Hey Dan here and in this video we're going to get into some advice for INFP
relationships and I'm gonna share tips for personal and business relationships,
this applies to both and it's something that's going to make a really big
difference in how you connect with those around you and how those around you can
understand you and, therefore, make your life a lot easier. Now if you're new to
the channel my name is Dan I'm the author of way too many books the creator
of ENFP Unleashed and The Free Freelancer and the mission here dreams
out in the world is to help you become the best version of yourself all while
creating the most awesome life possible for you and those you love now as an
INFP you have so many cool things about you
I personally am an ENFP we connect on a lot of levels we have a lot of
similarities and I work with a lot of infps and when you are given the
opportunity to use your creativity and to be yourself there is so much you can
accomplish in so much you can do but sometimes because you are such a rare
type it can become easy to get pulled into other people's way of doing things
to think that you have to conform or be like other people and this is where
things can start to go wrong one thing that INFP is who succeed and are
generally happier do is accept themselves is come to grips with this is
Who I am the good and the bad and in accepting yourself you're able to adjust
your life based on who you are and based on what will energize you what will
drain you and what will overall allow you to be more successful whatever
successful is for you let me give you an example being out with people can be a
completely different experience depending on your type right there's
certain types that can be out with people all day every day seven days a
week and that is what packs them full of energy there's people like myself enfps
where I need to be around people sometimes it energizes me it excites me
it's fun but I also need some alone time and then there's other types like infps
where you do like people you like connecting
you have a great sense of empathy but you also need a lot of time alone to
recharge and sometimes this can create conflicts because you could be meeting
up with a group of friends who are more extroverted types and there they have a
six seven eight hour day plan together and after a couple hours you are drained
and you want to be alone now if you are open with your friends and your friends
get to know who you really are and they'll realize hey this person like
baby needs some time alone they're going home it's nothing to do with us it's
just who they are cool we'll see you again in a few days but if you sort of
hide it because you're trying to be like your friend one of two things will
happen you'll stay out longer than you probably
should with everyone and end up exhausted at the end of it and totally
drained or you'll make up some excuse to leave or just kind of go and people
might interpret that as rude they might think that you're leaving after a couple
hours because you don't like their company or you have other plans or
something like that which is of course totally not the case so as you may
already know if you are subscriber here honesty is the best policy being honest
with yourself about who you are and being honest with your friends
colleagues or partner about who you are and what your needs are continuing with
this theme it's really important just to understand and this is something that I
have to work at a lot as well as an ENFP is other people don't have a crystal
ball maybe the technology will come at some point for mind-reading but it is
not here yet and you have such a complex inner world there's so much going on for
you inside and sometimes we can fall into the trap of assuming our experience
is what not only other people's experience might be similar when
sometimes it's completely different but we might assume that someone who loves
us who cares about us is in our lives should know what we're feeling or what
we're thinking and this is a dangerous road to go down because that often won't
be the case and that's the start of many disagreements many fights is we assume
someone knows what we're thinking and maybe
someone else because we don't actually tell them what we're thinking of what
we're feeling they have to make assumptions about that and they get it a
bit wrong and we think they have it a bit wrong another way and then suddenly
things go to hell because there's just terrible miscommunication and it can be
tough to open up and to actually share maybe your vulnerabilities or how you're
feeling or what you're thinking because it can risk rejection it can risk some
kind of confrontation and again it's just being vulnerable with other people
which isn't always the easiest thing to do but if you do that you create the
opportunity for other people to actually understand what you're going through
and make adjustments to their behavior to their communication to their actions
to connect with you in a lot better way and maybe change how things go to make
it easier for you you know in the workplace
if you always go along with what your boss or colleagues expect of you and you
don't ever push back and say hey actually this is what works best for me
I don't really work well that way I need things to be this way a bit more if you
never give that push back then how do you expect them to know that that's what
you need and you basically will just create an environment that does not
support you by going along with other people's assumptions so you've got to
change the belief that other people will know what's going on for you and
practice communicating what you're feeling what you're thinking and what
you actually want and if you do that you'll find that people are a lot more
understanding and empathetic or at least sympathetic at whether or not they
understand you then you would ever expect and once you understand yourself
and express to other people you know what you're going through and what you
need you'll be really surprised by what you end up getting and that's a great
start to having a lot healthier relationships having more fulfilling
relationships and just generally life going a lot smoother and things being
easier if the people you have relationships with understand you really
well then things are going to go a lot better and you're going
to burn a lot less calories a lot less mental power dealing with conflict and
communication issues then you would if you sort of lived just on your inside
and assume people either wouldn't accept you if you were to share
who you really are or what you're really going through or if you just assume that
other people really understand who you are and what you're going through and
then don't actually communicate that with them so on that really rough umbly
end of the video thank you for watching if you're new to the channel consider
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