You've probably heard the term alpha, alpha male, beta male.
This term gets thrown around a lot in the dating advice community.
I'm going to simplify this for you, give you some examples of what it means to be an alpha
male and explain to you why this is so important.
Listen up.
An alpha male is someone who exhibits a lot of masculine qualities.
Why is that important?
When we're talking about masculine and feminine qualities, men mostly have masculine qualities
and females have feminine qualities.
Of course, you can have a mixture of both.
What happens in terms of attraction is when you are exhibiting and displaying your masculine
qualities or your alpha traits, and you are with a woman, she gets a feel of these masculine
or alpha traits.
She has this opportunity to become attracted to you at this polarization that creates the
attraction.
That's why it's important.
What are some examples of being an alpha male?
One is this, you are calm in the face of stress.
I'm not saying you're not allowed to be stressed out.
I'm not even saying you're not allowed to have emotions that are running around inside
of you, but when there's stress, or something coming your way, you can act calm.
You can say, this is stressful, this is a tough fight, this is hard.
Then after, you are relaxing and thinking about this, I can solve the problem.
That is a very attractive quality and also good for you in general.
It's also a very masculine type of trait.
It says if you're this large rock in the middle of a hurricane, stress chaos is going all
around you, but you are firm on the ground.
You're stable, and you're able to embrace the storm.
This can be anything happening in your life, and the stress coming your way from work,
or any stress coming from a relationship.
This is an actual story of a client.
A coaching client that was working with me, he told me that when he was hanging out with
some women, there was this guy who was being a jerk to him, teasing him a little bit in
front of these girls, and trying to out alpha him by being wild little crazy, saying weird
stuff, trying to get the girls attention, all these things.
I told him, if you want to be the one to out alpha him, you need to be the one who's more
calm, who's more non reactive.
The person who's going to react, tense up, get defensive and crazy is the one who's reactive
and who is going into the chaos.
Instead, be calm, be non reactive, and don't play in to the stress and chaos around you.
Another one, we look at it two parts.
These are two different ones, but they go together, is being decisive and leading.
Let's break those down for a second.
Decisive is very obvious here, it's you being able to make decisions.
Can you make a decision and be firm with it?
In the courting process, when you're first meeting a woman, it's very attractive.
It's a very masculine quality to make a choice.
For example, when you guys are going to meet and have your first date, just make a choice,
pick a place and do it.
A lot of guys, they get freaked out to do this because you're like, what if she doesn't
like it?
What if she can't make it at that time?
Or what if it doesn't work out?
Here's what you got to do.
Don't worry about that.
You don't know how she's going to react.
Focus on making a decision.
If it doesn't work for her, if the time doesn’t work for her, she's a vegetarian or she doesn't
drink alcohol, whatever, you've decided to do those she doesn't, she will tell you.
She's not all of a sudden be like, you know what, forget this all together.
You're probably not being decisive because you fear rejection.
You want it all to go perfect.
Throw that out the window, be decisive.
The next one is leading.
When you're being decisive, goes along with leading.
Person who's the leader is making decisions.
More specifically, when it comes to leading and by the way, I talked about this in depth
in my Hooked program, which I'll put a link down below.
Go to GetHerHooked.com and I will teach you all about what it means to be the guy who
is leading, dominant, and decisive.
I'll give you a little breakdown right now.
When it comes to leading, you're the one who's making the decisions, but you're also being
the one to progress the interaction further.
Don't wait for her to make the decisions.
Don't wait for her to make the plans.
Don't wait for her to lead.
She wants you to lead her, that means that you got to be the one to ask her on the date,
be the one to go for the kiss, and be the one to advance sexually.
You’re the one who's taking control, so be decisive and lead.
Last, I talked about this a lot in the channel, but I always have to repeat myself because
this is an important one.
Not being needy.
Non neediness is an alpha trait.
It means that you don't need anything to survive to support yourself.
You have everything you need.
Showing neediness means you're texting the girl all the time.
You're trying to get her attention all the time.
You're always trying to spend time with her.
She's not responding quick enough, you're getting upset, you're worried or you're jealous.
These things are signs of emotional weakness.
It's okay that you might be thinking some of these things, it's normal, but how are
you going to react when the time comes?
Are you going to react needy?
Or are you going to take a more stoic stance and say, I recognize in my head, I might be
jealous, worried, thinking something's going on, and might be needy.
Let's not exhibit those qualities.
That's not going to get you anywhere.
It's going to show that you are not being able to handle yourself.
Make sure that you're not exhibiting traits of neediness.
You will be more represented as an alpha male.
Take some of this stuff, think about it.
Think about how it applies in your life, where you are going through the dating process and
meeting women, really crucial stuff here.
If you want to learn more about how to get some of these alpha male traits to be part
of your life, be a part of you to insert them in your brain.
You can do this.
You can become more of an alpha to attract a woman.
I want you to check out GetHerHooked.com, that's where I have the whole program called
Hooked that teaches you how to embody this.
Check it out.
I'll see you on the next video.