All right. So Valentine's day is just a couple of days away. With that being said, I wanted
to make this quick video, this short message, this short reminder for you this time of year,
especially if you're going through a breakup. But first, before we get into all of that,
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We have Valentine's day coming up in a couple of days here. I did want to post this a few days
early, to give it some time to spread through YouTube and all of that. Hopefully you get a
few more eyes rather than just throwing it out there right on Valentine's day. But I did want
to let you know that I know it can be a tough time of year for a lot of folks, especially if you're
going through a breakup, a lot of people that watch this channel are going through breakups,
and I know you might not be in a great place right now. Maybe you're in a really low place. Maybe
you're thinking back on where things were a year ago or two years ago or previous Valentine's days,
and you're feeling kind of down. Maybe you've even been effected by this whole COVID-19 pandemic and
all the lockdowns and restrictions that might be in place where you live and it might be having you
feeling really down, really depressed, even. It's winter. And if you're not able to go out
and do things, if you're not able to meet up with people, you could understandably feel really low,
especially if on top of that, you're going through a breakup. But with all that in mind, I do want to
just remind you that we're all having this human experience here. We're all going through this
in some form or other, and I think a lot of people are not acknowledging or giving themselves credit
for the emotions that they're going through as the result of this pandemic and the restrictions
in place and all of that. I think a lot of us, especially in the beginning, we were like, "Okay,
is this like airborne Ebola here?" We were really anxious and nervous and we all had this low level
anxiety. And if you're a vulnerable person, if you have underlying symptoms and all of that stuff,
underlying conditions, as they say, you might be still legitimately concerned,
or if you take care of someone who might have underlying conditions or might be elderly or
something, you might be legitimately concerned. I think a lot of people have had this low level
of anxiety for the past year or so, just trying to hold it together through all of this, and I
think that you should acknowledge that if that is something you've been going through and say,
"I have been feeling really anxious. Yeah, I should give myself a little bit more compassion,
a little bit more kindness, a little bit more understanding through all of this.
I don't have to be so hard on myself. I don't have to be so tough on myself. I don't have to
feel guilty just because I'm having emotions, I'm going through things." Maybe even your breakup was
the result of some of these emotions that came up from the pandemic. And if you're not in a great
place right now, just remember that we're going through all of this. You're understandably feeling
lots of things. And as I said in a previous video, this is just one day out of the year.
This is just one day out of the year. It's an arbitrary day. It's a day that we have arbitrarily
decided is supposed to be about romance. If something happens on Valentine's Day for you,
great. If it's a wonderful, amazing, romantic thing, great, excellent. But if it doesn't happen,
don't be so hard on yourself. Don't look at it as like, "I'm somehow some sort of failure,"
or "I'm not good enough for love," or anything like that because again, as I said before,
as we've all learned this past year, a lot can change in a year and be open to the idea that
maybe by next Valentine's Day or by summertime or by your birthday or by springtime or by whatever,
you can open yourself up and welcome a miracle into your life. Welcome love into your life.
Welcome something great to happen into your life. I think we've seen a lot of really terrible things
that have come into the world over the past year. Let's open ourselves up to some great things
in 2021. Let that be okay. Let it be okay, and just remind yourself that you deserve to be loved
for who you are. There's nothing wrong with you. There's nothing broken about you. There's nothing
unlovable about you. There's nothing fundamentally flawed about you. You're just a human being having
a human experience, and everything that you're feeling and everything that you're experiencing
is totally valid. But let's take a step back and say, "How much of this is self-inflicted? How much
of this is just me putting expectations on myself, beating myself up?" All that sort of stuff, when
maybe you don't have to. And if you don't have to, give yourself permission to just take it easy,
be kind with yourself, be gentle with yourself. If you do spend this Valentine's Day alone,
do something nice for yourself, whatever that might be. Make a nice meal for yourself,
take yourself out for a date if you live somewhere where you can actually go out and do things,
and be caring and loving towards yourself. Do something that would be good for you, something
that you actually want to do, something that you enjoy yourself. One of the best Valentine's Days
I had was when I was single and it was a work day, so I finished work and then I went out
and I went to the gym and I exercised and I worked out and then afterwards, I went to this
little pub and I had a bite to eat and a beer. And then I went home and I did some artwork.
I was painting at the time and I burnt some incense and listened to the nice music
and it was a great time. It was just me by myself. I wasn't willing to fall into that
game of, "Oh, I'm single this year, that means nobody loves me. That means
I'm worthless. That means I'm a loser," or anything like that.
I was willing to say, "I'm going to make this about loving me, loving myself,"
and that is more important than some sort of external story that says, "I need to desperately
hook up with someone because it's February 14th or February 13th," or something like that.
Make this about you. Make it about a day that you can love yourself, if nothing else. So that's
what I wanted to remind you of. If you like this video, if you want to share it with other people,
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below as well too. But thanks so much. Please take care. And if you want to learn more about
holidays, Valentine's Day and all that, we have this video series over here. We also have this
video right here. But thank you so much. Please take care, and I'll talk to you next time.