me feel at ease and that's where I'm at in my life right now and it feels
freakin good like I will tell you guys right now like inner peace and like
tranquility and like a clear understanding of the way you want to
live your life is awesome it's the best feeling and I want everyone to feel it
and I want to experience it with you guys and I want to be there when things
aren't always going great because they're not always going to be going
great and that's okay and my life isn't always going great but
if I go into everyday thinking okay I'm gonna live this moment even though it's
a hard moment I'm gonna try my best to live through this moment with the best
intentions that I possibly can then it's so much easier to get through because
you're just like okay this is it like this is a hard moment but like let's go
through it let's get through it and that's the most important thing living
with good intentions self-love isn't something that comes
naturally to all people that's okay we live in a world where we're constantly
looking at things that we're comparing ourselves to but it is something that
you can practice and you can't achieve when you teach your mind to go to
positive self-talk instead of negative self-talk because our minds just kind of
fall into what they're used to like our minds can just kind of go okay
well I know what this feels like so I'm just gonna go here all the time because
that's easy because my mind always goes there but if we teach our minds and this
is something that you can really practice through meditation and
meditation is something I'm going to talk about in this series but once you
can get your mind to go to a good place and fall into a good place as opposed to
a negative place then things become easier because our minds are based off
of muscle memory memories we react to memories if our mind starts to remember
what it feels like to sit in a like comfy like positive place and if our
minds learn how what it feels like to be mindful then our minds that have a
easier way at like getting back into that spa because it's the memory that
it's going based off it so I'll talk about meditation and mindfulness more in
this series this video specifically about how self-love can change your life
but all of these things as you will begin to notice and that you probably
already know go very hand-in-hand with each other all of them overlap and they
are all needed every part of self love and self care it's all within the
balance and it's balance that you create not balance that you find you have the
opportunity to create this life for you yourself you are the person who makes
the decisions on how your life is going to go how it's going to feel I'm gonna
have a conversation there I also wanted to mention I never want to sound preachy
at all to you guys I am just literally pouring out what is inside my heart and
my mind that I want to share with you guys I have never been somebody who was
super passionate about like math or science or like literally anything but
seeking out how to make life easier and better and feel good so this is
something that I'm really passionate about and that's why I can sit here and
just like spill it all out to you guys so I hope that you guys like it and I
hope that you guys are enjoying this and I'm so
excited because I get to see you guys in a day so that's awesome for this video I
want to leave you guys with a question I want to know what your biggest passions
in life are and I'm excited to read these comments because one of my
favorite things in the world is seeing or hearing people talk about the things
that they love in life so I want to know what makes you happy what like what can
see going what like you've just light up about I want to know what that is so
please let me know in the comments and I will see you guys very soon in the next
self-care summer I just like to hit my face instead of kissing you guys like
what was that that's what I meant to do okay bye okay bye am I good like now ah
deep breaths after all that long conversation I'm like this is what I'm
gonna do now and they go do you guys want to do it with me let's do it
together it feels so good like things just got weird but also so good okay