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>>> HEY
>>> HEY EVERYONE, WELCOME BACK TO THE SHOW.
EVERYONE IS EXPERIENCING SOME
SORT OF STRESS DURING THESE
UNCERTAIN TIMES BUT WHEN IT
NEGATIVELY IMPACTS THE ENTIRE
FAMILY UNIT THAT CAN HAVE A
LASTING EFFECT.
LASTING EFFECT. CHRISTINE RECENTLY SPOKE WITH
PSYCHIATRIST AND AUTHOR DR.
SUVRAT BHARGAVE ABOUT HOW TO
HELP. CHECK THIS OUT.
>> DR. B I'M SO HAPPY TO BE
SPEAKING TO YOU AS ALWAYS IT IS
SO GREAT TO GET YOUR INSIGHT
DURING THESE REALLY CHALLENGING
LAST FEW MONTHS.
I LOVE THAT TODAY WE ARE
TALKING ABOUT SOMETHING WE'VE
ALL EXPERIENCED I'M SURE, IF YOU
ARE HUMAN YOU'VE EXPERIENCED IT
BUT I DIDN'T KNOW THERE IS A
FORMAL INTO IT AND WE ARE
TALKING ABOUT FAMILY BURNOUT,
WHAT IS THAT EXACTLY?
>> THANK YOU FOR HAVING ME,
THIS IS AN IMPORTANT TOPIC AND
DURING THIS PANDEMIC THERE ARE
SO MANY CONSEQUENCES AND
RAMIFICATION OF THE SITUATION, THE MEDICAL PEACE AND THE
FINANCIAL ASPECT AND THE SOCIAL
ISOLATION BUT WHAT I'VE SEEN IN
MY PRACTICE SO MUCH AND REALLY
EVEN IN MY SOCIAL CIRCLE IS
BEING TOLD IT IS TAKING A TOLL
ON OUR EMOTIONAL WELL-BEING.
KIDS HAVE BEEN OUT OF SCHOOL
AND THEY WANT TO BE ABLE TO
SOCIALIZE LIKE THEY'RE USED TO,
WE WANT TO SOCIALIZE LIKE WE
ARE USED TO AND ALL OF THAT IS
PILING UP.
PILING UP. I THINK WE ARE AT A REALLY
INTERESTING POINT WITH THE
PANDEMIC WHERE WE CAN LOOK BACK
AND CLEARING THE REMEMBER HOW
DIFFERENT OUR LIVES LOOKED JUST
A
A SHORT
A SHORT WHILE AGO BUT WHEN YOU LOOK AHEAD IT SO HARD TO
IMAGINE WHEN IT'S GOING TO END
AND WHAT IT'S GOING TO
LOOK
LOOK LIKE. ALL OF THAT IS TAKING A TOLL TO
THE POINT WHERE PEOPLE ARE
FEELING FATIGUED, WHAT WE ARE
CALLING FAMILY BURNOUT.
>> LET'S TALK ABOUT SOME OF THE
WAYS WE CAN RECOGNIZE WE ARE
EXPERIENCING FAMILY BURNOUT.
I HAVE TO BE, I DON'T HAVE TO
BE A BRAIN SURGEON TO REALIZE
THAT ONE OF THE SYMPTOMS MIGHT
BE JUST BEING SHORT TEMPERED
LIKE YOU ARE JUST KIND OF
GETTING ON EACH OTHER'S NERVES.
>> THAT IS DEFINITELY A SIGN
AND A LOT OF PEOPLE ARE FEELING
A DEEP LEVEL OF FRUSTRATION
WHICH CAN MAKE YOU FEEL MORE
IRRITABLE.
IRRITABLE. THAT SAME FRUSTRATION MIGHT
HAVE THE OPPOSITE EFFECT AND
MAKE YOU FEEL MORE
DISCONNECTED.
DISCONNECTED. PEOPLE WHO ARE NUMB AND ALMOST
CHECKING OUT FROM THEIR
FAMILIES, THAT COULD BE AN
ISSUE.
ISSUE.
ISSUE. ALSO WHAT PROBABLY GETS THE
CONVERSATION GOING IN MY
PRACTICE MORE THAN ANY OTHER
SYMPTOM IS PEOPLE ARE SAYING
THEY ARE EXHAUSTED.
IT'S AMAZING TO ME, OUR MINDS
AND BODIES ARE SO CONNECTED SO
WHEN
WHEN WE
WHEN WE ARE EMOTIONALLY DRAINED WE ARE PHYSICALLY EXHAUSTED.
SO PEOPLE ARE EXHAUSTED RIGHT
NOW.
NOW.
NOW. ALSO
NOW. ALSO PEOPLE ARE DESCRIBING
HAVING A GENERAL SORT OF LOWER
MOOD.
MOOD.
MOOD. THANKFULLY IT IS NOT FULL-BLOWN
DEPRESSION BUT PEOPLE ARE USING
WORDS LIKE I'M FEELING MORE
BLUE, FUNK IS A WORD PEOPLE
SAY, I'M KIND OF IN A FUNK.
SLEEP PATTERNS ARE CHANGING FOR
PEOPLE, SO BE REALLY CAREFUL
ABOUT IT AND BE ON THE LOOKOUT
FOR ANY KIND OF ADDICTIVE
BEHAVIORS.
BEHAVIORS. ARE YOU DRINKING MORE THAN
NORMAL?
NORMAL?
NORMAL? ARE YOU SHOPPING ONLINE MORE
THAN YOU NORMALLY WOULD?
FOR KIDS ARE THEY GAMING ALL
THE TIME?
THE TIME?
