I think the main thing for me was
I'm turning 30 and I still haven't met anyone
then two months ago one of my best friends and I
we admitted to ourselves that we had feelings for one another
and it was something that I did not see coming
my mother kept on saying it, people around me were saying it but I just
didn't see it
but you know it turned out that it was true and
honestly, like I'm very happy
I think, like, I finally know who I am, what I stand for you know, just kinda what I wanna do in life
its crazy cuz in your 20's and you know everybody's like in college and you think that you kinda know what you wanna do
but I feel like
now it's actually what I know what I wanna do, what my passions are what I'm looking forward to
By now I thought I'd be married
I thought I would have some kids maybe like have a house
have a job with benefits
So these are three of my best friends, all just turned 30 and as I decide whether I'll be doing that myself
I thought I'd talk to them about what's better and what's worse.
Comparing yourself now to your early 20's what's one thing that's better
well the main thing that's better is my self-confidence
like I feel so much better about myself now
I was a bit crazy in my early 20's, you know, I didn't trust anyone
and now I have like no issue I think when you find that person that you're kind
of meant to be with there's no stress, it's not hard it really isn't
and I feel like in my early 20s all of the issues were so different
like i had to work at it like oh are you gonna see me are you gonna make time for me now
with my husband it's like it just happens you know
what they say about you being 13 coming into your own
I feel that, I really do (Veralyn: like you feel it) I really do feel it
it's like life is beginning you know everything is coming together
you know what
in your 30's they do talk about joint pain and i'm like okay
I didn't know it'd be coming so early like I'm like
like my knees hurt, like, what's happening? Oh my god
I'm tired at like 11 p.m. and i'll be
out with my friends and it's 11 o'clock and I'm like
Why? Why God?
I feel like everything has died down a little bit. Like, just being home, like I enjoy, I love my daughter, I wouldn't change anything about it
but just kinda like trying to find myself again in a sense, cause now I'm a mom, I'm a wife
but then I'm still me so I need to figure out how to
you know bring that back up.
The one thing I'll tell myself is
it gets better, you're still gonna be awkward, you know, you're still gonna be
weird
you know, your ways but you're gonna find people that will love you for that, no matter what
I think to listen to my mother's advice. Ahh
Yeah, she was right about so many things
that I didn't see and I think that you kinda learn that as you
get older you see things, you're like I wish that I actually would've listened to my mom
cause she told me guys weren't worth it while I was dating them
that guy isn't gonna do anything for you and I didn't think she was right.
You know what, when people always tell you to be patient and to wait, you're like
no I want it now like I've been patient a long time
I mean come on, like, I'm thinking here it comes.
22, 25, 27 like, come on! I'm like what's going on here? You know?
But, you know, it's-it's true when you wait good things come to you
and I cannot, I think, it couldn't have happened at a better time.
Thinking about Veronica and Stephanie both
right, they're both in such different places right now and it all happened
like, within the last years
(Veralyn: ...year) like this this is 30 (Veralyn: ...this is 30.)
(Veralyn: So... does that make you optimistic?) It does make me
optimistic because Veronica put that out there she put out the this is 30.
She put out you know good things will happen to you this year and it happened for
her and it happened for
Steph and it will happen to me. I'm waiting for it.
You're right.
So whether I reach the big 3-0 still single, newly in love, or married.
Watching the journeys of my girls actually makes me
very excited for it.