Career experts have weighed in on what they refer to as an unattractive yet
common habit that could ruin your chances of getting promoted,
possibly your chances of getting hired.
And it's called humble bragging, now,
humble bragging refers to making seemingly self deprecating comments that
actually draws attention to something you're proud of.
And want to, bring up in order to impress others, so
this video from Time magazine in 2018 explains
exactly how humble bragging works, let's watch.
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>> Was that a joke, was that satirical?
[LAUGH].
>> That video was amazing.
>> That sounds like the fake songs they make in,
episodes of Arrested Development or something.
What was that?
>> Okay, but okay, I loved everything about it,
from, the stock bureau footage to the weird cordy song.
But more importantly, the example of a humble brag that was provided, which is,
I hate that I look so young that even 19 year olds hit on me, like who says that?
>> That's a nuanced one, is that even a humble brag at that point anyway,
because I think we've all been there.
It's a universal experience, so let's not.
>> Yeah, 19 year olds hit on me all the time when I was 19, but nonetheless,
let's give you some.
>> In my Twitter DMs, there's a lot of 19 year olds from, like,
South Korea all messaging me, all just in the last year since Elon Musk took over.
I don't know what it is about that that made me so much more attractive, but
you can't argue with the results.
>> Can't argue with the results.
>> Which is that my identity has been stolen multiple times.
>> Okay, so Amy Morin, who's a psychotherapist and
author of 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do.
Told Fox Business that this common workplace habit comes across as
insincere and insecure to coworkers and bosses,
the person tends to sound more like a narcissist.
By pretending they're putting themselves down when really they're looking for
admiration.
It may make them less likely to get promoted or invited to engage in special
projects because people don't want to be around them.
And in the 2018 study that was mentioned in the video we showed you all,
the study's author noted that in an office setting,
we like to have our accomplishments recognized by our peers and bosses.
Which can lead to higher pay, promotions, recognition.
However, this is an ineffective strategy, says the researcher,
because your coworkers find it annoying, among other things, and
can see right through a humble brag.
People find it very insincere and it's not effective at all,
and it won't produce the desired effect.
I'm surprised that they even need to do a study on this, they did a study on it?
>> Yeah, I don't know if you can say it never works or whatever, but yeah,
I think people overestimate how coy they're being, and
everybody has a different level of ability to see through that.
But yeah, I just think generally it's also possible that people doing it knowing that
people will see through it, but
it's a more socially acceptable thing to do than actually openly bragging.
Like when people want to post, a hot picture on Instagram, so they put,
a caption to justify it.
They know that people see through that and that they just wanted to post the photo,
but it still is more socially acceptable with the caption.
>> Sure.
>> I don't know that people necessarily are being surprised by the fact that it
doesn't work.
>> Yeah, that's a good point, that's a good point.
Are you a big humble bragger?
>> I almost never need to.
>> I don't need to?
No, okay, what would a humble brag about not humble bragging sound like?
>> It sucks that my driveway is not long enough because I have so many really nice
cars that they don't all fit in and then they spill out into the street.
[LAUGH].
>> No, that would be unbearable.
So don't be a humble bragger.
Just be a straight up bragger, I think people like that more, right?
>> Or let your actions speak for themselves.
>> No, people don't notice, sometimes you do have to draw attention
to things that you're doing that are good, but find more clever ways to do it.
>> Yeah, maybe.
>> Yeah