THE TIME? THAT COULD BE A SIGN OF FATIGUE
AND REALLY WHAT YOU JUST SAID
IN THE BEGINNING, IF THERE IS
MORE CONFLICTS IN YOUR FAMILY,
YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER OR
BETWEEN PARENT AND CHILD OR
BETWEEN SIBLINGS, THOSE ARE
SIGNS OF FATIGUE AS WELL.
THOSE ARE THINGS TO LOOK OUT
FOR.
FOR.
FOR. >>
FOR. >> YES, I WILL SAY, ONE THING
YOU ARE SAYING THAT RESONATES
WITH ME, WE'VE BOTH ALWAYS BEEN
GREAT SLEEPERS BUT AS WE GET
OLDER THAT CHANGES A LITTLE BUT
WE HAVE TWO SMALL BUSINESSES
THAT WERE SHUT DOWN AND HE IS
STRESSED.
STRESSED.
STRESSED. HE IS WAKING UP NOW AT 4 AM AND
I WORRY ABOUT HIM BUT I KNOW
THAT FOR
THAT
THAT IS
THAT IS GETTING UP EARLY AND TRYING TO THINK OF ALL THE WAYS
THAT HE CAN PREPARE OUR FAMILY
FOR WHAT IS TO COME, FOR THE
UNKNOWN.
UNKNOWN.
UNKNOWN. SO I DO WORRY ABOUT HIM BUT I
ALSO HAVE TO LET HIM DO
WHATEVER IT TAKES TO FEEL LIKE
HE IS GETTING THINGS
ACCOMPLISHED DURING THIS TIME,
BECAUSE WE'VE NEVER SEEN
ANYTHING LIKE THIS.
SO IT'S REALLY JUST SO
CHALLENGING.
CHALLENGING. WOULD YOU SAY THERE IS ANYBODY
MORE AT RISK OR ARE WE ALL JUST
KIND OF AT RISK BEING THAT WE
ARE ALL GOING TO THIS?
>> WELL, NOT EVERYONE IS GOING
TO HAVE THIS HAPPENING, THERE
ARE SOME PEOPLE WHO NEVER
THOUGHT THEY WOULD FEEL THIS
WAY WHO ARE FEELING THIS WAY
BUT THERE ARE OTHER PEOPLE WHO
NOT.
NOT. ONE
NOT. ONE OF THE THINGS WE TALKED
ABOUT A LOT ON THE SHOW, THE
PROFESSION THAT'S OUT THERE, IF
YOU ARE SOMEONE WHO SETS UP A
HIGH STANDARD FOR YOURSELF AND
THINK SHE WILL GET IT RIGHT
EVERY TIME THEN BE CAREFUL, YOU
ARE SETTING YOURSELF UP TO FEEL
BURNED OUT.
BURNED OUT. ALSO PEOPLE WHO BEFORE ALL THIS
HAPPENED NEW THEY WERE MORE
PRONE TO GETTING ANGRY EASILY,
EVERYONE HAS A DISPOSITION AND
SOME PEOPLE TEND TO GET MORE
FRUSTRATED, THEY ARE MORE HIGH
RISK FOR BURNOUT.
SINGLE PARENTS AND PEOPLE WITH
NOT ENOUGH SOCIAL SUPPORTS ARE
CERTAINLY AT RISK.
LOTS OF FAMILIES WHERE THERE IS
AT LEAST ONE CHILD WITH A
SPECIAL NEED, A PHYSICAL
DISABILITY OR EMOTIONAL NEED OR
DEVELOPMENTAL DELAY, THEY ARE
MORE AT RISK.
I WOULD SAY PEOPLE WHO HAVE
ESSENTIAL JOBS EVEN IF YOU WORK
FROM HOME, THERE IS AN ADDED
PRESSURE WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE
EVERYONE IS COUNTING ON YOU, SO
ALL OF THAT CAN BUILD UP AND
LEAD TO
>>
>> ABSOLUTELY. DR. B WE ONLY HAVE ABOUT 30
SECONDS LEFT, PLEASE TRY OUT
SOME WAYS WE CAN APPROACH THIS
AND HIT IT HEAD-ON?
>> FIRST OF ALL START WHERE YOU
ARE, COME PREPARED TO TALK TO
FAMILY, DECIDE WHAT IT IS
THAT'S CAUSING THE PROBLEM AND
ADDRESS IT, LET GO OF
PERFECTION BECAUSE THERE IS NO
PERFECT PARENT.
PERFECT PARENT. TAKE BREAKS BECAUSE THIS IS
LIKE WORKING FULL-TIME AND
OVERLOADS HER TAKE BREAKS AND
FIND ALONE TIME AS WELL AS GOOD
FAMILY QUALITY TIME.
SLOW DOWN A BIT AND STEP BACK
FROM YOUR THOUGHTS, TAKE A DEEP
BREATH AND REALLY CREATE YOUR
SAFE CIRCLE.
SAFE CIRCLE. FIND YOUR CIRCLE OF PEOPLE.
THERE IS NO ONE OUT THERE WHO
IS STRUGGLING A LITTLE BIT AND
IT'S THE RIGHT THING TO DO TO
REACH OUT AND BE THERE FOR
OTHER PEOPLE.
OTHER PEOPLE. THAT'S THE TAKE AWAY FOR SURE.
>> THANK YOU SO MUCH DR. B, WE
NEED YOUR SENSE OF CALM AND
YOUR RATIONAL THOUGHT AND
SOLUTIONS DURING THIS TIME.
I SO APPRECIATE YOU.
>> THANK YOU CHRISTINE, I'M
HERE FOR YOU.
>> THANK YOU.
DR. B. HE'S JUST THE BEST HE
REALLY IS.
REALLY IS. BUT I CAN'T REALLY RELATE TO